(no music) #1266 Q&A Friday - Let me bore you to sleep (10th January 2025)

Hello and welcome to Q&A Friday. It's as deep as I go. Q&A Friday.

That's not the first time I've said that. It's as deep as I can go. My name is Jason Newland.

Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes. And my website is jasonnewland.com. It's by far the best website that I currently have. And there's a lot of stuff on there.

Lots and lots of stuff. First of all, it's pretty much my podcast. Well, it is my podcast.

I realized that my listeners listen at various different places, whether it be Apple Music or Apple Podcasts, rather, or Spotify or wherever. But to get the most up-to-date recordings and to be sure, definitely, you know, if for any reason you're thinking, well, he hasn't, hasn't updated anything in a week, there's a chance I might just not have updated or made a recording for a week. That's quite rare for me.

So go to my website, refresh it, just make sure it's not stuck on the old, you know, make sure it's up to date, like I just did then. And I just went on to my website and it was stuck on Q&A Wednesday whispers number 1264. Actually, I refreshed it and it gave me 1265 podcast apps.

Let me boys sleep 9th of January 2025. And today is number 1266. 10th of January 2025.

So yeah, that is my podcast. That's my main podcast. That's where all my up to date recordings will be just in case for whatever reason, the I'm not really sure how it works.

Well, I kind of know how it works. But sometimes the apps don't update with the latest recordings occasionally. And on there on my website, you can play them you can also increase the speed.

Or you can, can you decrease the speed? No, it doesn't allow you to decrease it. Why would anyone want to decrease the speed. But you can increase the speed if it's going way too slow for you.

One point. Oh, no one 0.75. Yeah, I guess that is decreasing, isn't it? You can also download you can share, you can affect the volume on the individual recording, you know, so lots of things you can do. You can also jump forward 30 seconds, rewind 10 seconds.

It also tells you the size of the recording the size if you were going to download it. So for example, the music 10 hour version of number 121,265. The latest recording would be 269.77 megabytes.

Or if you downloaded the one without music, it's 35 megabytes and 24 centimeters or whatever it is. 35 megabytes for an hour and a quarter. It's not it's pretty good, actually.

And also, also, on the off, well, I mentioned this yesterday, but I mentioned it again. I have gone through the internet, I've gone through the apps, and I've managed to find 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10,11,12,13,14,15,16,17,18,19,19 different places 20 including YouTube, where you can listen to my podcast episodes. So yeah.

So if you click on one of those, they're in the in the menu of the of the website. So for example, click on Apple podcasts, or classic Lumen, let's go to Lumen area. If you go to Deezer, let's go to Deezer.

So hypnosis is sleeping deeply, Let Me Bore You To Sleep. Jason's bedtime story time, let me bore your pain away. Sleepy boring objects, Q&A Friday, relaxation for stress and panic attacks, stress and pain relief, relax and sleep hypnosis daily.

Stop smoking hypnosis, stop now biting and chronic pain hypnosis. The deep sleep whisper is not there, I need to update that. So that just gives you an idea.

And you click on any of those links, the the full link addresses underneath which you can click. So if you wanted to just copy, copy it for another time, you could. So it's not like it's just a piece of text you click click on.

So if the link doesn't work, at least you know where you're going. And yeah, and that takes you to wherever it is. If you're opening it up on your phone, and you're already a member of you know, Deezer, it might, it might give you the option of like, do you want to listen on your podcast host on the app or do you want to listen on the website.

So it's pretty good. Also, on the website, got a dog in the background moaning as usual. I've got my Facebook group link, which is the Jason Newlands boring group, which you can join if you like.

I've got a link for podcasts, which just lists all the different podcasts. And it just takes you directly to those podcasts, which are okay. I need to update that as well.

I need to update that. And there's also playlists, which is something I'll put quite a lot of work into a couple of weeks back, where I've broken up the recordings into 50 sections of 50. So for example, the Let Me Bore You To Sleep, I've got one to 50, 51 to 100, and all the way up to 1201 to 1250.

And they're all broken up into playlists, which you can click on, there's an embedded playlist in there. So just it's easier to manoeuvre because it's just 50 recordings to go through. This will be updated and it'll be a different, there'll be a different way of doing it in the future.

But right now, that's how it is. And that's it. I've also got my YouTube channel, which is at Jason Newland, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

It's yeah, every time I release a new recording, I make a 10 hour version of that video for a video. But it's just no music. And after the first 10 seconds, it's a dark screen, which means you can listen in bed and not be disturbed by the light.

Plus it's because it's 10 hours long, you're not going to be you're not going to be like two hours and one hour in and suddenly a light comes on or anything like that. What I do, I've got my phone set up when I'm on YouTube, I have it set up so that I can't be disturbed automatically, can't have any phone calls or text messages or any notifications whatsoever when I'm on the YouTube app.

I just find that useful.

That's just a personal reference. Okay, right. So that's pretty much everything I think.

So today, I have how many do I have? I just want to say thank you to Ben for your kind PayPal gift. Thank you, Ben. I actually did a recording Q&A whisper because I know Ben likes to whisper ones and I thought I'd do one as a special one off.

And Ben wrote, I've just got into bed about to live my dreams listening to a whisper while falling asleep. Thank you, Jason. Nice finish to end my day.

So I just wrote. Oh, yeah, he posted later. I didn't get past the first question.

So I don't. I'm not sure what I said in the recording. But I'm pretty sure I answered the questions.

I think I did. I've only got three questions replied for today's Q&A Friday or this week's Q&A Friday. I did get a message left on last week's post.

So I think that was question as well. Two I've got. Okay, so I'll start with those first.

Right, I'm going to drink a water first. I've been watching The Penguin. Not a penguin, but you know, the TV show The Penguin.

It's good. It's really good. I don't know why it's an 18.

If I'm honest with you, because it's new. I just it. It doesn't seem any different from anything you'd normally see on a 15.

But it is, you know, it's a good, good, good show is very well done. It's a it's put together. I mean, it's really it's so good that the idea of anyone else playing The Penguin in a movie just seems like no.

It's weird. Because I think Danny DeVito played The Penguin didn't he in the old 90s Batman series of movies. But there's something like with the Superman, the TV show Superman or the TV show The Flash or the TV show.

A lot of those TV shows, they just they don't use the same stars in the movies. Generally, while they didn't with The Flash or Superman. You know, Superman and the Flash and Lewis, Louise.

But if DC were going to make a Penguin movie. I just can't, I can't see them not making it with him. Colin Farrell.

I mean, you wouldn't notice him behind the mark, you know, with the makeup on. They might not need to make a movie to be fair. I mean, if the if the TV shows is really popular, which I imagine it is, there's probably more money coming from that than making a movie.

I'm sure there's more money came out of Game of Friends than they could have done. Or the Sopranos, things like that. It didn't need to make movies today, because they were so popular.

I don't know, maybe, but if they do make a movie, I think they should use him. I don't have any investment in the game, to be honest. I'm I'm not actually a movie producer.

I know it's hard to hard to believe I'm not. So I'm going to start off with Brittany, who Brittany and Ken both posted questions on last week's Q&A Friday. And one was three days ago, almost two days ago.

And I, I didn't post the new one until I think two days ago, the new like, request for questions. So, so thank you for your questions. I'll start with Brittany.

What is your most prevalent virtue? Okay, what is a virtue? I have to look that one up. My initial answer is nothing. I don't have any high moral standards.

Nope. A quality considered morally good or desirable in a person. Nope.

A good or useful quality of a thing. No, I've got no virtues. No, no virtues.

No, no, there's nothing. I'm trying to think. I mean, I've got standards, there's things I wouldn't do, there's things I would do.

And it's natural to help people. I think, and I would, I would assume that everyone would do that. But, you know, if I was in a car and I, and I hit somebody by accident, I'd stop and help them.

Regardless of what my fate would be, you know, just because that's just a natural thing to do. And this is a bit harsh, I won't, I'll be careful with this. But this is a true story.

And apparently, well, I heard the story from a few different people, including my best friend, someone downstairs. Actually, I won't tell you because it's not very nice. But it was kind of people were getting out of the situation, moving away.

Okay, there's a different situation. So an ambulance was called. This was a few years back.

And there was like, at least four, four other people in the room. And the ambulance was called from my friend. So I'm, I'm go downstairs, I get a knock on my door.

Can you call an ambulance? Okay, so there's at least five mobile phones downstairs, at this point, at least. No one phoned for an ambulance. I phoned for an ambulance.

And when I got down there, all but one person who actually didn't have a phone had gone. They just left him. They, they made sure I was with him first and they gone.

Because they didn't want the ambulance to see them. They didn't want the police to come up and see them. And, you know, they want to want to be associated.

So I don't understand that. That's something that I don't, I can't get my head around. And it's not a virtue.

I mean, another thing is, I've broken up a few fights over the years where there's been crowds of people just standing around watching and maybe filming it. And I've gone over and just not aggressively, but just, you know, calmly, try to separate them, or just talk to them. Instead of just watching.

I don't never really, it's happened a few times over the years. And I don't really understand why people would, would get be entertained by it, by just watching it. I understand this, it can be a dangerous situation.

So maybe it's not a good idea to get involved. And I did put myself in harm's way, without thinking. So technically, it probably wasn't a very good, wasn't a very good idea.

But hey, it's, I think one of the things that I did, and it's not a virtue at all. It's just one of the natural things I did. And I told this story before is, there was an elderly lady lying on the floor.

And I decided not to steal her handbag. Now that is a virtue, is it not? No, she was lying on the floor. And she was with her elderly husband or whatever.

And I think he was given a seat. And she was given a pillow because she she collapsed when she she's tripped over the pavement. And it was really busy, like outside a Tesco mini.

So they're like Tesco stores are very, very busy. It was pretty much peak time. About five o'clock.

A four o'clock. Five o'clock. And she, it was light, so it must have been summertime.

So she, she was lying on the floor. Someone got her a blanket. And she, luckily, she fell outside a cushion shop, which was, it's not funny that she fell over, but just good timing.

Or good, you know, because they had all the stuff, she got a blanket. So it's one of those places that sell blankets and pillows and all that kind of stuff, bedding and things for your sofa. So she's injured.

But they don't, she doesn't, I think she's, she's hurt her hip, possibly. I don't know what the end result was. But too many people just walking past.

And I realised that they, her husband just, she was shooing people away. You know, she's fine. She's all right.

She wasn't, but, you know, he didn't want people crowding around her. But at the same time, I didn't like the fact how horrible that must be, to be lying on the ground, on your own, with all these people walking past. And the people in the shop went back into the shop because I think they were busy.

So they couldn't even come out and be with her. And they used to, they were coming out to check on her. But you know, so I thought, I've stopped and start talking to her.

And this was about 2012. 2013. It might be when I moved in here, actually.

I don't know. 2015. And she, what I did, I started talking to her and it was hurting my knees bending over.

So I thought, I'll tell you what, as we wait for the ambulance, I lied down next to her. And she said, I said, is that more comfortable? She said, no, your, your feet stink. So I turned around the other way.

So my head was facing hers. She said, your breath's not much better. I said, well, just shut up.

She said, okay. And basically what I just talked to her, I made her laugh and she wasn't on her own. She found it hilarious.

The fact that I laid down next to her and people weren't looking at her. They were looking at me now, probably thinking, yeah, they're waiting for probably two ambulances. One, one for the lady to go to hospital and one for the other bloke to go to the special hospital.

But I didn't care because I wanted her to feel better. I wanted her to, I wanted to distract her from the pain because she'd hurt her leg and her hip. And I don't know, I said, I didn't go to the hospital with her, but I just stayed there.

It wasn't for long, like half an hour or something. I'm still there. I'm still there waiting.

And it's not a virtue, but it is one of those things that I feel quite good about that I did because it goes against the natural order of things. We're not supposed to do stuff like that in society, laying down on the ground with someone you don't even know. And yeah, it was a weird, weird situation, but that's what I did.

It might have been winter, actually. Yeah, it was winter because she kept saying, keep selling, give me my blanket back. I said, no, I'm cold.

She said, I'm cold. I said, no, I want it. She said, no, they gave it to me.

I said, okay, well, go and get them then. Go and get yourself another one. She laughed.

So yeah, it was not virtues. I've got no virtues. I don't think I've got any virtues at all, to be honest with you.

I don't think I have. I'm trying to look up something. Behavior shown high moral standards, paragons of virtue.

Have I got a high moral standards? Probably not. I don't know. Never really thought of myself as being more a moral person, just me, whatever.

And see, there's lots of laws that I just don't see the point in. Well, not that I don't see, but I don't see why we need to have them. Like obvious laws are why, you know, you shouldn't steal.

Well, obviously, why would you need a law to tell someone not to steal? I mean, clearly we do. But unfortunately, those laws don't work for the people that actually steal. And the people that don't steal don't need that law.

Ironic, isn't it? It's true though, isn't it? Think about it. People that don't steal, they don't steal because there's a law that says don't steal. They don't steal because they know that it's just not the right thing to do.

It's just grimy. Being a thief is just dirty. It's just, no, you wouldn't, would you? I was going to say I'd rather kiss a horse's ball bag.

But that's a weird thing to say out loud. I'm just saying it's something I don't do. I mean, I used to steal all the time, but when I hit 40, I decided, no, I don't, I have stolen.

It's not like I've never stolen, but I knew it was wrong. But I wanted that Mars bar. The first time I stole, no, it wasn't, that was the second time, actually.

The first time, I didn't really know. I was like six, seven years old. And for me, it was just free stuff.

And it was the tuck shop and the girl that I liked found a key. And I wanted to spend time with her because I loved her. And I was going to marry her and spend the rest of my life together with her.

And I have 45 children and 700 grandchildren. Didn't work out, all because we got caught. See? All because we got caught and the police came in the next day into the school and said, Jason and Tiffany or whatever her name was, I don't know.

I think there was someone else as well. We all had to stand up and have a lecture by the policeman. And yeah, other than that, there's only two other times I've really stolen, but proper stolen.

So here's me going, I don't steal, it's wrong. And I'm now going to give you examples of when I stole. It's not a little bit contrary, is it not? Yeah, I was in, I was in, I think it was Tesco or the co-op might be in the co-op thinking about it where I lived.

And I was queuing. All I had was a chocolate bar. And it probably was a Mars bar, something like that.

I was about two foot tall. So I probably couldn't see me above the conveyor belt, you know, where the cashier sits, the other side. And she completely ignored me.

The lady completely ignored me to the point where I just ate it in front of her. And she didn't even notice. I mean, she couldn't see me, I suppose that's why.

And as I, as I went to run out, I just chucked the, the empty wrapper on the conveyor, which I went back to the back of the queue, put the empty wrapper on the conveyor belt, and then just ran out. Giggling. To be fair, I only stopped laughing about a year ago.

It just tickled me. The other time, I was a little bit older, to be honest. I mean, I did steal.

Is it stealing if it's just stuff that from work? Oh my goodness. Right. I got punished for this one though.

Okay. I had this part time cleaning job in this supermarket. Wow, I've got a long history of stealing from supermarkets.

This is bad. Thing is, right. All it was is that the pick and mix.

And they had these really lovely, just lots of different sweets to choose from. And I had these mints and these chocolate strawberries like that. So I'd be cleaning the supermarket, 6.30 in the morning to late 30 in the morning.

I worked there three different times. And on this one occasion, I helped myself to a couple of sweets every day. And I say I got punished because basically I had a toothache and I had to have a tooth removed.

That caused my voice to go all croaky. So I'm not I mean, I can't imagine just eating a few sweets would do that, you know, so quickly. But yeah, so I used to help myself there.

So is that's, I mean, it is taking the not given, you know, technically, if you're going to go from that way. And you know, I didn't take everything. I left the wrapper, put the wrapper back.

See, that's a something I stuck to. If you put the wrapper back, you haven't stolen all of it, have you? And technically, if you go back later on in the day, and use the public toilets, you've kind of returned all of it in a weird, weird kind of way. And all of it you've not you've not really left.

I mean, you temporarily left the building, but now everything that was in the building is now back in the building. Kind of I'm trying to think no, I've got no morals. I'm trying to have I have I just nothing different from anyone else really.

Then there was a time when I worked in a chip shop. Now this is because I was hungry. So on a Sunday, I had no food, and I go down and get a pie.

So as you know, it wasn't like I was, I was just I'd have a pie and maybe a sausage or something, you know, just and that would be my dinner. Because I had no, I couldn't afford to eat. So that was, if you're going to work in a food establishment, and if I just said, can I have a pie? They said yes, anyway, so and it wasn't all the time.

It was only when I didn't have anything to eat. It wasn't like constantly stealing or anything like that. I've never stolen money.

I've never I'm trying to justify my existence. I've, I'm a particular thief, there has to be food, edible. Apart from the time there was that car.

No, I don't drive. That's not the reason I don't steal cars. Because I can't drive.

It's just what I can't drive. That'd be pointless, wouldn't it? But I can't drive, but I wouldn't, I wouldn't steal cars anyway. But if I could drive, no.

So I this was list my virtues, not my non virtues. And I'm just basically telling you how I'm a thief. And I'm not, not really.

But I did do a few silly things in the past, done lots of silly things in the past. There was one time when I was 24, maybe 25. And I went into the, I've talked, I've mentioned this before.

It's not, wasn't my finest moment. Went into the newsagents to perhaps buy an entertaining magazine. Okay.

That's before the internet. It was going to be a magazine I was going to be entertained with, to keep me busy. That's all I'm going to say there.

So it might be in a boxing magazine. It might not have been a boxing magazine. Anyway, I go in and I'm just having a look on the top shelf because that's where the, the educational magazines were.

And I turn around and that's like, I start talking to the, the newsagent. It's like, have you got this month's copy of Biggan? I look around and he was asleep. I was like, what? And I thought he was just pretending.

Like, you know, when you like play peekaboo and well, it's not like, not really peekaboo, is it? But you know, when you pretend to be asleep and then you suddenly go, boo, ooh, I wasn't asleep really. I was just pretending. And you all roll around and end up chucking cake at each other or whatever.

You know, that didn't happen. He was like genuinely asleep. And I thought, hmm.

Now, for some reason, I had a big bag, like a big, big bag, a duffel coat thing, duffel bag thing. And I just, yeah, I took a few, put it in the bag, walked up to the counter, woke him up. I thought, you know what? I feel bad about this.

I'm not going to, I'm not going to do this. I can't leave without giving him any money. So I woke him up.

And I said, all right. He said, all right, hello. You all right, Jay? I said, yes, thanks.

He said, how's the kids? I said, I haven't got any kids. He said, all right. Yeah, it's true.

How's your special project going? I said, what do you mean? He said, well, your landlord said you've been spending a lot of time in your bedroom lately, nearly all weekend. And you come out and you're just completely exhausted. I said, oh, yeah, that's, that's going all right.

I just want to come in there really to get refueled. He said, okay, what would you need? And I said, oh, just that. And so I bought a Mars bar.

I thought full circle, you know, I paid for a Mars bar that I stole in 1977. And 1978. In 1994.

It just made sense. It kind of, you know. And then I left.

I mean, the thing is, I was struggling, struggling with a bag. And he came out and he said, do you need a hand, Mr. Jason? I said, yeah, thanks. And he helped me carry the bag out.

And I said, it's just around, he said, I know where you live, but I can't leave the shop, can I? I said, go on, will you help me? He said, okay. So he closed the shop, locked it up. I said, why lock it up? You know, it's safe.

You know, this place, it's not, you know, it's safe around I was going to steal anything. And he helped me in my bag to get it home because I was just around the corner. He said, what you got in there? I said, oh, don't worry about it.

You wouldn't want to know. He said, I bet I wouldn't. I said, no, you really wouldn't.

He said, it's for your project, is it? I said, yep. So, you know, it wasn't, I mean, it's not my proudest moment. I laugh about it now.

I laughed about it at the time as well, to be fair. But yeah, I was, yeah, there's no excuse. And I just like, do you know, um, those dating shows where they have buzzers and they switch the buzzer off if they don't like the person anymore.

I could just hear all these buzzers going. I'm just on the stage on my own. I've been buzzed off.

It's a long time ago. You know, it's like 30 years ago. I was a young specimen.

I was producing a lot of specimens back then. I was a very young, uh, yeah, it was ridiculous. It was a ridiculous thing to do.

I don't know why I did it. But, and then, no, that's, that's it. That's it.

That was just, it was, it was sad, man. So my virtues zero, I don't think I've got to use the virtues. I think the problem I've got is I've done so many weird things that in order for me to be virtuous, I would also have to be potentially, um, I don't know what the right word is, a hypocrite, I think, in some ways.

Not, not to be a hypocrite, if I couldn't tell other people, like, I'm this, I'm that, when I haven't been in the past. You know, I don't drink alcohol now, but I used to. There's a lot of things I don't do anymore that I used to do, that I wouldn't necessarily want my grandmother known about.

So, you know, moral standards, virtue. I don't know. I mean, the only thing that I believe that definitely seems to go against the norm, especially in my family and people I know, is helping others.

Seems to be frowned upon. Like the idea of devoting your life to helping other people that you don't even know. Like, why would you do that? And, you know, I've had this conversation with quite a few people over the years.

And if it's a virtue, then that's maybe my virtue. That's the only, but I don't class it as a virtue. That's just what I believe with every fibre of my being, that that's what I'm here for, to help people.

And it took me, apart from that little dog that keeps making noise, it took me a long time to realise that that's what I was here for. It's not like I didn't know when I was a teenager. I didn't know when I was a kid.

I thought I was here to be the next Bruce Lee. I thought I was here to be a werewolf and to be an entrepreneur, a doll boy, and a comedian, you know, whatever, just lots of different things I wanted to be, or hypnotist. I wanted to be something amazing.

And it turns out I'm not amazing. But I'm hopefully useful. What I do is useful.

And that's, that's all I can really hope for is all I do hope for is what I do is beneficial. So yeah, I don't think I wouldn't class it as a virtue, because behaviour is shown high moral standards, goodness, uprightness, integrity. I do although I don't know if I if someone if I'm getting given change, you know, when you go into a place, like let's say petrol station, or gas station, if you call it that is, and they give you change.

So you give them you give them 10 and they give you change for 20. So you get more money than you should be getting. I always hand it back.

Now, I think that's that's a divider between those that wouldn't and those that would. There was a time when I wouldn't. Now, I'm in that time when I do.

I would and I have. And you know, I think everybody, even some of the baddest behaved people out there have got it in them. I've got that in them.

You know, if they you know, you could pretty much take possibly nearly everyone that's in prison, put them in a scenario where they see, again, not everyone, but you know, I'm talking about majority of people in prison or have been in prison. And you show a little baby in trouble, they're going to come and help. Or a puppy that needs help, or an elderly person needs help.

They're going to come and they'll try and help. Or they see someone trapped in the car because the car's gone around around about too quick and it's rolled over. And they try and help the person.

It's a natural instinct, I think that's in most of us. Like 99%, if not higher, I believe that's in like in the human race, we want to help. Some people can't face it because it's scary.

And I understand that. The first time I ever saw that, actually, I saw that going around the back, I saw that when I was about 18. Yeah, I was 18.

And I was petrified to go because it went down in the bank and rolled down in the bank. And it was late at night. And I didn't know what to do.

I was with someone. So I phoned an ambulance, because there was a phone box there. We didn't have mobile phones back then.

No, no, no. 1989 mobile phones. I neither worked in the city, nor was a drug dealer.

So I did not have a mobile phone. And always rich with a sports car. 1989 we didn't have mobile phones in this country in 1989.

Generally, these days, some people have bricks, big things, but they're like satellite phones, I think more than mobile phones. And yeah, I phoned an ambulance, and they said, Oh, we're on our way. And they had to do.

Yeah, the hospital wasn't that far away from where we were. They said, You need to go down and see them. See if they're okay, go and help them.

I said, I don't want to. No, I don't want to. But I can't I can't face it.

And the lady said, just please, it's need to make sure get him out just in case the car you know, to make sure they're okay. Let them know that we're on our way that they're not on their own. So in the end, me and my friend went down.

He was eager to go down. He didn't care. And I was very nervous.

But when we actually got down there. I think we took our time. I think we were a little bit too long.

Don't worry, it's not a bad ending. Oh, dear. We he was he was clean shaven when he crashed.

And when we got down there, he said a beard when we got down there. And he he was already getting out of the car. So he managed to get out himself and he was staggering around.

So we pushed him back down the hill, just had a bit of fun. Because you know, some people, sometimes you need a little game of play, pushing around and, you know, rolling around just to take your mind off stuff. That didn't happen either.

I'm in a weird mood today. He hugged us both. And we hugged each other.

It was a nice moment. It was. Luckily, he was okay.

And I was probably the first time. Yeah, first time being in a situation like that. And I didn't realize I was, I froze.

I was absolutely useless. And yeah, I said a few times over the years, I just I'm either really useful or really useless. I kind of go either way.

And it's hard to predict. Righteousness, I got no righteousness in me. rectitude.

But a lot more when I was younger, but as I got older, less of that. Just ages and that, I suppose. And just hormones and stuff.

Might be an enlarged prostate. I don't know. But there's always reasons.

Integrity. I like to think I've got a little bit of integrity. It'd be easy if I knew what it meant.

And the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. No, I moral principles now. Call it beer.

See, I'm in a position, I'm not honest, because I want to be honest. And because I think it's important. I'm just honest, because I don't have to lie.

Why? Why do I have to lie? There's nothing to lie about. I'm not in a relationship. I don't have to lie to my partner about where I've been or to or it's like you don't have to lie and relate.

You know what? Sometimes you kind of do. And it's, it's not bad things like, you know, if I come down, like we're all going, you know, so we're going out for a meal, and I come downstairs, and I see my girlfriend, this is in the past, she's already and she's waiting for me because I take ages, of course. It takes a lot of pampering.

And plus, it takes a while for the you know, toenails to dry. No, no varnish. Especially when you do multicolored, like on each one, and you make little faces.

It's hard. It was easier back then because I could reach my toes. I haven't seen my toes for a while.

Not the only part I haven't seen. What if it's still there? Doesn't say hello to me anymore. So yeah, so I come downstairs.

And I perhaps decide to go out and I do the Scottish look. So I'd have a kilt on and maybe decide like, there was a time I think I was, I've been watching The Wizard of Oz. I just got back into it.

And so I have a little, a little, what's it? The Good Witch Glinda. I had her top on and the little wand and stuff, a tiara. And I said to her, do I look nice? Do I look nice? And she said, yeah.

I mean, is it dishonest if you don't tell the truth? Some would argue yes. So, yeah, sometimes, and I don't have to do that because I'm not in a situation where I need to. There's no benefit for me to lie.

If anything, I'm too honest. Too honest. But it doesn't mean that I don't miss stuff out and I do make stuff up.

So is that dishonesty? Technically it is. Because, you know, quite a lot of what I say isn't true. Just made up rubbish.

So yeah, that's dishonest, I guess. But I like to think that it's like a given that part of what I do here, making these recordings, is it's understood that I'm just going to talk a lot of rubbish. I'm just going to make stuff up as I go along.

Add a little bit of reality in. Add a little bit of pathos. A bit of marmite.

Stir it around. And filling it against the wall to see what sticks. But, so I don't know.

Integrity. Dignity. Have I got any dignity? What does that mean? This is all part of the virtue.

Dignity is the state or quality of being worthy or honour or respect. What? The state or quality of being worthy of honour or respect. No.

A high rank position. I've never had a high rank. I was born as a low rank and I've always been a low rank.

I don't even... a high rank position. I've never got... I've never... No. Ever.

I mean, I'm the best at what I do because I'm the only one that does what I do. And some would argue, no, but there's other people do what you do. No, there isn't.

Find someone out there that does exactly what I do. One person. There's other boring podcasts.

Okay, I'm not saying there's no one else that does boring podcasts. There's other hypnosis podcasts. I know that.

I was one of the first people in the whole world that started doing hypnosis podcasts and I was one of the first... I wonder if bragging and showing off is part of virtue. That's my virtue, being a braggart. You know, I was one of the first YouTube hypnotists.

So, let's have a look. A sense of pride in oneself. Self-respect.

I don't think dignity is a sense of pride in oneself. I think a sense of pride in oneself is almost self-conceit, isn't it? Have I got it wrong? Where am I? Okay. So, I don't know.

Eminence, nobleness, stateliness, self-esteem, self-respect, self-worth, pride, regality, majesty, glory, honor, eminence, elevation, status. No, none of them. I'll tell you what I always struggled with.

You know, I'm proud I'm from this heritage or I'm proud I'm from this culture or whatever. Why? How could you be proud of something that you had nothing to do with? I understand being proud of something you've created. You know, a piece of art, built a business or had a good life, you know, maybe created a good life for yourself or proud of an accomplishment.

I don't really do pride. I'm pleased but I'm not really into the whole pride thing, I don't think. I only ever had one person tell me they were proud of me.

That's my friend Noel. I remember when it happened. It's crazy, isn't it? I did this thing right.

And this is about 2020. So yeah, about 2020. And I did this.

There's 100 pounds per person and 100 seats. And it was going to be a five days of NLP, like neuro-linguistic program and hypnosis. Just like a big, like a five day self help.

Pretty much whatever people wanted to do. You know, phobias, whatever. And I used my, the bar, the space of the bar upstairs of the club, comedy club.

And my friend let me use that. I put an advert in the paper and everything like that. And nobody called.

But one body, one person showed up. And I said, well, it's off. I've called it off because no one's, no one's got no takers.

However, if you want to come upstairs, I'm happy just to talk to you for a bit. You know, you can do something if you want. So she, I won't go into why she came, but it was like motivation or self belief, I think.

And she left and she felt really good. Like we did some stuff and she, she enjoyed it and appreciated it. And she offered me money.

I said, no, you're fine. This is 10 grand. I don't want it.

That's why I've got a hundred people. I wanted 10 grand. No, I just said, no, just, just done that.

You don't need to pay anything. The thing is, after, when she'd gone, I went outside with the thing and I saw my friend and told him what happened. And he just told me, I'm proud of you.

And that was the first and only time anyone's ever said that to me. It actually meant something. So I think for someone else to be proud of me means more than me being proud of myself.

It just doesn't. Yeah. I don't know why.

Hmm. Archaic, virginity or chastity, especially what virtue. Oh, okay.

Got you. So what does virtue mean in the Cambridge dictionary? Virtue is a good moral quality in a person, or the general quality of being morally good. It can also mean an advantage or benefit or by virtue of meaning, because I don't know.

I'm not sure. I'm all right. I'm not a horrible person.

I've done some really silly things, but I can honestly say as an adult, yeah, as an adult, I've never set out to hurt anyone. Like done something purposely in order to cause them problems. I have caused problems by my behaviour and I didn't mean to.

And I've done stuff with good meaning or good intention, but it was the wrong thing. So I've done stuff like that. When I was a kid, I did sometimes set out to cause problems, but as an adult, I hadn't.

And even though I have done so, it's a long, long time ago, but I've done some really dumb things. And I think in some ways I've tried to make up for it over the last 20 odd years by being a fairly decent person. I try to be a decent person.

I don't try to be, I just think, it's not hard, but I enjoy helping people. I don't be just like making recordings and stuff, but I like helping people. It's probably the best feeling.

I can't remember any other nice feelings. So one of the best feelings is helping others. Yeah, it just feels nice.

So yeah. I mean, even if I'm not, I pretend that I am. So that gets me through the day.

I hope that answered the question. I went on a little bit there, I think, but I don't think I've got any virtues, but it was still worth a look. It's worth a try, wasn't it? Worth a look.

Virtues. Virtues. Where was we? Newest.

Okay. So thanks, Brittany. I think I'm all right as a, generally, I think I'm okay.

Kind of, kind of, kind of, I think, kind of all right. Yeah, I think I'm probably, am I, I think I would probably, I like to think that I would be spoken of in fairly nice terms by people that know me now, or kind of feel they know me now. But I do know that I haven't, oh, here's an example.

I'll give you an example. I've not even told you what it is yet. I wasn't respected in London on the comedy circuit, on a comedy scene.

And I didn't realise how disrespected I was, even at the end, when I thought I'd sort of made some friends and stuff, after a decade of sort of being involved. I started, I saw a post on Facebook about me, and they were discussing that I was, I was training to become a counsellor. And some of the stuff they were saying was, yeah, it wasn't the nicest thing.

But I realised that they were talking about me, they were talking about the, the version of me in my early 20s, when I was, not sure how to explain it, I was a bit gobby. And I just used to say the wrong things. That stupid metal thing is still annoying.

And I used to say, say whatever came into my mind. And I was always getting into trouble. So just verbally, really.

But yeah, I used to upset a few people over the years. And it's just, it's one of those things, but like, don't judge me on what I was like 30 years ago. But don't judge me at all.

But you know, if you're gonna try and, you know, stick to the last decade, at least. Blimey. So Ken, you're next.

Favourite movie? It's A Wonderful Life. Didn't I talk about my favourite movie? I think I did this yesterday. Favourite movie? Wasn't that already in the, I think that was in the questions or comments? Favourite movie? Favourite movie? Oh, blimey, I don't know.

Q&A, any questions? Okay, right. Newest, most relevant. Have you finished? You know what, I can't even, I might have even answered that question.

No, I couldn't have done if it was three days ago, because I did the recording a week ago. Two days ago, one week, one week, one week, one week, one week. I'm seeing if there's any others or comments.

One week. One week, three days, two days. Four days.

So Let Me Bore You To Sleep. It's A Wonderful Life is my favourite movie of all. But I did talk about my movies yesterday in Q&A Wednesday, which I did like a one off.

But to summarise that, my favourite movie is It's A Wonderful Life. Next to that it would be out of the movies that I could watch more than once. Looking at things like The Wanderers, although it's not something I could watch regularly, but I have watched it a few times.

The, I mean, I could probably watch a lot of the Avenger movies as well. I really love, I love superhero movies. And it's like a not a new thing.

In a sense, it's not like the new wave of movies that have been the last 15 years or whatever. I've loved superhero movies since I was about eight years old. And the first one I remember was Seven.

So Star Wars, Superman and Spider Man. They were the two movies that I saw when I was very young. Well, before the age of 10 anyway.

And I think Superman was 78. I think Spider Man was 78 as well. Or 77 or 76.

Blimey, let's find out. Let's find out when it was. Superman movie.

2025 really? Okay, maybe not. So Superman 1978. So 1978.

The Yeah, I think they filmed both the first Superman and the second Superman at the same time. Because I'll tell you why. I've got this memory.

I've got this very, very memory of it. No, it's not what I wanted to do. Take that back.

Superman movie. Why is Wikipedia's not coming up? That's strange. It's not giving me Wikipedia.

Wonder why? These search engines are cheap. Changing. So Superman, the budget was 55 million, it took 300 million.

Can't argue on that one. They did pay. Famously, they paid Marlon Brando a million.

And wow, Brando sued the production companies for 50 million, because he felt cheated out his share of the box office profits. This stopped Brando's footage from being used in Richard Leston's version of Superman 2. Wow, Richard Leston's version. I didn't know there's a different.

He's still got his famously at the time I remember got paid a million. Who got paid a million for a movie for like a cameo appearance? I mean, really, Marlon Brando was the star of that movie, even though, and then Gene Hackman, Christopher Reeve was, even though he was a star. He was almost like the new person.

New. He was new, you know. The Superman.

Oh, okay, wait a minute. Superman 2. I want to see Superman 2. Superman film series. Superman 2 came out in 1980.

And Superman 3. And Superman do the Richard Donner cut. Wow, okay, I didn't know that. And in 1983, was Superman 3. Supergirl was 1984.

Was Superman in that? I can't remember. And then Equestra Piece was 1987. Yeah.

Yeah, Superman 4. Oh. See, for me, Superman 2, and Superman 1 was too long. It's just because I was a kid, I was too young to be, it's like, get on with it.

Yeah. It was great once he got started. But you know, once he was Superman, but I just had to sit through so much like talking and stuff, which was a bit annoying.

But once he, once he was starting to, yeah, once he moved to wherever it is, to become a reporter, that's when it got good. Superman 2, the thing I was most looking forward to that about that was the villains. Zod.

I loved it. I was, I used to, I was dreaming about it before I even watched it. Honestly, because I kept seeing adverts.

It's brilliant. My oldest brother took me to go and see it. And then Superman 3. The main reason to watch that was because of Richard Pryor.

And even though he was a co-star, he was a star. So he stole the film. He stole the movie.

To me, he stole the movie, even though it was Superman. So obviously Superman was the star, but and Louis, Louis Lane. I didn't, um, Lana Lang.

Wasn't she in the third one or she in the second one? Because in the second one, he's, I don't want to spoil it, spoil it if you haven't seen it. Yeah, I won't. But yeah, there's, there's, there's one way he meets his ex-girlfriend, Lana Lang.

And it's just Louis Lane and Lana. So I love LL. Which one is it? Is it you or me? I don't know.

Should we just kiss? No, I just don't know. Remember that's, that's my memory of it. Um, so I like all superhero, all superhero movies, even the ones that didn't do well at the box office.

I just love them all. I mean, the Flash, the original Flash movie. Well, the one from the 90s.

They might have done one earlier than that. It, it was funny. And there was a bit where he's running and his oil is running on oil and he's just not getting anywhere.

It's very funny. So yeah, it's a wonderful life, my favorite movie of all time. And I suppose I just want to be George Bailey.

I want to be, it's not something I'm never going to be, but I wanted just the idea of everyone loving me. George Bailey, everyone loved George Bailey. Apart from those that didn't, you know, because I think he did upset a few people the night before he, well, the night that he went through all the whole, I don't want to spoil a movie.

I won't spoil it for anyone who hasn't seen it. It's only, it was only released 80 years ago, but it might be too soon to tell the plot and everything. But it's a great movie.

I just love it. Love it. I love it.

I love it. And you know, I'm surprised they've not tried to redo it. I mean, I have done versions of the same similar kind of thing, but it doesn't need redoing.

And even though it's in black and white, and it's old, it's great. Great movie. Although I don't think everyone would agree, because I think, from what I understand, it's overplayed in America.

Apparently, I think I heard somewhere that they just play it nonstop on the various different channels. I do play it here a little bit. But yeah, I've never had that experience of it just always being on.

So I never got sick of it. And I actually bought a book and I didn't buy a book, I stole it. From the library.

Wow, I forgot about that. I was, I went to the library. And this was in 1989.

1988, not 89, 1988. I was living above the co-op where I used to work. While I was working there at the time.

So I was living above there. And I saw It's a Wonderful Life for the first time on my little black and white TV. I remember thinking at the time, I bet this is great in colour.

20 years later, I realised, oh wow, I was in black and white all along. In some ways, it looked better on a black and white TV. But then I suppose it's just, it's what you're used to, isn't it? If you're going from watching a black and white, a colour TV, then you watch something in black and white, it looks weird.

But then it's the same thing as if I, I had some breakfast cereal the other day. It was a neighbour got some breakfast cereal and we had this discussion about like the home brand not being as good as the proper brand. So for example, they used to be called sugar puffs, but they're not to call them that anymore.

They're now called puffed wheat, I think. And they, the home brand version, so they said a Tesco or Sainsbury's or whoever, their home version. I never used to really like the home brand as much as the original branded ones.

Like, they weren't as sweet. And I tested some, my friend gave me a handful of these, I think it was Tesco puffed wheat, like their own version. And they tasted great.

But the reason probably they tasted great is because I don't eat sugar anymore, don't have sugar. So a little bit of sweetness goes a long way when you have no sweetness. There was there was logic there for what I was talking about.

But I'm not quite sure how to explain it. Just you know, if you didn't, because I was used to watching black and white. I was just used to it.

But after you Yeah. So I'm going to come to these questions. Do you have any questions for this week? So I've got three, three questions.

Ng asks me, Hi, Jason, you know a lot about hypnosis. How is hypnosis used in medicine? Can a painful treatment be carried out under hypnosis? Thank you. Well, it's nice that you think that I know a lot about hypnosis.

The fact is, I don't know a lot about anything. But I know a little bit. I used to be into it.

Used to like really, I've got a lot of books. I read at least one of them. I did.

I used to, yeah, I was proper into hypnosis for quite a while. And like studying, I mean. My understanding outside of textbooks and stories that I've read, I do know one person who, he was a hypnotist himself, or hypnotherapist.

And he'd been in, he basically just had a damaged leg due to a motorbike accident, probably quite a few years earlier. But he was in constant discomfort. And he decided to have the leg removed.

Okay. I'm not going to go into details, but just, you know, those are the facts. And he told me all about it.

He was even in the local paper, actually, when it was done. He used local anesthetic. So he wasn't put under, but he used hypnosis, self-hypnosis during that process, which I'll be honest with you, I wouldn't do that.

Yeah. Yeah. So he, so he had like local, he had local, but it was, it was, or did he have, he might've had a bit of local, he might not have had any.

I think they have to have something, but he basically numbed his own leg. And that was his mind, you know, using hypnosis. So he wasn't put under to have it done.

And that was his own choice. Obviously, I mean, they can't, they wouldn't do it otherwise, would they? I think they just offer, would you like to be put under or would you like, no, yeah, of course. Wake me up when it's healed.

Wake me up when it's grown back. Blimey. And so I, that's phenomenal.

Really? I mean, there was this, one of the main, one of the, he's kind of like one of the main people in the hypnotic world from a long time ago called Milton Erickson, Dr. Milton Erickson, Dr. Milton H. Erickson. He'd had polio as a child, and then he got it again, a resurgence of it when he was probably in his 50s or 60s, something. And he was in a lot of pain, and he controlled his pain using self-hypnosis.

And so, yeah, that's the first thing. When I started learning hypnosis, the only thing that, well, no, two things that jumped up at me, jumped up at me, jumped out at me, that got my interest, peaked my interest was, I guess, relaxation. But then, back then, I wasn't too concerned about that.

You know, things that I didn't, I wasn't, I didn't care about stuff like that in my late 20s. You know, it wasn't until my, what was I, 30, 32, that's when I started taking notice, because I needed it. But before that, I didn't care about anything like that.

But I was really interested in, I was interested in maybe helping other people relax. But I was definitely interested in the pain relief, helping people with chronic pain. And that's why I started the free pain relief service in my local town.

And it reduces physical discomfort, just naturally, it does. So it's, I learned lots of different, I don't know what he's doing, he's doing something in the corner of the room. And as soon as I looked over him, he looked back at me like, what are you doing? What do you want? I, I think he's hungry again, always hungry.

Hope he hasn't caught my worms. Now he's scratching, bless him. The, I, if hypnosis was used, it would generally, I would say, be used as an adjunct, or as an addition, never instead of, not as, never as a replacement.

And I realize you could say, well, my friend, he used it as a replacement for being knocked out, you know, for the operation. But that's a different situation. You know, the average person couldn't just do that.

And unless they got went, there'd be a procedure to sort of have a hypnotherapist come in and sit by you. And I don't know if a medical place would generally allow that. Just, you know, I can't imagine a lot of places would, also from a germ perspective.

Also, it's a lot, probably a lot more time consuming for the surgeons. They can't just get on with it, they have to sort of take the time, I suppose. I'll just, just have a visual then, so let's, let's move on.

And it was a nice one. Everything sorted out very quickly. Painful treatments carried out.

Yes, so things can be. It's, I think sometimes hypnosis can be, the reason it can be quite good for a continuous issue, something like, you know, chronic stuff, is because it can be practiced. And every day is a new day to practice it.

And it's a bit like listening to me talking boringly. The more you listen, the quicker you get bored. And it's, I guess it's a cumulative, you know, in that way.

Hypnosis used to be used a lot in, there was a time, I think it was during World War, either World War One or World War Two, I think it might have been World War One. Might have been World War Two, might have been both actually, where they ran out of anesthetic. So they used hypnosis instead for operations.

There was a book, is it Elsdale? A hypnotist, hypnotherapist, a doctor, who was a surgeon, and he carried out hundreds, if not thousands of operations in India, using only hypnosis. And he was the first, probably respected, hypnotherapist or hypnotist, doctor, probably since, yeah, probably the first one ever, that was medically trained. I mean, Freud was respected with hypnosis, but he gave up hypnosis quite early.

And he, you know, he went down the psychotherapy route, the talking therapies as opposed to hypnosis. But it's quite weird, you think about all the talking therapies, psychotherapy, and all that stuff originated from hypnosis. Hypnosis was used a lot in the past, for people having operations.

And then they discovered, is it Aether? And as soon as they discovered Aether, they realized they didn't need to spend all that time doing hypnosis with people. Because it's almost, because Aether was the, wasn't it the forerunner of Aether? Is it E-A-T-H-E-R? Let's just spell it Aether. Aether, there's a T, isn't there? T, there we go.

Aether, I'm not sure how to spell it. Anyway, it's an anesthetic. So once they discovered a way to anesthetize people, and to put them to sleep, so they could get on with the operation.

That's what they did, because it was easier, it was quicker, probably cheaper time wise. And hypnosis was kind of abandoned in the medical profession. It was very rife for a while.

And a lot of dentists learned hypnosis in the early part of last century. So yeah, in the 50s, 60s. So there was a lot of dentists with training to become, to include hypnosis within their practice.

You know, so when they touch, you know, when they go put their finger in your, in your, in your gum and say, can you feel that? Can you feel it? Is it numb yet? And there's a lot of positive suggestions that would actually mean, potentially, especially in a, in a situation where money is important, they could save money by not using as much of the medication or, you know, the anesthetic or whatever that they would normally need to use.

So if they saved money on that, still be charging the same price. So, you know, just be making better profits, I suppose, you know, this is going back to the 50s, 60s, 70s, maybe 80s, maybe still now.

Yeah, it is, it was used a lot in the medical world. I don't think it's as used so much these days. I mean, there's a lot of people, I can say like me, not like me, but you know, there's professional versions of me out there who would see people for all kinds of physical medical conditions.

Yeah, I mean, you could pretty much, if you find a hypnotherapist, they would, again, ideally be referred from your GP or your doctor, your medical health practitioner. And they could potentially help you. With things like a chronic condition, as long as the person knows the cause of it and knows what it is, then technically the person doesn't need it.

You know, with things like chronic pain, you know, pain's there for a reason to warn the body and warn us that there's something going on. If it's not needed, then it's a false alarm. So there's no need, it's not necessary to have it.

It's like a, I mean, I've caught one on recordings, what is it, the faulty car alarm. You know, remember the faulty car alarms that go off just for no reason, like a butterfly farts and they just go off. And me, me, me, it's not necessary.

So it's kind of a bit like that. That's my take on that. Right, Vinnie wants to go and do toilet, I think.

So two more questions. I think I spent too long on the first one. Sorry.

Jen, if you could have lived at any time in history, where would you, when would you choose? The future. I'd choose the future. I would be, yeah, I'd like to live when things really kind of come together.

Yeah, I think I'd rather, I don't think there's a time in the past I'd necessarily want to live. Perhaps, that's just my, that's how I'm feeling right now. It might change depending on when I answer the question.

But yeah, I think in the future. It's a little bit of a cop out. But yeah, definitely, I think the future.

You have to give that question a bit more thought. Hillary asks, did Vinnie like his treats? And did you get yourself anything for Christmas? Vinnie loved his treats. Thank you.

He was having them all through Christmas. And I got myself some socks. Got myself some food.

So I got a bunch of food and got a few takeaways through Christmas as well, to be honest. I'm not gonna lie, I did. Got myself, I had my very first, first time I ever had five guys.

That was, that was nice. Didn't, didn't know. I'd heard of it, but never, just didn't, you know, just didn't know.

And I had my first Wendy's as well. And a pizza. Vinnie's hassling me now.

I don't know if you can hear him. Let's just turn and see what he's doing. What's up, Vinnie? What's up? What you doing? What do you want, baby? Right, I'm gonna go.

I don't know how long I've been talking, but it seems like I've been talking for ages. So thank you for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself, because you do deserve to be happy.

Be gentle with yourself. Lots of love. Bye.

It's a weird noise. It's that weird noise you're making.