#92 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks - YOU'RE NOT BROKEN - (Jason Newland) (7th February 2020)

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So, today's recording is going to be called You Are Not Broken. You Are Not Broken. I'm not going to name it twice, it's just going to be You Are Not Broken.

This is kind of self-explanatory in the sense of what I'm going to talk about. And the reason why I give these recordings, I try and give them titles now, you know, put a little title in the, you know, just to make it easier for people to find. Because someone contacted me a couple of weeks back and said, you did a recording, but I can't remember which number it was because I've done, I think I've done 91 of these specific recordings on this podcast.

I've also added a few others that I thought would be beneficial for people listening. So, I had to listen to a few of my recordings to find the one that the lady was sort of asking about. So, I've tried to start putting a little brief title, which will hopefully help people to find the recordings if, you know, something that you find useful.

Also, you can download and stream all of my recordings on my website. I'm talking about all of them, not just this podcast, there's over 1000 recordings spanning back 14 years. And I've got other podcasts that I do currently, pretty much every day.

Let Me Bore You To Sleep podcast. That's generally daily now. I don't know how I just developed into that.

That's about an hour of me talking complete nonsense, just boring stuff for an hour. The other one is Deep Sleep Whisper Hypnosis, where I whisper for about 20 minutes, and it's sleep orientated. Also got Sleep Hypnosis Weekly, where the recording is a little bit longer, maybe half an hour, 40 minutes, 50 minutes sometimes.

And that's once a week, plus a few other podcasts, but it's all on my website anyway. So, you are not broken. So I want you to say that to yourself.

You say out loud, I'm not going to hear it. You might be at work, or you know, you might be having your lunch listening to this. For example, you know, but maybe not say out loud, if you're sitting on a train, or bus or something.

But it's up to you, you can just say it to yourself, whether internally or externally. I, the words, I am not broken. Those exact words, I am not broken.

Put emphasis on the not. I, or I'm not broken. So let's get rid of the am bit.

I'm not broken. I'm not broken. How does it feel? Does it jar you? Does it does it feel wrong? Does it feel does it feel false? Does it feel like you're just lying to yourself? Does it feel incongruent, or whatever the word is, incongruent, incongruent? Does it feel, does it feel like you're just bullshitting yourself? Because it might do.

Because you might actually really believe that you're broken. So that's what this recording is about. Because at the end of this recording, you're going to be convinced.

Yeah, I'm going to convince you. I'm going to hypnotize you into believing the fact that you're not broken. That you're not perfect either.

None of us are. It doesn't mean that we don't need maintenance. We all need maintenance.

Bridges need maintenance. You see someone maintaining a bridge, but you know, working on a bridge, doesn't mean the bridge is broken. You work on your house, you maintain your house.

You haven't got to move out of your house while you're doing it. The house isn't broken, you're maintaining it, you're keeping it going. You're fixing things that need fixing.

It's very rare when the whole house just collapses. Of course, it happens, but it's rare. Even in the most extreme situations, let's say someone's had a complete mental breakdown, and they're hospitalized, they're still not broken.

And you may say, of course they are, they must be if they're unable to function. But they're not broken, they're not. If they were broken, they'd be dead.

That's broken. That's death, broken, when nothing works. When that person that's going through an illness, going through really serious illness, they're not broken.

They're ill. Parts of them need to recover. Parts of them may not be working properly.

But they're not broken. Their heart's still beating, their brain's still working, their lungs, the liver, the kidney, maybe one of those isn't working properly, but the other parts are working. Someone that's in a wheelchair is not broken.

If someone's just walking, able to walk, have an accident, I guess we all know someone in this situation, it might be someone listening right now. I've got a good friend who jumped off a cliff when he was 18 or 19, ended up paralyzed from his waist down. He believed he was broken, and he had a broken back, and then it healed.

But he's been in a wheelchair ever since. But for about two years, he believed he was broken. But he wasn't.

His heart still beats. His lungs still worked. He just couldn't move his legs.

I don't mean just couldn't move his legs as in a dismissive way. But he could move his arms. He could move his shoulders.

He could move his neck. He could talk. He could see.

He could hear. He could have all the emotions that anybody else could have. And he wasn't broken, but he believed that he was.

And I think when it comes to mental health issues, I never know what to call it anymore. You can't call it mental illness anymore, because people don't like it to be called that, even though it's an illness, different levels of illness. But now in my country, everyone seems to call it mental health.

I like to add the word issues at the end, because physical health, someone says, I've got physical health. They're basically saying I'm feeling well. Yet if you say I've got mental health, it's a weird kind of terminology that's been taken up.

But anyone, let's say, with anxiety, depression, panic issues, stress, may think that they're broken. Because for some reason, whatever's going on in their life, or your life, my life, we're not functioning in the same way as we once were. We're maybe struggling with some things that used to be really easy to us, that were second nature.

We didn't have to give it any thought. We just did it. But you know what? What I noticed with the anxiety, the extreme anxiety I got, was it kind of caused me to, it seemed to cause me to be more sensitive.

It was almost like I was noticing things. I almost felt like my skin, a layer of my skin had been peeled off. So I was more sensitive.

I wasn't quite as rough with things. I was a bit more careful. Maybe not physically, but just emotionally maybe, just a little bit noticing things.

Because if you've had a layer of your skin taken off, or let's say if you've had a burn, a mild burn even, on your hand, you notice the sensitivity when you wash your hands, when that bit of skin scrapes up against even just your trousers, you know, you just notice it. And it might not even be like a proper burn. It might not have blistered.

It might just be a mild discomfort that you don't even notice until it kind of scratches against something. But the rest of your body wouldn't even notice it. So, in some ways, it felt a little bit like, as far as stress levels went, that I had a callus, that my stress levels, the anxiety levels were all kind of contained within a callus, and nothing could trigger it.

But I could take huge amounts of stress. The reality, I couldn't, but for some reason, I managed to develop that callus in some circumstances. For example, working long hours, doing a stressful job, living unhealthily, drinking excessively, and being depressed, really, without even acknowledging it.

So, the callus was protecting me from the pain. I wasn't feeling it. It was protecting me from feeling it.

Because not all emotions are pain. But if you get to the point where you don't feel anything, because if you're a guitar player, and I've learned to play the guitar a few times, or attempted, and I ended up with calluses on my left fingers. So, you could stroke it, and it's just like there's no feeling, really.

So, you don't feel pain, but you don't feel any pleasure, either. And my hands are quite sensitive. I don't know, maybe everyone's is, I don't know.

But I quite like stroking my palms with my hands, the tops of my fingers, because they're quite sensitive. I don't spend all day doing it. I'm just saying it's quite a nice thing to do.

If I had a callus on there, I wouldn't be able to feel. I might feel it, but it wouldn't be sensitive. So, I could scrape it and not have any kind of discomfort, which is what calluses are sort of protect you from discomfort and pain.

The thing is, with a callus, it also protects you from, well, not protect you, it prevents you from feeling pleasure. So, if you push this to the extreme, which I kind of like to do, but if you're thinking of, if you thought of a particular part of your body which is sensitive. So, I'm just saying, as an example, I'm not going to go into graphic details.

If that part of your body had a callus on it, it would mean that it couldn't, it's going to be protected. It's very unlikely to get hurt because it's going to be protected. A layer of tough skin would be over it, protecting that part.

So, if you bashed it or whatever, it wouldn't hurt, but at the same time, there'd be no pleasure. So, I think that's what maybe we build, which allows the stress levels to raise so high, because you don't notice stress levels rising. And then suddenly, maybe that anxiety attack or that stress level gets too high and the callus just drops off, because even the callus can't handle it.

It's almost like a fizzy drink, you know, shake a fizzy drink, and then take the lid off, and it just squirts everywhere because of pressure. The thing is, that fizziness and that pressure only lasts while the lid's on. Once the lid's off, it releases and that energy's gone.

But you don't look at the bottle of coke and think it's broken. You might think, oh, it's all sticky, and look what a mess I've made everywhere. I might have to wash my hands or wash the bottle.

But the bottle of coke or lemonade or whatever it is, beer or whatever it is you're drinking, it's not broken. The contents aren't broken. There may be less content in there because of the overflow, but just like if you've got a small child or a family member, someone that you love dearly, they go to hospital and they get told that they've got something serious that they have to have medication for, and it's something, a long-term condition.

You don't just say, oh, they're broken. We can chuck them out. We're not taking them home.

You can keep them in the Why would you say it about yourself? Why would you call yourself broken? We're not. You're not broken. You're not broken.

And I don't care if it's annoying hearing it. You can get as annoyed as you want hearing me say, you're not broken. But you know what? Even if you stop the recording now, that's going to play in your mind.

You're just going to keep hearing, I'm not broken. And you know what? There's worse things that could play in your mind. There's worse things that you can play over and think of, because it's a really positive thing to be reminded of.

So if I say to you, you're a wonderful person, and I don't care how annoyed you get if I say that to you, and I can keep going on and on about it for 45, 50 minutes, and anyone that's listened to me knows that I can keep going on. But that will stick. It will stick.

And it has a positive effect. And if you were going to actually, if you could really get a kind of sum up hypnosis, my understanding of hypnosis is it's an idea that sticks. It's an idea that sticks in your mind.

And that idea transforms the way you think, the way you act, the way you behave, transforms your life, possibly. Maybe only in a small way. It doesn't have to be in a big way, does it? If you get appendicitis, please don't.

But I'm saying, I've had my appendix out. My brother had appendicitis, and so I guess it's a genetic thing, I don't know. But that appendicitis, that pain affects your whole body.

It's trauma, it's absolute agony, all that stuff. Well, it can be. If you catch it in time, it can just be discomfort, and you take them out, and you're fine, which is hopefully what will happen.

If it gets ignored, or they don't get it out, and it disrupts, it can cause complete havoc to the body, sepsis, or whatever. The thing is, once it's removed, everything goes back to normal, carries on. That one tiny, and the appendix is a tiny little part of your body, tiny little part of your body, and it's removed, and it changes the whole dynamics of your body.

It changes how you physically feel, because you haven't got that discomfort anymore. Because the way you walk, the way you sleep, everything's going to be affected by a physical issue, perhaps. So when you make a small change, it changes everything else as well.

It's the by-product, it changes things. I mean, I've worked in places, lots and lots of different places over the years, had lots of jobs. Sometimes, just one person leaving, leaving the job, or just a new person starting, can transform the whole work environment in a way that's, it can be really positive, it might not be, but it can really change the environment in a real obvious way, very quickly.

So you change a small thing, it can change the big thing. You know, you think if you've got a roof, or you've got a roof somewhere, I suppose, but if you've got a roof, and you're living in a house, and you just drill a hole in the roof above your bed, you might not even notice it at first, but eventually you'll notice it, because you'll start getting wet, because it'll start dripping, the rain will drip on you, and maybe birds will start flying in, who knows what's going to happen.

And you think the whole of the house, you know, you've got all those, I don't know how many thousands of bricks go into a house, and you might have five rooms, six rooms, a staircase, but just that one hole, going through the roof, I imagine you haven't got a loft, I'm just saying, if the roof is there just above your bedroom, so you can get straight to the outside, just for the argument's sake of the story, that one hole will transform the house for you.

But not if you're in a different room, so one thing can have a difference, it can make a difference, so you're not broken, you are not broken, it should be a song, I'm not going to make it, don't worry, I'm not going to start singing, but you're not broken. So how do you get your head around that fact?

Because maybe, I mean, I know I like to feel sorry for myself at times, and I've done it for years and years, not the whole time, but you know, every now and then, like, oh, woe is me, no one has it as hard as me, no one's ever had anxiety like I've had it, no one's ever felt as stressed or as depressed as me, I had the worst childhood of anyone in the whole world, and all that is bullshit, there's no way of knowing, you can't, we can't compare each other's conditions,

or issues, or childhoods, or suffering, or anything like that, because ultimately, regardless of what's happened in my life, I've not grown up in extreme poverty and starvation, being held by a mother who hasn't eaten for two weeks, and I'm just skin and bone, you know, I didn't live, I've not lived like that. So, I haven't had it worst, but at the same time, I don't want to dismiss what I've been through, I don't want to dismiss it like saying, well, it doesn't matter because other people have had it worse.

So, it's about, for me, it's about valuing yourself, not comparing yourself to other people, but realising what's happened in your life has affected you, but it's also made you the person you are, you know, the kindness in your heart is there because of all the things that have happened in your life, not just because of the good things and the nice things, maybe that kindness, wanting to help other people could be because you weren't able to help other people at one point in your life, or maybe because someone else has helped you when you didn't feel worth anything, you didn't feel that you deserve to be helped, but someone helped you anyway, someone that actually ended up hurting you may have helped you.

So, there's that kind of contradiction of like, well, they really helped me and then they, you know, then they ran off and stole everything or they, whatever, it could be a horrible story, but actually, it doesn't take away the fact that they did help you at some point. There's a whole mentality, isn't it, of when people get divorced, saying, well, I've just wasted the last 14 years of my life.

That's the same mentality as, I'm broken. It's illogical. It's an emotional response.

I've wasted 14 years of my life. You could say, well, how long has it been unhappy? Well, for the last three. So, you have 11 years that wasn't wasted then.

You know, it's like, I remember reading years ago, the idea is you have the most amazing date, go out, have a wonderful time. Maybe you go to the theater, maybe you go to a comedy club, whatever it is you love doing, and you go to a restaurant, and you have the most amazing meal, and you're just basically so in love with the person that you're seeing opposite.

You know, you're both really loved up, and it's beautiful.

And then the waiter trips and spills wine over you, or over your partner. And then someone might say, that's it, it's ruined the evening. It's that ridiculous.

Why would you discount all of that pleasure just because someone spilled wine on you? I mean, yeah, if it was a car crash or a fatality, yeah, it spoiled the evening, of course. You know, that's an extreme situation. Or if something really bad happens, yeah, but someone spilling wine, it's annoying.

It might mean you have to go home early, but doesn't discount all the lovely time you've had with that person. So why is it that it's almost like we're wired, or not wired, but taught to behave in that way and to think that way? Maybe it's just it gets passed down. Parents pass it down, they've been passed down from their parents, to have that negative mentality of, oh, that's all sport now.

When actually, why? No, it's not. There's that mentality, that idea, I'm broken, because not everything is working perfectly. You're not broken.

Even if you're listening to this, and you're in a psychiatric ward somewhere, you're not broken. You will get better, you will recover. And recovery doesn't mean being perfect.

It's the same with a condition. Recovering doesn't mean having everything gone. I've got bipolar.

Recovery is a condition, it's a lifelong, I've always had it, really. But there's a big difference between how I am now, and how I have been. So in a way, that is a recovery, which means I'm not broken.

Because whenever recovery is an option, it isn't fixing it. Recovery isn't fixing, because then there's a problem. You're making a problem.

Problems need to be fixed. The only things that need to be fixed is broken things. Problems need solutions.

And then there's that idea of treating yourself the way you would treat someone else. Not my idea. Pretty good idea though, I think.

Providing you've got some kindness towards yourself. Because if someone really dislikes themself, and constantly telling themselves how horrible they are, then treating other people the way you treat yourself might not be a good idea. So maybe treating yourself how you treat other people, if you're treating them nicely, that's kind of the little catch on that one.

That's why I seem to aim that idea of, would you say that to a small child? Because even in my worst mental states of anger or whatever, I would never be nasty to a child. It's something I couldn't do. I couldn't be verbally, I'm not really verbally abusive to anyone, but I couldn't.

Or to an elderly person. So we all know how to behave. I know people try and pretend they don't, but we all do.

We all know how to behave. We don't need to be taught it. Not really.

I don't know, maybe we do, but if you're an adult and you listen to this, you don't need to be taught how to behave. We all know how to be nice to somebody. It's really easy.

But being nice to yourself doesn't seem to come as naturally. And I don't think we're taught that. We're taught manners.

It depends what country you're from, the manners may change. We've all got our own customs, haven't we, in different countries. Some, I don't know, I'm not sure what all of them are, I don't really care, but you know, different things like bowing and shaking hands, and some things are classed as an insult in some countries, and they're classed as maybe a compliment in other countries.

As I said, I don't care about that stuff. But we're taught that. That's taught.

No one's born thinking, I should bow to my elders, or I should shake someone's hand, or I should say, please, thank you. You know, we're not born with those things. If we were just left alone, we're born, we eat when we want to eat, we start eating when we want to start eating, and then ultimately, we just go to the toilet wherever we wanted to go.

You know, we have to be taught what to do with that stuff. But no one teaches us how to be kind to ourself. No one teaches us to have manners towards ourself.

And I say no one, maybe you have had people do that, but I never have. Not like during school, not during my childhood, not, you know, I know that some, there are some practices that can teach you to be kind to yourself. Of course there are, there's lots of things out there that can encourage you and to develop that loving kindness towards yourself and towards others also.

But it's not something that's, I don't think it's generally taught to people as they're growing up. To actually be nice to yourself, to show yourself manners, you know, to say thank you to yourself, to recognize your accomplishments and your successes, and to actually be your own cheerleader. If you haven't got an internal cheerleader, you should get one.

You need to be your own supporter, you know, get on your own side. Support yourself, you know, cheer yourself on. It might seem ridiculous to hear that, but if you give it a little bit of thought, it makes sense, doesn't it? If you went and watched a friend playing football, or a sport, or anything, or you could watch your kid, or anyone that you know, you go and watch them in a a competitive situation, whatever that might be, rugby, tennis, badminton, whatever it is, snooker, you're going to be cheering them on.

And you might not know anything about the sport, but you're going to be so, you might not know anything about the competitor, that your friend, or the person you know is playing against. But you're excited because you want your person to win. And there's an excitement there that I've had in the past, and I was surprised at it, because I went to see someone doing something, and it was a competitive environment.

I got really excited, and I'm not a sports person. I'm not really into sports, and as an audience, apart from boxing. And you know, if you were my friend, and you were in a boxing match, I came and saw you, I would be more excited seeing you in the ring, than I would of any other fight I've ever seen in my life, like on TV.

Because I'd almost be in the ring with you, kind of egging you on to be successful. Or if it was a pie-eating contest, whatever it was you were doing, or running, you know, doing a marathon, it doesn't matter what it is. Whether it's a rehabilitation, and you know, you're learning to walk again, and I'm sort of there with you, and I'm like, I'm going to be egging you on, like, as your cheerleader.

You need to have that in your own head. You need to be your own cheerleader. Because the energy that produces, the positive energy, I can feel it just talking about it, maybe you can feel it hearing it, the idea of it, it's powerful.

Which means you're not broken. Because as long as you've got that cheerleader in your head, it won't let you be broken, it won't let you feel broken, it won't let you say to yourself that you're broken. Because it never gives up.

A cheerleader never, ever, ever quits. It doesn't mean that you've got to keep going. But the cheerleader won't ever stop cheering you on.

So you might be running, the cheerleader will be saying, yeah, keep running, keep running. But you stop running, and you say, I've got to sit down. Your cheerleader can say, sit down, that's it, sit down, get some rest, get some oxygen into your lungs, have some water.

And you might say, I'm completely knackered, I can't, I don't want to go on anymore, because I don't feel very well, or my legs hurt. That's great. Rest, go home, you know, celebrate, you've done half of the marathon, you know, you did your best.

But, you know, the cheerleader doesn't have to be, doesn't just have to be cheering you on when things are going well, like perfect, however often that is. They also cheer you on to feel okay within yourself when things aren't going, perhaps so well. To let you know, so if there's an anxiety moment, a cheerleader can remind you, you're going to be okay.

This is a temporary thing, you're going to be all right. Or I'm going to be all right. It doesn't have to be in a third person, it'd be, I'm going to be all right, to remind you that you're going to be okay.

It's a temporary, physical feeling, or emotional feeling, or both, that you're experiencing in that moment. You're not broken. You can check, can you move your leg? Can you move your hand? Move parts of your body that are fine, normally.

Yeah, you can move them. Can you still see? Can you still hear? Can you move your tongue? Yeah, so you're not broken. If you can move one thing, and I'm saying this to people that are able-bodied, of course, if someone's completely paralysed, that's, you know, I realise some people might be listening who are, and I don't mean any disrespect when I'm talking about moving a part of your body, and I'm sure you understand that.

But even if it's just blinking your eyes, or closing your mouth, opening, it means you're not broken. And you may say, oh, it's easy for you to say you're physically able, or whatever. But I'm not talking about physical issues.

I'm talking about from an emotional perspective. I'm talking about from a stress, anxiety, and that perspective. From a positivity perspective.

Moving from negativity to positivity. Because you don't have negative cheerleaders. Can you imagine that, a negative cheerleader at a basketball game or a football game? Just, you know, all these people just doing, doing little dances saying, you're crap, you're shit, you're rubbish.

Which is kind of some of the stuff that we might say to ourselves. Can you imagine that? I'm guessing they wouldn't keep their jobs. Because I'm aware that cheerleading is a professional job for a lot of people.

They get paid. It's a career. It's not always just something at school or, you know, a hobby.

People do that as a job, as a career. It's what they love. And in America, some cheerleaders, they'll travel the country.

You know, it's an important thing. It's a very positive thing. So you could say to yourself, what kind of cheerleader would you want to be to somebody else? So you think of someone in your life that is going through it.

They're suffering. They're unhappy. Maybe they're physically ill.

Whatever's going on with them. So, what kind of a cheerleader would you like to be inside their head? What kind of things would you like to tell them? You know, if you could take over the cheerleader role, so it would be part of them. So it would be talking to them as it is them.

You know, it's like, it's not, uh, Bob, you are great, but I am great. Or I am able to deal with this. This, you know, as a first person thing.

And when you think about that, how would you like to be a cheerleader for someone else? Then maybe think, how would you like your inner cheerleader to be? And maybe develop that idea. And I realize I perhaps should call this cheerleader, be the title of this recording. But it all fits in with, you're not broken.

You're not broken. And I just wonder what it feels like if you say to yourself now, I'm not broken. Just say it to yourself three times.

I'm not broken. Three times. How do you feel? How do you feel different from how you felt at the beginning of this recording when I asked you to do that? Notice the difference in energy.

Notice how things feel changed, things are always changing. And that phrase, I am, or I'm not broken. I'm not broken.

You could flip it, I'm okay. Or I'm going to be okay. Or I'm going to be better.

Or I'm going to improve. Or maybe all of those. And I think it's important to really get it.

It's good to go from a positive. It's good to like phrase things in a positive. But sometimes I think it's also useful to remember what the negative was that you were thinking.

Because the thought of someone thinking that they're broken is such an extreme, limiting, horrible thought. Very damaging. And it's nasty, isn't it? It's a nasty way to think about yourself.

It's almost cruel. It's almost kind of giving up. And that's something you should never do ever, ever, ever.

That's why the cheerleaders inside you. Because it doesn't matter what you do, you're not giving up. And not giving up doesn't mean continuing to run when you can't breathe any longer and your legs aren't working.

That's not giving up. Sitting down and having a break is not giving up. Even though some people say he's given up, he's sitting down now, he's drinking water, he's lying on the floor resting.

He didn't finish the race, therefore he quit. No. It's not giving up.

That's stopping doing that particular activity. It's not giving up. And that inner cheerleader won't let you give up ever, because it will cheer you on no matter what you do.

Because it accepts you. It loves you. It's your cheerleader.

It reminds you constantly that you are not broken. It's the antidote to that thought that you may used to have, you know. It's the antidote.

It gets rid of it. Constantly reminding you and telling you that you're not broken. Reminding you by cheering you on with whatever you're doing.

So whether you're staying in bed all day because you can't face going out or doing anything, your cheerleader can say, well, you're getting some rest. And keeping that positivity up, reminding you that tomorrow's another day, and you're choosing to be in bed. You don't have to do anything.

It's a choice, which means tomorrow or in an hour's time, you can get out of bed. If you want to have a bath or a shower, or not have a bath and a shower, or maybe not both, but whatever you choose, your cheerleader can be behind you, reminding you that you're not broke. You're not broken.

You don't need fixing because you're not broken. Changes may be required, but I would suggest that changes are required for every single person on the planet. We all need things to be a little bit different.

We all need to make changes in our life. If we want to progress emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically, whatever, or if we want to just delay deterioration, physical deterioration with age, maybe we need to start doing more walking. I feel really old now as I talk about that, but maybe as I'm getting older, I might need to do more physical stuff to prevent my joints seizing up.

That's okay. It just means making changes. I can't do backflips anymore.

I'll tell you a secret that I never could, but don't tell anyone. You know, it's okay. But your inner cheerleader can say, it's fine.

Whatever you do is okay. We're on your side. Let's make it positive, though.

It's going to be positive. You're going to want to be positive and do nice things for yourself. Be kind to yourself.

Because that happens organically. Because when you stop that train of thought of negativity towards yourself, and I'm no good at this, and I'm crap at this, and I'm broken, and all that stuff, it gets in the way of that natural flow of creativity and feeling the opportunity to feel happy and to actually get in touch with gratitude and to be able to forgive others and yourself. So that cheerleader can remind you, keep going.

Even if it is something like just getting some food, go on. That's really good. And get the toast.

That's it. Put the frozen bread in the toaster. Go and get the butter from the fridge.

Go and get some cheese. Hey, that's really good. Way to do that.

Make that cheese really, really sliced thin. And I say, yeah, well, actually bought it in slices. Oh, well done.

That's a really good idea. Why not tell yourself that you're doing really well? Why not? Whenever we ever had that, other than maybe when we was very tiny, possibly a lot of small children get told how wonderful they're doing all the time, when it comes to like potty training, eating with a knife and fork. Oh, good boy, Jason, you managed to do a poo and you didn't do it on the carpet this time.

It's just, you know, you get a lot of positive reinforcement. But for some reason, that kind of seems to subside somewhat with age. So we need to keep it going in our head.

We need to have our own reinforcement, positive reinforcement. So before I go, I just want you to say the words again in your head. I'm not broken.

Just say it three times and just do it slowly. Say it really slowly. I'm not broken.

Just do it three times and notice how you feel. Notice how you physically feel. If you're still doing it, I apologize.

You're doing it much slower than I thought. I thought I should have enough time. But if you're still doing it, it doesn't matter.

I can interrupt. So what I want you to do now is I want you to say the words, I'm not broken, twice. But I want you to do it in a really annoying, high pitched voice.

It could be something like Mickey Mouse. It could be any silly voice that you can imagine. And just say it could be a Muppet, whatever.

So if you do that now, just say it twice. I'm not broken. But instead of that, it's like, I'm not broken.

You know, that's an example to do that now. So I guess it feels pretty bit silly. Now what you could do now is make an accent.

Put a silly make-belief accent on. Something that you like. And it could be an accent that you like.

So you might be a fan of the Irish accent or French accent. Or maybe if you're in America, you might love the Canadian accent. I hear that you get on really well.

So give that a go. So whatever accent you want, do that twice. But exaggerate the accent.

Make it ridiculous. If you do that now, do it twice. Just say, I'm stuck.

I'm not going to do an accent. But I'll let you do yours. But I'm not broken twice.

Okay, so I just want you to just notice how it feels. What kind of energy you've got in your body and in your mind right now. And you know what I would do if you was here right now, and I had a group of people, I would, and this is something you can do, and I'll leave you on this note, on this idea.

And you can do this if you want to do this, but you need your eyes open to do it. And you need a bit of space. So you might need to do in the garden or do it in your living room or I don't know.

Unless of course, you've got a dance studio available, which you possibly don't. Not everybody's got a dance studio. But this literally is that it's a case of dancing around.

You can shout at the top of your voice. I'm not broken. Of course, you don't have to dance.

You can just do it. Go into a field. There's no one around and shout at the top of your voice.

Or you can sing. I'm not broken. You can just sing it.

Or you can dance and sing it at the same time, or dance and shout it at the same time. It doesn't have to be a professional performance. You know, everybody can dance when there's no one looking.

So give that a go. Play with it. Play with the idea.

I'm not broken. I'm not broken. And you're not broken.

And remember that. This is serious stuff, you know. Serious to remember that.

And the thing is, you're not going to be able to forget because now that you've listened to me for an hour, rabbiting on about it, it's now stuck in your head. Sorry about that. There's very little that can be done now.

So that cheerleader in your brain is going to be there now, cheering you on, giving you positivity and love, and reminding you that you're not broken. Just like my stomach's reminding me that I need to eat something for some reason. So you take care of yourselves.

I'm going to go. And if you do get a chance, do a little dance. Do do that and maybe let me know how you get on.

So take care of yourselves. Thank you for listening. And remember, as always, to be kind to yourself.

Because you deserve to be happy. And you're not broken. Lots of love.

Bye.