#70 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks SAFE SPACE (Jason Newland) (9th January 2020)

Hello and welcome to jasonnewland.com. My name is Jason Newland and this is relaxation hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. Please only listen and you can safely close your eyes. I just want to say thank you for those of you that listen, or just to all of you that listen actually.

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I'm not sure if that actually made sense, but it made sense in my head as I was saying it, or before I started saying it, and then when I said it out loud, I'm not sure if it really came across as sensical. So only listen when you can safely close your eyes. What I thought we'd do today is something a little bit different from normal.

Everything's a little bit different from normal really, isn't it? I suppose, but I thought it'd be quite nice to get in touch with that part inside of our mind that is calm. So I'm purposely making this recording during the day, where there is likely to be background sounds. I'm not expecting anything like loud or anything, but no helicopters taken off from the garden or stuff like that.

There won't be any elephants running through my home, I hope. Or I don't know, that'd be interesting, wouldn't it? It'd definitely be an interesting story to tell. I have to be quite a small elephant because the doorways aren't that big.

So, there's something about being able to get in touch with, or beneficial, getting in touch with that part of your mind that we all have. We all have a place, some people call it a safe place, where you just close your eyes. And regardless of what's happening, I'm sitting here in my living room on a chair.

The windows are open, not wide open, but they're open. So when anyone goes in and out of the garden gate, there's a sound, there's sound of traffic on the other side, outside the kitchen window. Someone might knock on the door.

Andre might decide to run around or climb up on me, and so it's the birds in the trees. There's also the physical feelings that I've got. My lower back is just a little bit achy, a little bit.

My neck, the back of my neck is very achy. I slept on it a bit weird a couple of days ago, and it's still not really recovered yet, but it's a lot better than what it was. But I can notice it, and it's more noticeable when I focus on it, which makes sense, doesn't it, I guess.

And the back of my head is a little bit throbby, which is sort of, I would put down to the lower neck, the lower part, you know, the back of the neck. My right shoulder is a little bit achy. I'm basically falling apart.

I need to be replaced with a new body, I think. But I'm noticing these things, but I'm not moaning about them. I'm not feeling sorry for myself.

It's okay to feel sorry for yourself. I'm not judging. Sometimes I love to feel sorry for myself, but it is of no use.

I think it can have a little bit of a therapeutic benefit sometimes, I think. A little bit of self-indulgence, a little bit of a, worries me every now and then, perhaps, but not on a regular basis. And I think if we sort of keep track of the reality that it's not useful, necessarily.

But I still, you know, I still go there sometimes. So, you know, none of us are perfect. And you know what? I don't want to be perfect.

I'm quite happy having flaws and trying to change things, maybe improve some things, accept other things. So as I'm mentioning how I'm feeling, because you might be thinking, well, why are you telling me how you're feeling? What's that got to do with me? How are you feeling? This is an invitation for me to you to get in touch with how you're feeling. And that's kind of the point of why I was telling you how I'm feeling.

How do you feel right now? How does your body feel? Because, you know, people that have got chronic pain, I've got a bit of chronic pain, but it's not anything serious. But I know that people that got chronic pain, it can affect them emotionally. Why? Of course it does.

I mean, it's standard, isn't it? It's emotional pain and physical pain causes emotional pain. However, sometimes when you actually just sit with it, acknowledge it, but don't try and push it away, which is the natural thing that we do. It's the most natural thing in the world to want to push the pain away and to keep it as far away as possible.

Also with emotional pain as well, it's just natural. And it makes sense to do that. I mean, you can't argue with it really.

Well, who wants to feel pain? Nobody does really, do they? Apart from when you're feeling sorry for yourself and it's almost like you invite the pain in, don't you, when you do that? When you want it to be a victim for a little bit, that's when I sort of spend a couple of hours feeling like the whole world's against me and it's just... I kind of almost invite the suffering in.

It's funny. The idea of it's funny, but it's true.

It's ridiculous, but it's true. That is what I sometimes do. And part of that might be because I do want to feel it, because maybe I've spent so much time trying to push it away.

Maybe sometimes I want to just feel it. However, if you just allow the feelings to be there, you neither push away or really feel it either. Because once you stop pushing something away, it no longer has the pressure that it has.

It might have felt really tense, really like it was trying to sort of break through the door, this uncomfortable feeling. But once you take the door off the hinges and leave that doorway open, what can it really do? It just flows. It just turns into a flow.

And sometimes, for example, my lower back will ache. Other times, I'm not even thinking about it, or I'm not even noticing it. And this recording isn't about chronic pain.

It's kind of, I suppose, using it as an example because first of all, chronic pain. A lot of people with stress, depression, or I suppose turning around the other way, a lot of people with chronic pain have got extreme stress and depression due to the pain. And anxiety, perhaps about what they're capable of doing, worrying about and what their body will do in certain circumstances.

So, if I was asked to help to move, if I had a family member said, can you help me move? I'm moving house on Friday, can you help me? And I'd want to help. But I would perhaps, well, I definitely start thinking about my back. What if my back doesn't hold up to it? So, I'm strong enough to do stuff, but it hurts.

And it really hurts afterwards. So, I can lift a washing machine with help from someone else, I can't do it on my own, but I can lift a washing machine, which is really heavy. But then I end up maybe having to lay down for an hour afterwards because of the pain on my back.

So, knowing that there's a possibility of that, I might start getting anxious and worrying. And the likelihood is that's going to get my brain focusing on my lower back to an extent where I'm probably going to be suffering long before I even get to the house to help my family member move. Which brings you back to this safe place, which we all have.

I believe that everybody's got a place in their mind. It doesn't have to be like a lovely decorated room with, you know, doesn't have to be a visual place. Doesn't have to have a doorway that you open and you go in and you see things.

It can, but it doesn't have to. For me, it's more about the feeling because that's what it ultimately ends up as anyway. You see something that leads to a feeling.

You smell something that leads to a feeling. You hear something that leads to a feeling. You touch something that results in a feeling, like an emotional feeling.

So, this is kind of going straight to the feeling without all the other stuff. So, no bodily functions required for this. No senses required for this.

And it's a case of just going inside and instead of searching for a doorway, or searching for something that, when you think how big our brains are and how big our minds are, all those billions of connections and stuff. How am I supposed to find this little room? It's not like that. It's just a feeling.

The feeling leads you there. That feeling is, I guess it's going to be different for everybody, but I can explain the feeling, my feeling to you, that I have when I'm in that space inside my mind. And I'm still aware of what's going on outside.

It's, I suppose it's in some ways, it's kind of trance-y, kind of hypnotic in a sense of focus. But the fact that I can still talk to you and explain what's going on, which if I got more involved and more, I suppose the more connected I got to that feeling, the less I would want to talk. But then that'd be no good for an audio recording, would it?

So, I will continue to talk.

So, I suppose it's kind of a meditative situation as well. So, at the moment, I'm noticing I've got the breeze coming in through the window. So, the window's open just a crack, you know, it's just open a little bit.

There's a little bit of breeze coming in. The sun's shining on my face, which is pretty amazing considering it's January. That doesn't normally happen at two o'clock in January.

So, that's quite nice. I like that. So, I'm feeling fairly comfortable sitting in a chair.

Maybe you'd like to join me. Maybe, you know, if you haven't got yourself comfortable yet, maybe press the pause button and get yourself comfortable in a chair. Or if you want to lay down on a bed or lay up in a bed, whatever, just get yourself comfortable.

Maybe you want to sit outside if it's a nice day. Because, you know, you may be listening to this in another part of the world where it's really sunny and warm and lovely. Or you might be somewhere where it's cold and snowy and lovely.

So, just do what you want to do. So, I can hear the helicopter going over. I told you I have helicopters in the garden, didn't I? You didn't believe me.

Actually, I think that's a plane. But we do have helicopters going over. And I'm a very auditory person in a sense of, I find sounds, I notice sounds and I'm just more affected by it.

I can kind of hear everything that's going around, around me, just at a distance, not paying too much attention. Although, when I mention it, I kind of become more focused on it. Just like when I talk about how my body feels in the chair, being supported by the chair, I focus on my body.

My arms are resting on the armrests of the chair. My feet are on the floor. My hands feel very relaxed, very loose, just limp.

And when I focus on my hands and how loose and I suppose floppy, you could call them, although I'm not moving them, but that sense of relaxation that my hands have automatically embraced is spreading through my body. I can just feel a calmness in my body. Maybe you could notice that too.

I'm now noticing my stomach. And if you could see me, you'd probably say, well, how could you not notice your big tubby stomach? That's not the point. Point is, I can just notice it feels relaxed.

And even though I can, the more my body relaxes, I can feel my lower back a little bit more. Because it's starting to stand out a little bit compared to the rest of my body and my right shoulder a little bit, just a tiny little bit in the back of my neck. But the reality is that the back of my neck is way more relaxed than it was before.

My lower back, it's almost, it's got that feeling of not itchiness, but that sense of, you know, when the part of your body's healing. Maybe there's a little bit of extra blood flow going there to clean out that area and to send those healing particles or whatever's required for healing to that part of your body. Actually, my lower back feels fairly comfortable and my back of my neck is very relaxed now.

So, as you go inside, go inside your mind and you realize that actually you're already there. You're almost kind of already in that safe space, the place where you can take a break from everything. The place where you can actually enjoy being you without any effort or thinking.

It's almost like a neutral place where you don't need to think about anything, don't need to plan, there is no future, there is no past, there isn't even a present, it's just a space that you're in. It's almost like you're just energy and you can hear the sounds of the earth, which is the sounds around maybe the cars, maybe planes, maybe people walking past the house. That becomes the sounds of the planet, almost like the earth breathing.

It's that sound that you hear, this planet that supports you and supports everybody else. But right now, it's almost like you're not on this planet, you're inside your own planet, just in that safe space where nothing matters. Where every part of your body feels absolutely fine and relaxed.

Now, when you're in that space, that safe space, you really do feel safe, that real sense of... It's almost like that space is breathing for you, like your brain is the universe and you've reached the center of that universe with that safe space where you don't need to do anything. There's nothing required for you to say, do, think or feel, it's almost blissful in a sense that nobody wants anything from you, including yourself.

You're not demanding yourself to do anything or to think anything.

When you're in this safe space, you're not trying to fit in with other people's expectations. You're not trying to please anybody. In this safe space, there are no regrets.

There are no plans, no past, no future, no now. Time doesn't exist in this space. This safe space is yours to visit whenever you choose, to get away from everything.

And because time doesn't exist inside that same space, you can choose to sit down in the future and just go to that safe space for a minute. And I can feel like you've been there for a whole day, a whole day of relaxation, releasing worries and stresses from your body and from your mind, so that your body feels so refreshed and relaxed. And every time you go to that safe space, your body knows that it's time to heal.

It's time to relax. It's time for you to let go. So if you choose, you can stay in that safe space for as long as you want to, because you're in control of what you do next.

You're the boss of you. And I'm going to leave you, and I'm going to see you again, speak to you again very soon. And whenever you're ready to leave that safe space inside your mind, you can just open your eyes, knowing that the feelings that you had, the feelings that you have when you're there in that safe space can stay with you.

And actually have a very positive effect on the rest of your day. So thank you for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself, because you deserve to be happy.

You really do. Lots of love. Bye.