#57 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks (Jason Newland) (18th September 2019)

Hello, welcome to jasonnewland.com. My name is Jason Newland and this is relaxation hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. Please only listen when you can safely close your eyes. I hope you're well and just to remind you that my website jasonnewland.com has all of my recordings on there.

And I know that it's probably a lot easier to use the podcast that you're using, whether it's Apple, Stitcher, Spotify, whatever. But I do have other podcasts that may be useful, other recordings that I've been making since 2006 that may also be useful. I've got a lot of relaxation sessions and sleep sessions, insomnia.

I've got a regular podcast I do called Deep Sleep Whisper Hypnosis, where I whisper, just very, very soft, very quiet. And they normally last about 20 minutes. I've done 145 of them, I think, so far.

I've got the Let Me Bore You To Sleep ones, which is just me rabbit on on about nothing for an hour. And there's 219 of those. And there's the Sleep Hypnosis Weekly, which I do.

That lasts a bit longer, probably about 40 minutes, sometimes an hour. And that's once a week, as well as other sleep sessions that I've done. So out of all the recordings I've made over the years, I've got more sleep recordings than anything else.

So you're never going to run out. The benefit that the sleep sessions have is they're all relaxing. So you don't necessarily need to only listen to them when you're in bed wanting to go to sleep.

You might just decide to take an hour out of the day, sit down in a chair, lay back, or have a lie down and just feel relaxed, just enjoy the feeling. So I just thought I'd let you know about that stuff. Now today, what I'm thinking of doing is, I'm pretty sure I've done it before.

But it can't really be done enough. Because what I want to do is help you to deal with a fear, something that you're scared of, a phobia, and something that you're anxious about doing. Based on something that you're anxious, because maybe you've, you've had anxiety before, or it didn't go as well as you wanted to.

It could be a variety, it's just infinite amount of possibilities for that. So I'm not even going to attempt to imagine the different scenarios that could be possible. There's probably hundreds just for myself over the years.

And most of them, most of the things that happen in their lives, don't have an effect, like a huge effect. We almost, it's like the wind just blows over us, you know, and we just keep walking and forget about it. You don't think about what the weather was like yesterday, necessarily.

Unless it was some torrential weather, but generally the weather's gone. It was windy. So what? It was raining, got it wet.

Don't know. But then there's occasionally is that weather that is memorable, to say the least. I had a friend a couple of years ago, phoned me up and said, my roof's just blown off.

And I don't mean farted. I mean, it blew off her house. And I was actually in my flat enjoying the sound of the wind.

So it's weird how we have these different, I mean, she might have been enjoying listening to it as well. But not since her roof blew off. She now associates the wind in her mind, possibly, or she could, I don't know, but she could associate it with that situation that happened.

That one-off event that's unlikely to ever happen to anyone ever in normal circumstances. And I say that, I realise that some people live in places where they have, is it typhoon seasons or hurricane seasons? And we don't have that in my country. So just bear with me with my ignorance for that stuff.

But we don't, it's unlikely to happen here. I hope it's unlikely to happen where you are as well. And if it did happen, it's unlikely to happen twice.

I hope. So in life, as in the weather, we get through most of the weather and it doesn't affect us. Maybe it affects us in a moment, maybe it affects our day.

You get to work, you're soaking wet by the rain when you get to work. And you're sitting there for a few hours with wet socks. Not an enjoyable experience.

And you can't dry them on the radiator in the office, because all the other people complain. You get through it. It's uncomfortable, you move on.

But then there's that time, that weather that does affect. We had a hurricane here in 1987, I think it was. And blue trees down, it was really, it was a big deal because we don't normally have that kind of extreme weather.

It affected a lot of people. And I'm always going to remember that day. Not traumatically, because it didn't cause me any trauma.

But I found it funny because I looked out the window. And the window cleaner was still trying to clean the windows of the supermarket opposite where I lived. And the windows were black with dirt from the wind.

So I lived near the sea. So all the sand was being blown up. And he was there being blown around still trying to wash the window that was dirty as soon as he washed it.

And it tickled me. But for other people, it was a really horrible experience. I suppose that's a benefit of staying indoors, isn't it? So with, like the weather, with those experiences, we're affected, aren't we? Sometimes more than others.

So there's a thing that can be done, there's a technique. I don't do a huge amount of techniques, but this isn't my technique. And officially, it's called Fast Phobia Cure.

And it's an NLP technique. However, although NLP has taken credit for it, I've seen similar techniques in old hypnosis books from, you know, 70 years ago, or longer, something similar. And the point of that, the whole idea of it is, you've got this memory, you've got this emotion attached to this memory.

And it's about changing the way you see the memory, the way you experience the memory. Doesn't change what happened. You need a time machine for that.

There are techniques to help you completely forget what happened and have amnesia for what happened. But I don't do stuff like that. This is about changing how you feel about what happened.

It's so that you can break that pattern, which may be holding you back from enjoying your life in certain circumstances. So it might not be something that affects your whole life. I hope it isn't.

However, it might, if something happened in a supermarket, for example, and it could be something, let's say going into a supermarket, and the credit card gets declined. I've had that happen to me. And I was very embarrassed.

Now, for some people, you can brush it off, move on. Other people, it causes trauma, emotional trauma. And I learned years ago, never underestimate, I don't know how to word this properly, but don't underestimate how something can cause emotional pain to somebody.

Try not to, if someone says to you that they're scared of something, my advice, and I've done this in the past myself, and I try not to do it anymore, my advice is don't mock them. Because it might seem trivial to us, but it is not to them. And what is trivial to them might not be to us.

When I was a kid, I was probably quite horrible. You know, I'd make fun of people that had phobias and stuff like that. But as a kid, I didn't know any better.

I'm now educated and still make mistakes. But I was very surprised when I was, you know, started out as a counsellor. Some of the things that you'd, if I told you, you might even laugh.

Not because you're mocking anyone. But just because it's like seems so ridiculous, that something like that could traumatize someone. Something so seemingly small, seemingly unimportant.

But to them, it wasn't unimportant. So, and there's the other side of it is actually, we've all been the cause of someone else's emotional, I don't want to use the word trauma, but emotional problems. All of us.

Even by not meaning to be. But we can't walk around tiptoeing around everybody all the time. So, you say something to someone, you don't know their past, you don't know what their triggers are.

And you might say something as a joke, which I have many times. And I upset many people over the years. And I didn't mean to.

But the thing is, I'm very aware of that situation, is you don't know what other people's baggages or other people's emotional issues are. So, that's why I have to be quite vague when I make these recordings. Apart from when I, I do have a podcast, self-help, self-development, whatever it's called, podcast, where I focus on specific issues.

So, like nail biting and maybe phobia and a phobia of balloons and some other stuff. But this is like a general anxiety, a general, something that's stopping you from doing an activity that perhaps you used to do or that you would like to do. Because it's a shame to allow anything or anybody to get in the way of you being happy.

Because it doesn't matter what you're doing, as long as it doesn't hurt another person. If you feel happy doing it, then go and do it. And if something's stopping you from doing it, like a memory, a traumatic memory, or something that's happened in the past and, you know, emotionally, you're blocked.

From doing that thing that, you know, will actually give you happiness and pleasure. Then I think it's worthwhile to make those changes. And I realized that this podcast is about anxiety, stress, panic, and things like that.

Well, that's what this is. That's, you know, it's not just for people that are going through constant trauma and constant stress. It's also for people, regardless of how often they experience this stuff.

A phobia is someone that's scared of something, or scared of doing something, whether it's rational or irrational, is equal to any panic attack. And equal, it deserves equal respect. I believe that somebody that's, you know, suffering with constant panic attacks and stress and anxiety, depression, whatever it may be.

Because although that phobia, sometimes you can avoid it. If you got scared of flying, just don't fly. And you might be able to do everything else in your life.

So it doesn't really affect your life, perhaps. And that's not the same as someone that's going through panic attacks constantly. And I've got agoraphobia and they can't leave the house.

It's not the same. But you stick that person on a plane or in an airport, or get them to think about going on a plane, the feeling they have will be just as strong, guaranteed, as any feeling that anyone could ever have. As far as panic goes, and anxiety and stress.

So it is worthy of respect, I think. And to acknowledge that actually, although it may be avoidable, a lot of things are avoidable. I said avoidable then, avoidable.

I mean, ultimately, agoraphobia is, if you turn it on its head, that is avoiding everything. It's almost like, if you avoid everything, therefore you can't be stressed or have any anxiety or panic. That's not, that's not the kind of life that most people would enjoy having.

And the way I see it is, if you like being on your own, and you like being at home and you don't want to be at going out, because that's not what you want to do. Brilliant. Good on you.

That's the category that I sit in. I prefer being at home and going out. But if you're staying inside because of physically not being able to walk out of the door, because of the intensity of the emotional trauma that's going on, the panic, the stress, anxiety, then that is not freedom.

Freedom is choice. Freedom is choosing. So in a way, a phobia, depending on what it is, does still offer freedom, most of the time, depending on what the phobia is.

Being phobic of flying, you're free, you're free, you don't have to go to flying. If you've got phobia of going on boats, you don't have to go on a boat. But then what happens if you're in a relationship with someone who really wants to go on a cruise, who really wants to go to the other side of the world, on a plane? Not being able to do that, or refusing to do it, can cause problems, big problems.

I know people that have actually had marital issues because of it. So in my mind, part of my kind of plan with what I do, with these recordings, these free services, is to try and minimize or reduce or get rid of as many limiting beliefs as possible. To free, free up your mind and my mind, free it up, make it a bit looser, a bit less constricted, a bit less limited.

And it also goes together with feeling more relaxed, not being superstitious, that kind of stuff. It's very limiting. And it's something that we've been taught, not something we were born.

We weren't born with these beliefs. In fact, we weren't born with pretty much any beliefs. It's taught.

You could take a baby and teach that baby pretty much anything. You could teach a child to believe absolutely anything. Anything.

And I think that shows in society. But we can also teach ourselves, that brain that learns those beliefs can also learn new stuff. Sometimes it's nice to maybe loosen it up a little bit and get rid of some of those limiting beliefs, some of those things that we've been taught.

Perhaps when you were a child, when you were younger, you were told things. You were told that you weren't able to do stuff. You're never going to be able to do that or you're never going to be able to do that.

You're never going to be the best painter or you're never going to be able to, whatever it is. People put in their limitations onto you. And then you've been taken, and I did as well.

I took those ideas and beliefs on, believing that it was true. But it wasn't all true. Because it was just opinion.

And opinions aren't facts. Big difference. And also, I think what we are able to do now isn't necessarily what we're able to do in five years time.

I can't play the piano. But I guarantee I could in five years time if I started learning today. If I really put my mind to it, I could learn to play the piano.

But I can't play it now. That's a fact. So someone could say, you can't play the piano.

And I say, you're right. If they say you're never going to be able to play the piano, they're wrong. I remember when I was a kid seeing someone playing the piano with their toes, because they had no arms.

I mean, that's inspirational. I wonder, how did that conversation go? Dad, Mum, I'd like a piano for Christmas. They must have thought, what on earth? But somewhere, I imagine this man's parents must have been supportive.

Because if that had been, a lot of parents would have just laughed it off. No, you can't play the piano, you've got no arms. So someone without arms can play the piano.

Someone that hasn't learned to play the piano, who has arms, can learn to do it. So that's where I go with the beliefs. And it changes.

And what we think about ourself changes to what we used to think about yourself. It changes. And I'm not sure how much attention you pay to that change that's always happening.

Because sometimes it's useful to revisit old beliefs. It might be useful to visit or revisit old memories that used to cause stress, that maybe used to be what you contributed, you know, to a trigger to an emotional response. Maybe it doesn't anymore.

Maybe it's changed. Maybe you don't know why it's changed, but maybe it's changed. And it kind of doesn't matter why.

It's useful information if you decide, well, that's changed, I want to use that same technique or that same process, that same recipe. On something else, another thing, maybe stage fright, you know, public speaking, maybe asking someone out that you like, or simply putting your right foot through the front door outwards and then your left foot in front of that and walking out of your home, or going into a public place, going into the supermarket and buying your food, sitting on a bus, feeling relaxed and calm, wondering why has it changed?

How come things change so quickly? And I'll give you an example actually, recently, there was, what was it? Yeah, there was something I heard music. I was outside and it sounded really loud.

And this was about 12 o'clock at night. And it sounded like it was coming from over the fence, like in the other garden near where I live. And I was like thinking, oh, how inconsiderate and just being a general grumpy old man, really.

And I had in my mind, oh, they're, not that they were doing it to annoy me personally, but just, because I like to make recordings at night. And I knew, I thought if this goes on all night, I'm not going to be able to make any recordings. And so I just, my friend knocked on my door, said, do you want to go for a walk? I'll take a dog for a walk and I'll take Andre for a walk.

And we did. And he said, can you hear that music? I said, yeah, I know it's the neighbours. He said, no, it's not.

I said, yeah, it is. He said, no, it's coming from the pub, which is all the way, probably about 10, 15 minute walk away. I said, what? He said, yeah, it's coming from the pub.

I said, no. But we walked and it was, walked around. It sounded like it was coming from there.

That's a boring story, I admit. But my emotions changed. My feelings changed.

And they weren't strong feelings. I wasn't, I was hardly like punching the wall, you know, I wasn't jumping up and down going red. I wasn't writing an angry letter to the council.

Instantly disappeared. Instantly that feeling just vanished. So things can change so quickly.

It's almost, I've seen people argue in the past, where like a couple, a man and a woman, or they're just thinking of a particular time. I've seen a few times where they're really, really arguing and saying horrible stuff to each other. But at one point, one of them says something that makes the other one laugh.

And it's really interesting to watch that because they're both angry. They're both trying to think of saying the worst things they can say, trying to think what can I bring up as, you know, as ammunition. And then they get caught off guard.

And they laugh, like naturally laugh, because they get tickled by something just like that. And to watch that person laughing, and then trying to push the laughter away, trying to get that feeling back that they had before that, you know. And I could see that struggle.

I could see, you know, it's like, almost like all the armour had fallen off. And they're trying to put the armour back on again. Trying to get all, you know, I want to, I've got to feel that way again, I've got to get it back.

So emotions can change in a second. And sometimes things need a lot of energy to hold on to them, to keep them going. Things like anxiety, panic, and sometimes just listening to someone like me rabbiting on.

And I know it does seem like I just talk and talk and talk, and I kind of do. But it's about how you feel. It's about how you feel differently.

During and after you've listened to me. That's, that's the tester. That's, that is it.

That is the point. That is where you can actually cut through, cut through that stuff that, that crap that you don't need. It's almost like turning the extractor fan on in the kitchen.

After you've burnt some sausages or something, you know, or whatever toast, and you can just see the smoke moving and clearing. So you can see the kitchen clearly again. And anxiety seems to be smoke, fog, kind of blocks what's actually there, almost like the darkness.

If you're in a room and the lights on, and you turn the light off, it feels different. And eventually your eyes become acclimatized to the darkness. And, you know, you might can't see everything clearly, but you can generally maybe see the bit of light coming in through the window, perhaps the street light outside.

And you get an idea where everything is, you know. But initially, very, very dark and you can't see anything. It feels different.

And that's almost anxiety and stress can fill. But instead of worrying about it, when you know, because you know that darkness is going to suddenly become lighter, and your eyes acclimatize. You have trust in that safety that you know you have.

You know where you are. You know that you're lying on your bed, or wherever you are. And it's fine.

And there's something about that fog, that smoke just disappearing, allowing you to see clearly through that thing that was causing, whether it's a phobia or whatever it is. Anything that gets in the way of your happiness doesn't deserve to be in your mind, really. Or anything that causes you unhappiness or stress, anxiety doesn't deserve to be in your mind, or your life.

Those feelings don't deserve to be there. You don't have to allow them to be there. This is your mind, it's your hotel.

You decide what guests you have in your hotel. There's a guest you don't like, you don't have them. Especially if they misbehave or make a mess of the place, or they don't pay their bill, you kick them out, and you don't allow them to come back.

And every guest has to leave at some point. It's a hotel, they don't stay forever. Some stay longer than others.

Some overstay their welcome. But those that overstay their welcome, don't get to come back. So when you've got that emotion, whether it's a phobia, stress, anxiety, whatever that thing is, that memory, that thought, that trigger, it's there at the moment, maybe.

But it has to leave because it's just visiting. It's just a visitor in your mind, the hotel of your mind. It's just renting a room for a short period of time, and it has to move out.

It's a temporary visitor. And when it leaves, you lock that door, you don't let it back. If it tries to get in, say, sorry, we're full.

Hotels full. We only have nice thoughts here now. We only have thoughts to expand your ability to believe in yourself, and to trust in your own ability to make those decisions that will increase your positivity and your sense of calmness and relaxation that's naturally within you, that comes with that confidence of knowing that you have so many qualities that allows you to make changes and allows you to enjoy your life.

So, qualities that other people like, qualities that you can maybe learn to appreciate, things, abilities that maybe have been almost stunted and held back due to false beliefs, beliefs that other people have embedded into your brain at an early age, maybe, telling you that, or if you felt that you weren't able to do stuff, or you weren't able to do the thing that you want to do that makes you happy, that you are somehow less than what you could be.

But now, as you think forward, you realize that, actually, you are able to take back that control and decide what beliefs you have, what confidence you can have in yourself, what things that you can now realize that you are able to do to improve your life, to improve your well-being, physically, emotionally, and mentally, able to make changes. So, you feel more relaxed, you're able to experience all emotions without being attached to any emotions, knowing that all feelings pass, every single feeling passes, it comes and then it leaves.

Just like those visitors at the hotel, they come and they leave. But as they leave, you can start being maybe a bit more, a bit more fussy about the clientele that you have staying in your hotel. So, those feelings can be things like anger, you don't want anger there, don't want any angry visitors, no, don't want them in the hotel.

Don't want any anxiety now, no, don't want any more of that. You can go somewhere else, but some confidence, please. Confidence can stay, relaxation can stay in the hotel, calmness, positivity, love, self-love, self-belief, self-choice, the ability to choose what you believe and how you feel and how you live your life.

So, I'm just going to quickly do this fast phobia cure for those that are interested. Now, if there's a particular thing and I'll let you, you can do it in your own time, but the basic, the whole, what it is, is you think about the thing, the person thinks about the thing that they're phobic about, they imagine watching it on a screen like a cinema in black and white.

So, you drain the color out and you can just go to the beginning of the event that may have caused that phobia or whatever and skip through it and then go backwards.

And you can just fast forward and rewind, fast forward, rewind, add music. And you can distort it, you can change it, you can add a little cartoon character running around for no reason. There's lots of different ways, there are millions of ways that you can make changes and sometimes just listening to someone like me talking.

And even though it may not seem like much, it's about how you feel, not just during but afterwards and not just immediately afterwards, feeling relaxed and calm and positive and noticing those changes. But it's also later on, in a few hours time, tomorrow, the next day, the day after, noticing how things have changed, what's happened, why has it changed, I didn't do anything, I didn't, well, you have done something, you just spent the last 48 minutes listening to me, you could have spent that time doing something else, probably more enjoyable possibly.

However, keep listening, the changes happen because those changes, they want to happen.

Your body and your mind wants to feel relaxed and calm, it wants to feel that release. It's basically carrying around this big heavy bag and your body doesn't want that anymore, doesn't want it and it's almost like your body doesn't know why you're still holding it and your mind doesn't really know why you're still holding it. It's almost like you've forgotten why you were holding it to start with and now it's affected your body, it's affected your mind and all you need to do is let it go, drop it to the floor and keep walking and never look back.

So I'm going to go, that's the end of this here recording, I should be back again possibly tomorrow. I try and do these regularly and I hope that they're useful, beneficial and if that is the case then please let me know, go to my website and just let me know how you feel, how you're getting on and I will speak to you very very soon. So remember to be kind to yourself because you deserve to be happy.

Lots of love. Bye.