#97 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks - "QUESTION AUTOMATIC THINKING" - (Jason Newland) (15th February 2020)

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Hello, and welcome to Jason newland.com. My name is Jason Newland, this is relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. Please only listen, when you can safely Close your eyes. Now, I suppose I should mention something that's probably doesn't need to be mentioned to regular listeners. But this podcast is more than the title. Even if the title is pretty damn long, you know, relaxation, for hypnosis, for stress, relaxation, there's quite a lot of things in the title. But there's more to the podcast and that more to the recording standard. It could really be titled mental health, you know, kind of covering all aspects of and then to emotional well being or ill ease or, you know, problems issues and stuff. So kind of it does overlap into other things. Just for I'd mentioned that, for those that listen regularly, you kind of know that anyway. Because I do talk about different things. I also do talk about myself as well, because it is my favorite subject. I'm very self obsessed, observer obsessed, obsessed. Not really more kind of. But you know, for just mention it for the new people that are listening for the first time. And I try to give my own personal experiences. I also tried to maybe introduce some different ways of thinking, possibly. It's really just kind of my opinion, or my noise and such opinion, my my thinking around a specific subject, just why Think about it. What thoughts come into my mind what ideas come into my mind? And that's kind of what this is. It's a mishmash of different things. And yeah, so I like to thank everyone for listening. Those that listen regularly, the audience is growing continuously. So thank you. You're the reason I do that. If there's no audience, I wouldn't do this. There's lots to watch on Netflix. So yeah, I've there are other things to do. But I choose to do this because I'm hopefully helping people. Hopefully. Also, please subscribe to the podcast if it's useful, if you like it. also lets you know when the new a new recordings coming out. So if you're listening on Spotify or Stitcher or iTunes, cast box, you just press the subscribe button, maybe even leave a review a little comment. Something nice, that'd be lovely. And if you'd like to support this free service to help cover costs, you can send me a PayPal gift@paypal.me forward slash Jason Newland, and links on our website. While I sort of boring stuff out away. No, it's not. It's loads more coming up. I thought I'd talk about worries. And worrying. Because I'll get a little bit sometimes get a little bit baggy about this. The idea because with stress and anxiety the amount of times that I've been asked, What are you worried about? What are you stressed about? And sometimes I can answer that question. Right now stressed about you. asking me that question. As annoying me that gets me stressed. Sometimes there's nothing obvious. The field I feel like I'm worrying about all I'm stressed about
yet. I have the physical symptoms of stress. My personal physical symptoms and it could be different for everyone. For me, I get heart palpitations, sometimes I get headaches, I get very tired. And sometimes hard to differentiate. My words are really working today but you know what mean differentiate between what is the stress? What is the bipolar? What is the you know what was kind of going on there. But part of the bipolar is my stress levels, kind of fluctuating quite rapidly at times.
And I am able to control them in various degrees of success. But sometimes, I'll be honest, I don't want to control them.
Sometimes I want to experience it, because it's almost like observing a play, just observing. So, what these symptoms got the physical symptoms, I can change the physical symptoms, using hypnosis using relaxation techniques, meditation, mindfulness, this ways to reduce it. Sometimes I like to kind of just observe it. Okay. So, you know, maybe a twitching finger, or I used to get twitching muscles, like proper, like my arm, my chest, my stomach sometimes. And that was due to stress. There's no other no other possible reason for it as physically, I've been ever medicals for years, checking me out, because I've been going to a doctor's and I've been checking to see if it's physically, you know, a physical issue and it never has been. Although I personally believe the depression anxiety is a physical thing. You know, it's not it's a brain isn't it? As I say that my, my right is started ringing, which is quite weird as strange. always feel like I'm a dog and someone's blow one of those weird whistles. So our brain affects our moods. And the brain is an actual organs a physical thing, isn't it? Just like our heart, just like your foot. Just like you know, your bum. Your hands is a physical thing. It's part of your body. And we kind of get, I think, with the mental health side of things, and get a little bit caught up in the mind.
When actually the brain it's the brain that affects the mind. And if the brain heals, or changes, I say heals. Because sometimes
brains, this this things I can do. Scientists now where they can retrain the brain, where they can kind of reactivate parts of the brain that maybe have been a bit dormant, or maybe been injured, heal parts of the brain had been injured by strokes by brain injury. And the behavior in the person changes. The moods in the person changes.
Sorry, so I'm quite a strong believer. Or I'm open, I'm open minded to the idea that mental illness or ill ease, stress, anxiety, mental health, whatever you want to call it. Whatever the condition may be, whatever the diagnosis is.
It's a physical thing. Yeah, it's an emotional thing and it's painful thing at times. And it could disrupt your life. I know mine disrupts my life. Bipolar has disrupted my life since I was a child. in a huge way, massive way, you know, if I just had a, what I would in my brain in my life would have called a normal brain, I would have had a steady job, had a wife had kids had a house had a, you know, probably grandchildren, by now, I'd have had a normal in mind, you know, my perception of what I was brought up to believe was normal, a normal life by having because of EDS, a chaotic mind, kind of bit of a chaotic life at times. So I actually said to my psychologist a couple of years ago, I said, if you ever get a chance, and you need people, patients, to do brain studies, where you, you know, do the, you know, they put the electronic things onto your head and scan your your brain for activity, not for activity, but to see what's going on inside. I said, I nominate myself to be part of that study. Because I truly believe that my brain is this damage there, this damage, everybody's got damaged in the brain, everyone's got brain damage. But not, not in the way that perhaps we blew up to believe what brain damages brain damage doesn't mean you're in a coma, or that you're unable to do anything. brain damage is just banging your head quite hard when you're four years old, falling down some steps or playing football and headwind the ball. Every single person has bashed their head quite a few times over their lifespan. You know, even some of the bestest childhood in the world where the No one's ever, you know, no one's ever hit them. And never been bullied at school, not nothing like that. There's still a bash their head have fallen over, been skating falling over. So we've all got damage to our brains. So maybe you should use Word brain damaged. But we've got because that stays very, is an emotive term, isn't it? So we all have parts of our brain that has been damaged. But it doesn't mean and this this isn't me talking? Well, it is me talking. But this is this is studies, I'm talking from the scientific studies that have been done. So basically, the way the brain is structured, there's no way that it can't be damaged by the way we live our lives. The only way is if we walked around with big crash helmets the whole time from being born. Because kids are always falling over and bashing again, you know, knocking into things. But it doesn't affect us in such a huge way, as obviously something like a car accident or someone been injured in a boxing ring or you know, saw a blood clot, or those kinds of things that that's on a different level, or someone with stroke. Where part of the brain may die, you know, just due to the lack of oxygen, or wherever during that period when they're waiting to be treated. Or a seizure or really bad seizure could have an effect to the brain. dementia, of course, Alzheimer's, those things where the brain starts to die, sites have basically deteriorate. And the expert the leading people in this leading scientific minds actually say that dementia and Alzheimer's starts 30 years before the the effects or even start to show before you even get the symptoms. It starts a long time before.
So then it started and then it kind of makes me think well it's about maintenance of the brain. What can we do to protect the brain to make sure that no more damage occurs what can we do to help the brain to repair itself to start activating other parts of the brain and listening to this is helping listening to music helps doing things or both your hands or both your legs helps because you're activating both parts of your brain reading, doing something new learning new information all those things help to create new neurological networks and connections and stuff like that. Diet I can't give any dietary advice. I can't give any advice on anything but dietary, you know, I eat too much chocolate drink too much coke. Um
I'm like five minutes away from diabetes, but that's my choice because I like drinking coconut chocolate. So I'm not doing anything dietary to help my brain. As I say that out loud. Perhaps I feel up perhaps I should to be fair.
Sounds pathetic, actually, when I'm some sort of almost proud that I eat unhealthily. I don't always eat healthfully. I just started don't eat that much, really. Anyway. So the brain defended with it, you probably noticed, but you might not know, the theory of mental illness. Let's call it illness, not mental health. We can call it mental health issues. But it's an old, physical, you know, I mean, I know I've said this before, but people keep still using the term. So I feel like I should embrace it. Because that's what everyone's using. They're talking about mental health. And I think the reason why it's been encouraged is because it's a positive statement. Mental health, focusing on the health aspect, the positive rather than mental illness. But the mental health isn't the problem. Because if everyone had mental health, why I would need to do this, if I wouldn't be doing it, because I wouldn't have any issues myself, because I'd have mental health. And I'd be fine. So I suppose you could add the word issues, mental health issues, which almost sounds a bit psychotherapy, doesn't it? I got issues, man, you got issues. So the aspects the kind of the way the psychiatrists look at it, with psychotherapists, psychologists look at it would be you got environment can affect someone's mental health. You've got genetics or DNA you inherited from your family. And then there's kind of bought Brain, Brain trauma, head trauma, or a brain injury, that it's not really been noticed. So like there's something physically wrong with the brain. In the same way to some people, some people are born with three toes. The difference is you can't see the brain. And that's the that's one of the jokes with the specialists in brain exploration and the fact that psychology psychotherapy beat has been around for over 100 years. Yet, it's the only science is the only medical science that treats the organ that it doesn't even look at. doesn't even look at the brain yet it treats the brain any time the brains looked at is when it's like a surgical thing. Someone's got chew mouth or something. brain damage your brain clot or something like that. Then they look at the brain. Or if it's someone's having seizures, they're not to put you in a machine and then look at the brain to see what's going on. If you've got bipolar or schizophrenia, depression, stress anxiety. Don't look at the brain. personality disorders don't look at the brain, they guess that's what they do. They get educated guess, based on sharing a group of symptoms with millions of other people. Again, you know, the we're all different, very different people. And also, based in that diagnosis on the person in front of them actually being honest. Because, you know, aka going into doctors or hospital, I go to doctors and say, yeah, me, me hands her in near Dodik say, Oh, it's broken. I said, No, it's not broken, doesn't hurt enough to be broken, it's just some mild discomfort. Can you move your fingers you can move a little bit, it's not broken down why it is just a says.
Now I can X ray and see that it's broken. But don't have to take my word for it. And if a doctor's any, well, anyone can see a broken hand Anyway, you can see see sight broken a hand. You can't see inside the brain. So the psych psychologist, psychiatrist, they're guessing. And then they give medication. And then based upon the results of that medication, that kind of gives them a second guess? Well, we must have guessed, right. Because you're no longer going really high or really low. Or you no longer hear voices or your stress levels of reduce whatever it might be. And, you know, formula, I suppose from some perspective is pretty impressive, that they can do it from guesswork. But you knows, if you go into an Uber and Stevie Wonder was at the driving wheel, you wouldn't you'd get out again, when you're asking for his autograph and ask him to sing a song. But you wouldn't you need someone that can see what's going on you need as how I've, that's how I feel, I will my brain to be looked at by a specialist, but not when I'm dead on it, so I can actually, you know, gain something from it. If they say, oh, was part of your brain that's deteriorated. And it's maybe you born like that. But we can stimulate that part of the brain with electronic therapy, cuz they got this stuff that they can do. And it can change the way you feel and behave. And there was an example where this specialist said that his nephew was really, really dark, like in his mind really was planning to do horrible things. He was only a kid, like seven or eight. But he wanted to get a gun. This is an America and he wanted to his fantasies about doing horrible things was violent and everything. And the specialist wanted to put him into a care home, to basically lock him up for the safety of society. But this doctor, happened to be a brain specialist said, Well wait, before we do that, let me get him checked out. So they checked his brain, they did a scan. And he had a tumor in his brain, a benign tumor that was born with but he had it in his brain. removed it. Behavior changed instantly. I just just seen the irony. I'm talking about our studies talking about worrying now to what about tumors in brains. And that's not where I was going with this at all. So please, forgive me I was just talking about the smallest change in the way your brain operates can affect your behavior. And by behavior, you're thinking because behavior before that is your thoughts, isn't it? We don't just do something. We think about doing it. Even if it's a million miles an hour, it's still a thought. First, then behavior, it might be thought emotion, then behavior based thought first. It's just so quick sometimes. And that thought comes from your brain. So small change. And it doesn't have to be brain surgery, it doesn't have to be anything massive like that. It can be meditation. It could be sitting down for 10 minutes. And observing how you feel. Observing those worries, because I want to come back to the word worrying. Because that's what I started with. And I keep going off track when I make these recordings. That changes your brain. Now, listen to these recordings. It might seem a bit all over the place when I made these recordings,
talk about one thing end up talking about another thing. But there is there is a point to it. It can be a bit fake sometimes. But there is a point to it because changes can occur. And I've been told by people that changes do occur. People told me who listened to this podcast. And it could be quite annoying, especially if you find me a bit annoying. Come Robin on and maybe I talk about myself too much. And then you know, you listen to it. Or maybe you listen for a few days. And you start to notice that you feel more relaxed. And you can also you can feel relaxed also be a bit annoyed because this weird man who makes a podcast who owns a farrier is helped you to feel relaxed.
but that's okay. Because you don't have to be in love with me. Or even like me, in order for changes to occur, because it's not really about me, it's about you. My life is all about me. Your life is all about you. So small changes, change everything. If you fit what was that game? The game where you pile all those things on top of each other? I mean is the game game of cards obviously is that one, but not covet. You've got a couple blank. There's one. And I don't remember the name of it. But you probably think no one talking about the kind of bits of wood. And I've only ever seen it played in a pub. Years ago I played on one that's big, but you can have like five is infinite amount of pieces you could have. Or it could be dominoes stacking dominoes on top of each other. You know, in a kind of the shape of a house or wherever you take one out. And it could make no difference at all. And some nobody, this is a weird thing. Nobody, I don't think no world would think well, so I'll take one Domino out. I'll take one card out of this big, big balance stack of cards or take one out and it's not falling over. Nothing's gonna make you fall over. Who in the world would think that be honest? You wouldn't? I don't think even a small child would believe that. Mind you, I think a small child would just knock it over. Baba, we've taken one bit Well, I know why just knock it over. Probably. I know my brothers would if I've been building it. When I was a kid. I really should let go of that. So you know that even though you might say one Domino out that big pack, a big stack pack of dominoes might be matchsticks and might be playing cards, whatever it is. Take one card out. And the stack is still there. You got 51 cards still all stacked on one, you know all placed intricately perfectly balanced. You don't walk away Do you think that's it? I'm not gonna try anymore. Give it a go. A Worked give up?
You wouldn't do it no one would would they? Be isn't that what maybe sometimes we do with this kind of stuff. When we try maybe to help ourselves, reading a self help book, trying to a technique, a relaxation technique, maybe trying to therapeutic neck technique
where, you know, someone might have tried acupuncture, didn't work, therefore, first of all, never do an acupuncture ganks it doesn't work. And secondly, there's no point trying everything else because nothing else will work. If acupuncture doesn't work. That can be the mindset of some people. And I've been there as well, I've had those thoughts. Like, what's the point? This doesn't work, nothing else is going to work. And I was wrong every time I thought that. So the fact or the possibility is that although the acupuncture might didn't feel like you might have worked on that occasion, maybe you needed more sessions. Generally, acupuncture isn't a one off thing. I've had acupuncture many times over the over the years, mainly for stress and anxiety. I've tried so many different things. And everything, I think has been beneficial. A Chinese herbal, Chinese massage of eds. Reiki, I learned to do Reiki and fat across difficulty. I've had massage or learn to do massage at college. reflexology I've had I did two courses in reflexology, you know, counseling, degree in counseling, I kind of I go a little bit overboard sometimes with not not happy just to have it done. I want to learn how to do it as well. But that's just me. And it's a bit overkill is just imagine me going out for a meal, or that I've had this lovely meal now got to learn how to cook this meal. No, go open your own restaurant. No, that's ridiculous. But everything has its merit. As kind of one side everything has its merit. But you don't give up just because one thing doesn't work. Or if you do why, ask the question. Why? Why? Are you not worth more than that? The answer is yes, you are. You're worth way more than that. And if you flip it, flip it over. I'm telling you off now. Sorry. If you flip it. I like to flip things. On a constant pancake flipper. Shrove Tuesday is actually coming up. Who's Pancake Day in England at and if you have it in other countries. I say that because most people listen to this. So in America, Australia, Canada, Netherlands, Norway, and England as well. Even worse than I did various different places. So if you flipped it and someone you cared about. And that's might be annoying to hear this every time at all. Because I do keep mentioning think about someone you care about. And what would you say to them? This is my idea. This is just a standard thing that anyone would think about, isn't it? What would you say to that person? Your your grandmother, your daughter? If they said oh, now tried that didn't work. You so Okay, then you wouldn't would you? Why wouldn't In fact, I'd hound them until I tried something else. If that part of the reason I did reflexology is because I wanted to help my mom with her pain because she had chronic pain. I did hypnosis with her over shoulder because she had crumbling bones, osteoporosis. But you wouldn't just say okay, don't worry. You tried that. Honestly. Just stay in pain, whether physical or emotional. Yeah, yeah. Okay. You You wouldn't you wouldn't do that with Joe. I wouldn't. I wouldn't even do with people that I didn't really care about. Because that part of me would kick in once. I will if you tried this. And then I flip it again, because when I'm on the other side of that, I find it annoying. When people offer advice. I do. I'm aware of that. And upsl got a lower back pain. Oh, have you tried this? Something I've heard myself saying, I've tried everything.
Which is a lie. And if you enter this, they'll swear by something saying, well, this osteopath is phenomenal. You know, I had chronic pain ever since ever since I gave birth to my 17 children all at one time. I've had problems with our pelvic pelvis. And as I went to this, therapist, whoever and he just helped my you know, my whole pelvis is now feels like it was when I was three months old. And I still I stopped listening. To be fair, probably stop listening to their story. But I stopped, I'd set up. And there's a little bit of this. This rejection, straight away. rebellion. I don't want other people to, it's almost like I want to think for myself, I want to come up with a solution myself. Now I can reduce chronic pain with it basis. It can be done with met with meditation and mindfulness. So I know how to do that. with myself. I know how to reduce pain for other people as well. And a safer maybe not everyone but for, for a lot of people I have over the years. But doesn't mean it's someone's gonna take that I could say to you I've got is 50 for chronic pain relief sessions on a podcast. And you might have chronic pain. You might not listen to our podcast, because you want to think for yourself. But the point is, as long as you do think about other alternatives, then that's okay, I think, as you know, but if you get set in your mind saying Nope, that didn't work. Nothing else will. was the point in that? Who's helping? I mean, imagine if we did that. We started doing that all the time with food. Didn't like that not eating, did not have that food never gonna eat again. Kinda wouldn't work with it. Or had a day. Didn't like that man. Didn't get on not no more men. For me, thanks. To be five heard people say that. And I think it's just so sad that people would limit themselves in that way. I've done it myself. So I'm not. I'm not judging anyone. We've all we've all messed up in some ways. And we relationships, I suppose, is, it's hard to, isn't it, it's hard to know what to do, right. And that stuff didn't learn much as school when it came to the opposite sex or any kind of relationship statuses and activities and behavior. So again, I've gone off, I've gone off target, now I'm back, I'm back. So your brain affects your physical brain, the organ, your brain is what affects your mind or affects your mood. And the brain is affected by the environment you're in the environment you're in now, potentially. And by the environment you're in now, I don't necessarily mean well, that case you need to move need to get out of where you are stray away. However, you have to take responsibility for what you do. When you listen to me saying I'm not responsible for what anyone does. I'm just gonna put that straight there. However, if somebody is living in an abusive environment, I won't go any further details. I'll leave you to figure out what that means to you. If someone's Living in a very harmful environment to, to their well being. mentally, physically, emotionally, all. To be fair, emotional abuse is classed as. And it's a weird way to put it. But it's all from psychiatric point of view. Often the psychs counseling perspective, emotional abuse is kind of the top of List of the worst. Because
every, every type of abuse involves emotional abuse, because it leads to emotional trauma. But someone emotionally abusing someone, even if they don't touch them physically, or hurt them, or, you know, any of that stuff. It messes with the brain in a way that he is, it can recover from it, but it's very, very otherwise, like a worm, you know, it's like some kind of germ virus kind of thing going on. And it's, it's not always easy to find, it can be found, and it can, you don't have to find it to heal it. You know, you don't have to do drop something on the floor, like a little needle, or little pin, you don't have to find the pin. In order to make the floor safe, you just get a vacuum cleaner, and you just basically clean the entire room with a vacuum cleaner. And you get that pin. So sometimes it takes you know, you have to do a lot more work. But it's worth it because at least then you know it's done. You know that that pain is found. So you don't have to necessarily focus on one small thing. You focus on the whole thing. dislike when you look at the, you know, that big stack of cards, playing cards 51 left because once been taken out, didn't topple the cards might have weakened, it probably has weakened it but it doesn't show because you can't see something that's weak, necessarily, just like a tree. Trees blow down. When it's really windy. Always, there's always some trees blow down. But they're not always obviously weak. They're clearly weak if they get blown down, because trees they last for hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of years. And so for a tree to get blown down by the wind, even really strong wind. And I say that I'm not talking about like typhoons, I'm talking no 60 miles an hour, like an extra strong, but not like crazy strong wind. It means this tree was weakened previously, but no one knew. You know, it wasn't visible. If you'd be able to see underneath, maybe the roots were broken, rotting away perhaps. So I kind of think of the stress anxiety as being like that tree. And I'm kind of getting in there listening to this is rotting away those roots, breaking a few of the roots. And then something will happen. Maybe you listen to a recording of a really like, oh, okay, that makes sense. I might actually make sense one day, trust me, if you listen enough, you might hear something that makes sense. And it pushes the tree over like a big gust of wind and the tree falls over. And then you might say well, how did that push the tree over? It's just a bit of wind. It wouldn't do that to a healthy tree. Not realizing that actually. All the other recordings you've been listening to and all the other things that you do to help yourself being kind to yourself, giving yourself a break. noticing the negative things you say to yourself and ask, you know, check in is that is that true? Am I really useless? am I really? Am I really ugly? Am I really no good? Well, no, actually, I'm no Brad Pitt. But you know, not many people are, in fact only one person is. So are more like coal, a coal pit, rather than Brad Pitt, and like a coal pit. So those roots have been broken and destroyed already. So ultimately, a really strong person might have been able to push that tree over.
But would never attempt it because you'd never think it'd be possible. So someone could come along and push the tree over. And it would look like some kind of miracle, like something out of a superhero film. But actually, the whole thing's rotten. And they may already know that, or they may have been digging underneath and cutting all the roots, and then put the mud back on here put the dusts and the new day was ready to fall. I'll be surprised if anyone actually went to that much trouble. But I guess it would be possible. I mean, when I was a kid, we used to chop a few trees down in the garden. And that's what we used to do. We'd get to the roots, you have to cut the roots first, before the tree, you can cut the tree down. But you still can't get the stump out. Unless you cut the roots. come next burn trees now I never had never realized. So that's partly what this happens is what's going on here is all the other recordings you may listen to. And all the other things you do noticing the things you say to yourself and correct in it. Say you know what? No, that's not right. Any horrible things you might you know, any put downs, any just nasty things that you might say to yourself, and we all do it. And no one in the planet doesn't? Sure, sure. Even the Dalai Lama does it sometimes finds himself saying negative things to himself. You know, perhaps cool. So I want to Dan happy or smile too much. I don't know whatever it would be in finding catching himself. So Oh, is that true. So all the little things start to actually send a healthy virus into that tree. That tree of negativity, that tree of stress, a tree of anxiety, at tree of depression, through virus but it's a healthy virus, in a sense of is unhealthy to the negativity, it's unhealthy to the anxiety. It's unhealthy to distress, this damn healthy for us. And as that happens, your brain starts to change. Because that's another thing. plasticity is the term which basically means the brain can heal. The brain can change, it doesn't stop growing. And I don't mean growing as in size, and suddenly you have a massive head I'm talking about doesn't stop growing, the cells can still grow, the brain can still repair itself and heal. We never stopped learning. So if there's a part of your brain, we've all probably got a part of our brain isn't as not working as well as maybe it could fit in the palm of my brain for mathematics. For you know, any fun out of other than adding and subtracting a bit of time to table anything other than that part of my brain, for some reason is very idle. Part of my brain which just goes on and on about nothing fairly active, which isn't always a good thing, I suppose. But it could or could be, I don't know. So the brain can heal. Or we could change that to the brain, your brain does feel continuously is healing and changing. And those little holes in your brain that show up on a brain scan can fill in. So deterioration can reverse by the way you think. So if you live a positive way more positive life, your brain will change. You meditate, every day, your brain will change, just in the same way is if you feel negative every day, your brain will change, just not in the direction that you want it to.
So the brains always changing depending on what you're thinking. So the brain affects what you think in the automatic thoughts. So the purposeful thoughts affect your brain. Which means we can't just rely on automatic thinking, we need to take control. We need to sit in the driver's seat ourselves. Not be on automatic, autopilot, whatever, or basically, is just removing the bus driver from the bus. Not hot yet I say please, you know, I'll take over and you decide where you want to go. You decide Why don't want to stop at that bus stop. Because there's not enough room, this bus for that pram. So you keep driving. So you're in control. And then that changes the way your brain is changes the growth of your brain, the pattern in the brain, the neural connections, which then affects your automatic thoughts. I should be a doctor should know. I thought I explained that quite well. So that's this part is the taking control of the conscious thinking. The purposeful thinking. So the the automatic thinking would be that stuff on on fat on this. Now the negative thoughts that's not conscious at all automatic thinking. So you have to catch it and say, Ah, no, no, no. I'm taking getting back in this seat. Getting back in the driver's seat. Yeah. miss the bus driver, you're not, you're not driving in the right direction.
And you take bites at night, that's not true. Those things I was thinking is not true. I need to correct.
So, so much basically, if you send a text I like these analogies if you're going to send a text to someone, and a lot of phones have auto correct or whatever it is, you know, spell auto spell is not a good idea to just send it without checking. Because quite a lot of time the sentence won't even make sense. Or you'll say the wrong thing. And I've actually done that a few times and had a few sponses one from my stepmom saying, I don't think you needed that you meant to send that to me to do. I said Yes, I did. But it was just wrong. It wasn't supposed to say that word. I just misspell it. Sorry. So if you think of it in that way, the automatic mind is these the automatic spelling on a text you want to find as you're texting. And what you do is say I'm overriding that. That's not correct. Now with the AI technology, with phones, smartphones and tablets, the size even I think things like Alexa I can learn from those corrections. And that's what we can do ourself. We can learn from our own corrections. So we correct the automatic thinking, I suppose this is cognitive behavioral therapy. Because you know, if you go to things, what you think affects how you feel, which affects what you do behavior. So if we want automatic the whole time, our behavior is going to be affected by our automatic thoughts, which affects an automatic response, you know, an emotional response, which effect which then causes us to behave in a certain way automatically. Now, if you're going to do that it might as well be robots? Or do you want to be a human being an adult, now small child, you know, that's what a three year old does, that's what a four year old does. It's not what adults do. With that is what adults do. But it doesn't have to be what adults do is a choice. And might sound harsh, but it's true. And I don't mean all the time. I'm not dismissing mental illness, I'm not all because I know I have to deal with it myself. So it's not something that patchy can do all the time. And there's no reason why you should. But it's something that you can start to do a bit of, that can improve your life can improve your brain can improve your experience. So when you get the automatic thoughts, notice them, correct them.
That way that thought doesn't lead, you block it before it gets to the point of you feeling this emotion, which leads to this action, which might be an argument might be harmful to yourself or others, even in a mild way. So that thought is blocked, you can question it? Is it true? It might be true. As a point, it might be true. It might not be true. Can it be proved? No, I think this person thinks this. Well, can you prove that? Can you read their mind? No, you can't mess that's the answer to that one. There's a lot of mind reading goes on in human behavior. And we cannot read each other's minds. Regardless of how well you know someone, you can not read their mind. All you can ever do is guess it's much easier to ask. And even then, they might not tell the truth. So you can ask someone? Will you upset by what I said? When I said that your way, much fatter than you were last year, that person might, they probably are upset. And that is an upsetting thing to say, isn't it? But if, if that person said to you, no. Doesn't mean they weren't upset. doesn't mean you have to assume that they were upset. Because if someone says something about saying I'm fat or whatever, I've got a belly, I joke about it. So there's a good chance I'm not going to be that bothered. But don't assume it. So it's kind of that situation, I think with mind reading. But I would say it's probably more important to focus in our own minds. Before we start dealing with other people's brains, I still have our own first and I was gonna talk about worrying. But I'll do that on another day. I do that another day. And it was going to be kind of a technique or little little exercise to do. But that will be another day. I've got them in mind now. So I'll do that. I ended up talking about this instead. So to cap it off, automatic thoughts. Notice them what you think in question. I don't mean question everything because that would be so tedious. that it'd be like listening to me for 24 hours a day. I couldn't even handle that. To You know, you don't want to be doing it all the time. Because you also want to spend time being kind to yourself. You want to spend time doing things that you enjoy. Maybe spend time relaxing, you know, doing relaxation exercises, meditating yoga or reading a book. Also, you're going to work, spending time with your loved ones, watching Telly, whatever things you enjoy doing. And other things that maybe you have commitments to do. When you can try notice the thinking the thoughts you have, and question. Don't question a nice thoughts, though. So if you're thinking, I look pretty today. Don't question on, I'm clever. Don't question that. Don't question the nice things. Because that's, that's nearly as annoying as Andre deciding to make loads of noise as I'm doing recording. Just question the stuff that's potentially harmful, or negative. And it blocks it from becoming an automatic emotion, which leads to an automatic behavior, just kind of stopping the automatic start part of
it. I suppose it's almost like I've worked on a lot of factories over the years. And the best example would be when I worked in a bakery, and there'd be all these conveyor belts. moving from one part of the factory to the next. So there'd be the part which would put the the dough into each individual cut it the doorway into each individual portion, put it into the baking tray on the baking tray or into the the loaf baking loaf tray thing. And then move automatically to another section, and then maybe have egg sprayed onto the top of it. And then it'd be moved to another part and you know, go through the whole process and the bacon show fully be greased beforehand on another part of the automation. And then it goes through the oven. If you hold which does happen or did happen quite a lot, one part of that production line that automate automative or automatic production line, one part of it gets stopped, the whole system stops. Even if it carries on, it doesn't work. Just like when you pull that last that next card out of that 51 pack of plane causes stacked there might be 50 there and it's still standing up. But you know, eventually you're going to take one out in the hollows is going to fall down. Just like that tree falls down in the wind, even a weak wind could blow down a weak tree because that positive viruses got in into that tree and just got rid of those those roots in a big pile of dominoes again, take a few hours and eventually they all fall over and land on the floor as well which is annoying. So we're going to go now because Andre has been very very active for some reason. So plus it's times that I've been talking for over an hour well sorta is just try catch the thoughts, the automatic thoughts, catch them and then just get into the driver's seat of that bus. And you choose where you're going to go. In fact, you could even go in a different direction you pull up you can be in that bus. And then you can decide what thoughts to let onto the bus. So you get to the bus stop open the doors. A thought comes in stands there saying yeah, I'm not I think this is going to go new. I don't feel I'm ever going to be able to never going to be a success is just pointless. You can say not you're not coming on.
See ya get out by Then the next person should get so insane. Yeah, have on my be good at this one good, I'll make a nice cup of tea, it might be the most smallest things that yet come in positive.
And you decide what you allow. There's no longer just automatic. And of course, we need to be able to operate automatic a lot of the time, otherwise wouldn't be a function if we did this all the time. But do when you can because it changes. And also, it starts to be like that virus that's in the tree underneath getting rid of those roots working away when you're not even thinking about a positive virus to get rid of the negativity. The tree falls as like, Wow, I didn't see that coming. And you feel different, even more positive than you did before. And things that used to bother us seems to kind of it's almost like they disappear. It can almost feel like they were they're gone. Or you can remember them. But why did that bother me? I used to have a terrible fear of spiders. Now nothing. Zero. I'm not a big fan of massive ones I trenchless. But just generally, you know, but normal spiders don't care. And I can't even imagine. Why bother me. And that can change in an instant. Something that used to affect us just goes. Just goes. And the energy behind it just zapped is litchi like, you know it needs the wind. Because it's operating by sale. You're operating with an engine. You can use the sale. You don't need the sound, you got an engine, all these little things, these thoughts, these negativities they're all operating by sale. They need that wind in order to operate. You take that wind away of us break off the old sail. I ain't going nowhere. We drill a hole in a few of the bottoms of those little boats and let them sink.
It's up to you. Thank you for listening. Remember to be kind to yourself, because you deserve to be happy. And what can you do to be kind to yourself
to do something nice. Doesn't matter what it is just do something nice. Something. Just something you enjoy. So thanks for listening. Take care. Speak to you next time. Lots of love bye

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