#92 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks - "YOU'RE NOT BROKEN" - (Jason Newland) (7th February 2020)

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Hello, and welcome to Jason newland.com. My name is Jason Newland, this is relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. Please only listen when you can safely Close your eyes. And please subscribe to this podcast. Or if you're listening on YouTube, please subscribe to YouTube. Because I post all of my podcasts onto YouTube as well. So today's recording is going to be called you are not broken, you are not broken. That's I'm not gonna, I'm not going to maybe twice is just going to be you are not broken. This is kind of self explanatory in the sense of what I'm going to talk about. And the reason why I give the these recordings, I try and give them titles now, you know, per legal title in the you know, just to make it easier for people to find. Because someone contacted me a couple of weeks back and said, You did a recording. But I can't remember which number it was because I've done I think I've done 91 of these specific recordings on this podcast, also added a few others that I thought would be beneficial for people listening. And so but so I had to listen to a few of my recordings to find the one that the lady had was sort of asking about. So I've tried to start putting in law brief title, which will hopefully help people to find the recordings if you know something that you find useful. Also, you can download and stream all of my recordings on our website. I'm talking about all of them, not just this podcast, but there's over 1000 recordings spanning back 14 years. And I've got other podcasts that I do currently, pretty much every day. Let me bore you to sleep podcast. That's generally daily now, I don't know how I just developed into that. That's about an hour of me talking complete nonsense. Just just boring stuff for an hour. The other one is deep sleep whisper hypnosis. Why whisper for about 20 minutes, and it's sleep orientated. Also, God sleep hypnosis weekly, where the recordings a little bit longer, maybe half an hour, 14 minutes, 15 minutes sometimes. And that's once a week. Plus a few other podcasts but it's all on my website anyway. So you are not broken. So we just say that yourself. You say out loud, I'm not going to hear it. You might be at work. Or you know, you might be having your lunch listening to this. For example, you know, that maybe not say out loud if you're sitting on a train or bus or something. But it's up to you. You can but you say to yourself whether internally or externally. I the words I am not broken. those exact words. I am not broken. put emphasis on the knot. I or I'm not broken. So let's get rid of the N bit. I'm not broken. I'm not broken. How does it feel? Does it jar you? Does it does it feel wrong? Does it feel? Does it feel false? Does it feel like you just lying to yourself? Does it feel incongruent or whether the word is incongruent incongruent. Does it feel? Does it feel like you're just bullshitting yourself? You
might do. Because you might actually really believe that you're broken. So that's what this recording is about. Because at the end of this recording, you're going to be convinced.
I'm going to convince you, I'm going to hypnotize you into believing the fact
that you're not broken. You're not perfect either. None of us are. Doesn't mean that we don't need maintenance. We all need maintenance.
Bridges need maintenance. You see, so are maintaining the bridge. But you know, working on a bridge doesn't mean the bridge is broken. You work on your house, you maintain your house, Can God move out of your house while you're doing it? The house isn't broken, you're maintaining it, you're keeping it going. You're fixing things that need fixing. It's very rare when the whole house just collapses. Of course, it happens. But it's rare. Even in the most extreme situations, let's say someone's had complete mental breakdown, and they're hospitalized. They're still not broken. They may say, Well, also there must be if they're, if they're unable to function. But they're not broken do not. If they were broken, they'd be dead. That's broken. That's, that's diff broken. When nothing works. When that person that's going through an illness, going through really, you know, serious, serious illness. They're not broken. They're ill. Parts of them need to recover. Parts of them may not be working properly. But they're not broken. The heart still beating, the brain still working. The lungs, the liver, the kidney, maybe one of those isn't working properly. But the other parts are working. Someone that's in a wheelchair is not broken. enough if someone's just walking, unable to walk, have an accident. I guess we all know someone in this situation. It might be someone listening right now. I've got a good friend who jumped off a cliff when he was like 18 or 19 ended up paralyzed from his waist down. He believed he was broken. And we had a broken back. And then it healed. But he's been in a wheelchair for ever since. But for about two years, he believes he was broken. But he wasn't his heart still beats his lungs still worked. He just couldn't move his legs. I don't mean just couldn't move his legs as in a dismissive way that he could move his arms. He could move his shoulders, he could move his neck. He could talk he could see he could hear you have all the emotions that anybody else could have. He wasn't broken. But he believed that he was a fit when it comes to mental health issues. I never know what what to call it anymore. So you can't sort of can't call it mental illness anymore. Because people don't like it to be called that. Even though it's an illness, different levels of illness. That now in my country, everyone seems to call it mental health. I like to add the word issues at the end because physical health sciences I've got physical health. They're basically saying I'm feeling well. If you say about mental health is says so weird kind of terminology that's been taken up by anyone, let's say anxiety, depression. Panic issues stress may think that they're broken. Because for some reason, whatever's going on in their life, your life, my life, we're not functioning in the same way as we once were. We're maybe struggling with some things that used to be really easy. to us that were second nature I didn't give it didn't have to give it any thought we just did it. But you know, what, what I noticed with the anxiety, the extreme anxiety I got was,
it may cause me to, it seemed to cause me to be more sensitive. It was almost like I was noticing things, I almost felt like my skin layer, my skin had been peeled off.
So I was more. I wasn't quite as rough. With things you know, I was a bit more careful.
Maybe not physically, but just emotionally maybe just a little bit noticing things because if you add a layer of skin taken off all so if you've had a burn or mild burn even on your hand, you notice the sensitivity when you wash your hands. When that bit of skin scrapes up against even just your trousers, you know you just notice it. And it might not even be it might not even be like a profit burn. It might not be listed, it might just be a mild discomfort. You don't even notice until it kind of scratches against something, but the rest of your body wouldn't even notice it. In some ways, it felt a little bit like as far as stress levels when I had a callus the my stress levels, the anxiety levels were all kind of contained within a callus. And I wasn't eight nothing could trigger it. I could take huge amounts of stress. The reality I couldn't but for some reason I've managed to develop that callus in some circumstances, for example working working long hours it's doing a stressful job. Living unhealthily drinking excessively and being depressed really without even acknowledging it. So was the calluses protecting me from the pain? I wasn't feeling well, it was just I was protecting me from feeling it. Because not not all emotions are pain. But if you get to the point where you don't feel anything, because if you're a guitar player and I've learned to play the guitar few times or pet attempted and I ended up with calluses on my left fingers. So you could stroke it and it stays no field and really see you don't feel pain. But you don't feel any pleasure either. And my hands quite sensitive. I don't know maybe everyone says I don't know. But I quite like stroking my palms, my hands, the tops of my fingers because they're quite sensitive. I don't spend all day doing I'm just saying it's quite a nice thing to do before the callus on there. I wouldn't be able to feel I might feel it but it wouldn't be sensitive. So I could scrape it and not have any kind of discomfort, which is what calluses are built for and they decide to protect you from discomfort and pain. The fingers with a callus also protects you from will not protect you. It prevents you for feeling pleasure. So if you push this to the extreme, which I kinda like to do, but if you're thinking of You have a particular part of your body which is sensitive. So I'm just saying, as an example of not going to graphic details, if that part of your body had a callus on it, it would mean that it couldn't, you know, it's gonna be protected. It's not, you know, it's very unlikely to get hurt, because it's gonna be protected. a layer of like tough skin will be over protecting that part. So, you know, if you bashed it or whatever, it wouldn't hurt. But the same time,
there'd be no pleasure. So I think that's what maybe we build, which allows the stress levels to raise so high. If you don't notice the stress levels rising. And then suddenly, maybe the anxiety attack or that stress level gets too high, and the callus just drops off.
Because even the callus can't handle it. It's almost like a fizzy drink, you know, shake a fizzy drink. And then take the lid off. And it just squirts everywhere because the pressure thing is that fizziness and that pressure only laughs while the lids on once the lids off. It releases and that energy is gone. Be don't look at the bottle of coke and think it's broken. You might think also stick in Look what a mess I've made everywhere. I have to wash my hands or wash the bottle. But the bowl of coke or lemonade or wherever is beer or average or drinking. It's not broken, the contents aren't broken. There may be less content in there because of the overflow. But just like if you've got a small child or a family member, somebody you love dearly. They go to hospital. And they get told that they've got her you know, I've got something serious that I have to have medication for and you know, something long term condition. You don't just say, oh, they're broken, we can chuck them out. Not we're not taking them home, you can keep them in hospital. And yeah, they're broken. You wouldn't say that, would you? Why Why would Why would you say about yourself?
Why would you call yourself broken? We're not, you're not broken. You're not broken. And I don't care if it's annoying hearing it. You can get as annoyed as you want hear me say you're not broken. But you know what?
Even if you stop the recording now, that's gonna play in your mind. You're just gonna keep hearing, I'm not broken. And you know what, there's worse things that could play in your mind. There's worse things you can play over. And think of because it's a really positive thing to be reminded of. So you know, if I say to you a wonderful person, and I don't care how annoyed you get, if I say that to you. And I can keep going on and on about it for 4550 minutes, then no one has listened to me knows that I can keep going on. That will stick your stick and it has a positive effect. And if he was going to actually, if you're really good to kind of sum up hypnosis, my understanding of hypnosis is it's an idea that sticks. It's an idea that sticks in your mind. And that idea transforms the way you think. The way you act, the way you behave transforms your life. Possibly
Maybe only in a small way doesn't have to be in a big way to say,
if you get appendicitis, please don't. But I'm saying I've had my appendix out have a brother had appendicitis and you know, so it's, I guess it's a genetic genetic thing I don't know. But that appendicitis, right, that pain affects your whole body. It's trauma is absolute agony, all that stuff? Well, you know, it can be a lot if you catch it in time, it can just be discomfort and you take them out and you're fine, which is hopefully what will happen if it gets ignored, or they don't get it out in a disrupts, and
it can cause completely havoc to the body, sepsis wherever the thing is, once it's removed, everything goes back to normal carries on that one tiny, the appendix appendix is a tiny little part of your body.
Tiny little part of your body is removed. And it changes the whole dynamics of your body changes how you physically feel and change, you know, because you haven't got that discomfort anymore. Because you know, the way you walk, the way you sleep, everything's going to be affected by a physical issue. Perhaps. So when you make a small change, it changes everything else as well as a byproduct. It changes things. How do you know if you've, I've worked in places lots of lots and lots of different places over the years, had lots of jobs. You know, sometimes just one person leaving, you know, leaving the job, or just a new person starting can transform the whole work environment. in a way that's it can be really positive, it might not be, but it can really change the environment in a real obvious way, very quickly. To change a small thing, you can change the big thing. You know, you think if you've got if you got a roof, we've got a roof Suddenly, I suppose. But if you've got a roof and you're living in a house, and you just drill a hole in the roof above your bed. You might not even notice it at first. But eventually you'll notice it because you start getting wet. Because it will start dripping. The rain will drip on you and maybe birds or start flying in who knows what's going to happen. So you think the whole of the house you know you got all those I don't know how many 1000s of bricks go into a house and you know what the being you might have five rooms, six rooms, staircase, but just that one hole. But going through the roof. I'm imagine you haven't got a loft of design if the roof is there just above your bedroom. So you can get straight to the outside. Just for the argument's sake of the story.
At one hole transform the house the you but not you're in a different room. So one thing could have a difference, you can make a difference.
So you're not broken. You are not broken. There should be a song. I'm not going to make it done. Well. I'm not gonna start singing but you're not broken. So how do you get your head? How do you get your head around that fact Because maybe I'm not I know I like to feel sorry for myself at times. And I've done it for years and years, on not the whole time. But you know, every now and then, like, Oh, woe is me, no one has it as hard as me. No one's ever had anxiety like I've had it, no one's ever felt as stressed or as depressed as me mean, no one I had the worst childhood of anyone in the whole world. And all that is bullshit. is no way of knowing he can't be can't compare each other's conditions or issues, or childhoods or suffering or anything like that. Because,
you know, ultimately, regardless of what's happened in my life, have not grown up in extreme poverty, and starvation. being held by a mother who has hasn't eaten for two weeks. And I'm just skin and bone. You know, I didn't live I've not lived like that.
So I haven't had it worst. But at the same time, I don't want to dismiss what I've been through. I don't want to dismiss it, let it sound, it doesn't matter because other people have had it worse.
So it's about for me, it's, it's about valuing yourself, not comparing yourself to other people. But realizing what's happened in your life has affected you. But it's also made you the person you are, you know, the kindness in your heart is there. Because of all the things have happened in your life. Not just because of the good things are the nice things. Maybe that kindness, wanting to help other people could be because you weren't able to help other people at one point in your life. Or maybe because someone else has helped you. When you didn't feel worth anything. You didn't feel that you deserve to be helped. But someone helped you anyway.
Someone that actually ended up hurting you might have helped you. So there's that kind of contradiction of like, well, they really helped me and then they, you know, then they ran off and stole everything or they whatever it could be horrible story. By HD doesn't take away the fact that they did help you at some point. There's a whole mentality isn't it of when people get divorced, saying, well, just I just wasted last 14 years of my life.
That's the same mentality is is I'm broken. It's illogical is an emotional response. I've wasted 14 years of my life. You can say what how long has it been unhappy? Or for the last three
so you're 11 years that wasn't wasted then. The United side is members I remember reading years ago. The idea is you have the most amazing date. Go out. Have a wonderful time maybe you go to the theater. Maybe you go to a comedy club, whatever is you love doing? And you go to a restaurant I have the most amazing meal and she's basically so in love with the person that you're seeing opposite You know, you're both really loved up and it's beautiful. And there's the the waiter trips and spills wine over here or over your partner in a nice throw might say, that's it. We're in the evening. It's not ridiculous. Why would you discount all of that pleasure just because someone spilled wine on you. MIT Yeah, if it was a car crash, we're fatality. Yeah, it's for the evening course. You know, as an extreme situation or something really bad happens. Yeah, but someone spilling wine is annoying. It might mean you have to go home early, but doesn't discount all the lovely time you've had with that person. So why is it the it's almost like we're wired or not wired, we're taught to behave in that way. And to think that way. Maybe it's just it gets passed down. Parents pass it down, they've been passed down from their parents, to have that negative mentality of all that sort of sport now, when actually, why it's not
is that mentality, that idea, I'm broken. because not everything is working perfectly. You're not broken. Even if you're listening to this, and you're in a psychiatric ward, somewhere, you're not broken, you will get better you will recover. And recovery doesn't mean being perfect. The song with a condition recovering doesn't mean having everything gone. I've got bipolar recovery is is a condition is a lifelong. I've always had it really is a big difference between how I am now and how I have been. Sooner way that is a recovery. Which means I've not broken. Because whenever recover, recovery is an option. Isn't fixing it. Recover isn't fixing. Because then there's a problem yet, you make it a problem. problems need to be fixed. Many things need to be fixed is broken things. problems need solutions. And then there's that idea of treating yourself the way you would treat someone else. Not my idea. Pretty good idea, though. I think providing you've got some kindness towards yourself. Because if someone really dislikes himself, and constantly telling themselves, how horrible they are, and how whatever, then treating other people, the way you treat yourself, might not be a good idea. So maybe treating yourself how you treat other people, if you're treating them nicely. That's kind of a little catch on that one. That's why I seem to aim that, you know, the idea of Would you say that to a small child? Because even in my worst, my worst mental states of anger or whatever, I would never be nasty to a child. You know, I just it's just, it's something I couldn't do. Couldn't be verbally. I don't know refurb the abuser to anyone, but I wouldn't, I just couldn't.
Or to an elderly person. So we all know how to behave. I know people try pretend they don't. But we all do. We all know how to be how we all know how we don't need to be taught. What really, alas,
we do. But
if you're an adult and you listen to this, you don't need to be taught how to behave. We all know how to be nice to somebody. It's really easy. But being nice to yourself. Doesn't seem to come as naturally. And I don't feel we're taught that we're taught manners depends what country you from the the manners may change. You know, we've all got our own customs and we can do Some countries some shadow No, I'm not sure all of the minor that really care, but you know different things like bowing and shaking hands. And some things are classes and in so in some countries and their classes may be a compliment in other countries. As I said, I don't care about that stuff. But we're taught that that's taught. No one's born, thinking I should bow, I should bow to my elders, or I should shake someone's hand or I should say, please, thank you. Yeah, we're not born with those things. You know, if we were just left alone, we're born. We eat, we want to eat, we study and what we want to stay in. And then ultimately, we just go to the toilet wherever we wanted to go. You know, we have to be taught what to do with that stuff. But no one teaches us how to be kind to ourselves, no one teaches us to have manners towards ourself. And I say no one maybe maybe you have had people do that. But I never have not like during school, not during my childhood. Not you know, I noticed some there are some practices to can teach you to be kind to yourself. Of course there are, there's lots of things out there that can encourage you and to develop that loving kindness towards yourself and towards others also. But it's not self. And it's I don't think it's generally talk to people as they're growing up. to actually be nice to yourself, to show yourself manners, you know, to say thank you to yourself, to recognize your accomplishments and your successes. And to actually be your own cheerleader. If you haven't got an internal cheerleader, he should get one. You need to be your own supporter, you know, get on your own side. support yourself, you know, cheer yourself on, it might seem ridiculous to hear that. But if you give it a little bit of thought, it makes sense, doesn't it? If you went and watched your friend playing football, or a sport or anything, or you could watch your kids or anyone that you know, you can watch them in a competitive situation, whatever that might be, rugby, tennis, badminton, whatever it is snooker, you're going to be cheering them on. And you might not know anything about the sport. But you're going to be so you might not know that anything about their competitor, that your friend or the person that you knows playing against. But you excited because you want your person to win. And there's an excitement there, that I've had in the past. And, and I was surprised because I went to see someone doing something and it was a competitive environment. I got really excited. And I'm not a sports person. I'm not really into sports, like to lightning. And as an audience part from boxing. And you know, if I if you were my friend and us viewers in a boxing match, I came and saw you I would be more excited seeing you in the ring. And I'd be then I would have any other fight I've ever seen in my life. Like on TV. Because I'd be it'd be the key I'd almost be in the ring with you, kind of egging you on to be successful or it was a pie eating contest or whatever it was you were doing. or running, you know doing a marathon or doesn't matter what it is, whether it's rehabilitation, and you know, you're learning to walk again, and I'm sort of there with you. I'm going to be egging you on. Like, as your cheerleader, you need to have that in your own head, you need to be your own cheerleader. Because the energy that produces the positive energy, I can feel it just talking about it. Maybe you can feel it here and the idea of it is powerful. Which means you're not broken. Because as long as you've got that cheerleader in your head, it won't let you be broken. It won't let you feel broken and won't let you say to yourself that you're broken. Because it never gives up. a cheerleader never ever, ever quits. Doesn't mean that you've got to keep going. But the cheerleader won't ever stop cheering you
So you might be running cheerleader was saying, Yeah, keep running, keep running. But you stopped running, and you say, I've got to sit down your chili, chili Dickinson Yes, sit down, sit down, get some rest, get some oxygen into your lungs, have some water. And you might start on completely inaccurate. I can't, I don't want to go on anymore because I don't feel very well. Or My legs hurt. That's great. And rest, go home, you know, celebrate, you've done, you've done half of the marathon. You know you did your best. You know, the cheerleader doesn't have to be doesn't just have to be cheering you on when things are going well. But perfect. However, off the nose. They also cheer you on to feel okay within yourself where things aren't going, perhaps so well. To let you know. So if there's an anxiety moment, cheerleader can remind you, you're going to be okay. This is a temporary thing, you're going to be alright. Or I'm going to be alright. That doesn't have to be in a third person to be I'm going to be your right to remind you that you're going to be okay. It's a temporary physical feeling or emotion of feeling or both that you're experiencing in that moment. You're not broken? Because you can check. Can you move your leg? Can you move your hand? Move parts of your body that are fine normally? Yeah, you can move them. Can you still see? Can you still hear? Can you move your tongue?
Yeah, so you're not broken. If you can move one thing. And I'm saying this to people that are able bodied, of course, if someone's completely paralyzed. That's, you know, I realize some people might be listening who are. I don't mean any disrespect when I'm talking about moving apart your body. And I'm sure you understand that. Even if it's just blinking your eyes, or closing your mouth opening, it means you're not broken. And you may say, it's easy for you to say you're physically able and whatever. But I'm not talking about physical issues I'm talking about from emotional perspective. I'm talking about from stress, anxiety, and that perspective, from a positivity perspective. Moving from negativity to positivity. If you don't have negative cheerleaders imagine a negative cheerleader a basketball game or football game. Just you know all these people just doing one doodle dance is saying your crap your shirt, your rubbish shoe. Which is kind of some of the stuff that we might say to ourselves. Imagine that. I'm guessing they wouldn't keep their jobs. Because I'm aware that cheerleading is a professional job for a lot of people. I get paid. It's a career. It's not always just something at school or you know hobbies. People do that as a job as a career is what they love. And not in America. Some cheerleaders have traveled the country. You know, they'll, you know, it's it's important thing is it's very positive thing.
So you could say to yourself what kind of cheerleader would you want to be to somebody else? So you think of someone in your life that is going through it is suffering, they're unhappy. Maybe they're physically ill, whatever was what was going on with them? What kind of cheerleader Would you like to be inside their head? What kind of things? Would you like to tell them? You know, if you could take over the cheerleader role, sort of be part of them. So be talking to them as it is them you know, slight, it's not not. Bobby, you are great, but I am great. Or I am able to deal with this. This, you know, as a first person thing. When you think about that, how would you like to be a cheerleader for someone else? to maybe think oh, how would you like your inner cheerleader to be? Maybe develop that idea. And I realized, I should call it cheerleader. That'd be the title of this recording. But it all fits in with you're not broken. You're not broken. And I just wonder what it feels like, if you say to yourself now, I'm not broken. To say to yourself three times, I'm not broken. Three times. How do you feel? How do you feel different from how you felt at the beginning of this recording? When I asked you to do that.
Notice the difference in energy, knows how things feel, change to change things. Things are always changing.
And that phrase, I am or I'm not broken, I'm not broken. You could flip it, I'm okay. Or I'm going to be okay. Or I'm going to be better. Or I'm going to improve maybe all of those I think it's important to really get it. It's good to go from a positive. It's good to like phrase things in a positive. But sometimes I think it's also useful to remember what the negative was that you were thinking? Because the thought of someone thinking that they're broken is such an extreme. Limiting horrible thoughts. very damaging. It's nasty, isn't it? It's a nasty way to think about yourself. It's almost cruel. It's almost kind of given up. And that's something you should never do. Ever, ever, ever. That's why the cheerleaders inside you. Because doesn't matter what you do. You're not giving up and not giving up doesn't mean continuing to run. When you can't breathe any longer and you can't your legs aren't working. That's not given up. sitting down and having a breakdown given up, you know some people so he's given up, he's sitting down now, he's drinking water, he's lying on the floor resting. He didn't finish the race, therefore he quit. No. It's not given up. That's stopping doing that particular activity. It's not giving up.
And that inner cheerleader won't let you give up ever. Because he will cheer you on no matter what you do. Because he accepts you. loves you. It's your cheerleader. He reminds you constantly that you're not broken, is the antidote to that for that you may use to have, you know, is the antidote, it gets rid of it. constantly reminding you and telling you, you're not broken, reminding you, but cheering you on with whatever you're doing.
So wherever you're staying in bed all day, because you can't face going out or doing anything. Will cheerleader so well, you getting some rest. And keep that positivity up, reminding you that tomorrow's another day. And you're choosing to be in bed. You don't have to do anything. It's a choice. Which means tomorrow, or in an hour's time, you can get out of bed, if you want to have a bath or a shower, or not have a bath and a shower. Or maybe not both. But you know, whatever you choose, your cheerleader can be behind you, reminding you that you're not broke. You're not broken. You don't need fixing. Because you're not broken. changes may be required. By would suggest that change is required for every single person on the planet. We all need things to be a little bit different. We all need to make changes in our life. If we want to progress emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically, wherever we if you want to just delay deterioration, physical deterioration with age, maybe we need to start doing more walking or going for I feel really old nails or talk about that. But maybe, you know, as I'm getting older, I might need to do more physical stuff to prevent my joints seizing up or you know,
that's okay. It just means making changes. I can't do backflips anymore. To secret I never could but don't tell anyone. You know, it's, it's okay. But your inner cheerleader can say it's fine. It's fine. Whoa, what? Whatever you do, okay.
We're on your side. Let's make it positive though. This is going to be positive risk. You're gonna want to want to be positive and do nice things for yourself. Be kind to yourself. Because that happens organically. Because when you stop when you stop that train of full of negativity towards yourself, and I'm no good at this and I'll craft this and I'm broken and all that stuff. It gets in the way of that natural flow of creativity and feeling you know the opportunity to feel happy. And to actually get in touch with gratitude and to be able to forgive others and yourself. So that cheerleader can remind you keep going. Even if it is something like just getting some food, gone. That's really good. I get the get the toast. I said put that Put the frozen bread in a toaster and get the butter from the fridge. I get some cheese. That's really good. What you did there made that cheese really, really slice Finn. And I say, yeah, we'll actually bought it and slices are well done is this really good idea? Why not tell yourself Do you do really well when when have we ever had that other than maybe one more is very tiny. Possibly a lot of small children get told how wonderful they're doing all the time. When it comes to like potty training, eating with a knife and fork, or Good boy, Jason you dinner, you managed to do a poll and you did it in. He didn't do on a carpet his time. He just, you know, the a lot of positive reinforcement. But for some reason that kind of seems to subside somewhat with age.
So we need to keep it going in our head, we need to have our own reinforcement, positive reinforcement. So before I go, I just want you to say the word again in your head.
I'm not broken, you say three times. And just do slowly say really slowly.
not broken. I just do it three times a night safe. Notice how you physically feel. If you still do that, I apologize. You're doing it much slower than I felt before, I should have enough time. But if you're still doing it, it doesn't matter I can interrupt. So what you did, what you're wanting to do now is I want you to say the words I'm not broken twice. But when you're in a really annoying high pitched voice, it could be something like Mickey Mouse, it could be any silly voice that you can imagine. And just say it could be a muppet, whatever. So dude, if you do that now just say it twice, I'm not broken, but instead of that is
not broken.
That's an example. So you do that now. So I guess it's it feels probably a bit silly. Now, what you could do now is a make an accent. Put a silly make belief accent on something that you like, and it could be an accent that you like. So you might be a fan of the Irish accent or French accent. Or maybe if you're in America, you might love the Canadian accent, I hear that you go really well. So give that a go. So whatever accent one, do it that do that twice. But the exaggerate the accent, make it ridiculous. If you do that now do it twice, just say I'm just like, I'm not going to do an accident, but I'll let you do yours. But I'm not broken twice.
Okay, so I just want you to just notice how it feels. What kind of energy you've got in your in your body, and in your mind right now.
And you know what I would do if he was here right now and I had a group of people I would and this is something you can do. I'll leave you on this note on this idea. And you can do this if you want to do this, but you need your eyes open to do it. And you need a bit of space. So you might need to do in a garden or do it in your living room or other day. Unless of course you've got a dance studio available, which you possibly don't know everybody's got a dance studio. But this literally is there. It's a case of dance. sent around. You can shout at the top of your voice, I'm not broken. Of course, you don't have to dance, you can just do it, go into a field, there is no one around and shout at the top your voice. Or you can sing. I'm not broken, you can just sing it. Or you can dance and sing it at the same time with dance and shouting at the same time. It doesn't have to be a professional performance, you know, everybody can dance. When there's no one looking to get there, go play with it. Play with the idea. I'm not broken. I'm not broken, and you're not broken. And remember that this is serious stuff, you know, serious to remember that. And the thing is, you're not going to be able to forget because now that you've listened to me for an hour rabbiting on about it. It's now stuck in your head. Sorry about that. Very little that can be done now so that that cheerleader in your brain is going to be there now cheering you on giving you positivity and love every month reminding you that you're not broken. Just like my stomach reminded me that I need to eat something for some reason. So you take k cells, I'm going to go and if you do get a chance, do a little dance. Do did I maybe let me know how you get on. So take care yourselves. Thank you for listening. And remember, as always, to be kind to yourself because you deserve to be happy and you're not broken. Lots of love. Bye

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