#66 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks (Jason Newland) (3rd December 2019)

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Hello, and welcome to relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. My name is Jason Newland, please only listen to this when you can safely Close your eyes. And if you'd like to support this free service, and please go to paypal.me forward slash Jason Newland.
Now, I hope you're well hope you're able to have a bit of time to spend with me to calm your mind down to just be in this moment. So I've been thinking about that lately. But actually just be in here. You know where you are, right now.
Just physically, but in your mind not thinking about the future, not dwelling on the past, not even thinking about the next 10 minutes.
But just being in this moment what I've noticed apart from it being quite peaceful, almost feels like time doesn't exist. might seem like strange sentence. When you're doing something, you're watching television. When I watch television, I can feel
time going by. When I'm outside, on a bus, I can feel time going by it because people are traveling around people are moving, they're doing
things. Even when I'm sitting in a chair, I'm thinking about the future. I can always feel the time moving. Sometimes, if I'm moving into the future, in my brain, in my mind. And then when I'm thinking about the past reminds me of the time that's gone past the time,
worse years have gone by since whatever is the unthinking
wave and sit in talking to somebody and get a sense of the time. move in. On I just said that my eyes closed or maybe I have my eyes open, wherever, whichever I want to do.
Just sit I like to do outside if it's a nice day.
Just sit there or stand. Make sure I keep your eyes open if you standing up. It'll be a good idea. Just get in touch with now. Not in an esoteric or spiritual level, just in a factual
way. Now how do you feel right now? Then ask yourself again. How do I feel right now? And that feeling of relaxation or there might be feelings of discomfort in certain parts of your body.
It changes and this that sense within us I think I feel that the it's almost like we don't change. We're somehow Fixed, fixed in us in a specific way, like walk up, I got pain in my stomach, therefore, that's all there is when actually, that physical to physical sensation, take away the word and it's physical sensation. And that physical sensation doesn't stay the same, it changes. And it changes depending on what you think about as well.
So someone's got a pain in their stomach, and they start thinking about all the possible worst case scenarios, then there's a good chance that pain in the stomach would increase, become one comfortable. If on the other side, you know, you think to yourself, oh, I'll probably just need to do a big fart, I'll just, I'll just wait for a while. And then I'll feel fine. Regardless of whether or not that's true, it actually feel different. Because that's how it works. It's how our bodies and our brains work. We were affected by what we think about. Of course, just saying stop thinking is a very easy two words to say. But for some, it seems practically impossible to do. I'm kind of lucky, because I haven't got much going on in my head. I just really slow everything, I'm already moving quite slowly, in some ways. And plus, I've got quite a few years of meditation practice behind me. And when I say I meditate quite a lot at one
point. And so I guess that has helped. But it's something about getting in touch with how you feel, but not not judging it. Because it goes against, I think it goes against our natural instincts
to focus on something that is unpleasant, whether it's feeling, or specifically a feeling really, or a thought. But the thoughts only a problem because of the feeling that comes up after the thought before that, something that wasn't very nice, but you felt great. I suppose you see a therapist, but other than that, it's not going to be a problem, necessarily.
So it's the feeling that arises, after the thoughts and the avoidance that we all have within us to avoid the thing that hurts. And it's natural, and it's completely understandable. I mean, most logical thing in the world is to avoid pain, logical and to avoid stress and to avoid anxiety at logic. However, on flipside, it's not realistic. Because always going to be situations, issues, problems, challenges. Even if you sit in your house and you never leave, there's still issues that come up
with physical issues that can also a lot of people that have anxiety perhaps is because of a chronic physical issue and condition. And some of that stress may come through trying to avoid that physical or trying to Avoid thinking about it or even dressing it. Because that's the logical thing to do is to avoid discomfort, and to move towards comfort. It's logic and it makes sense. But it's not realistic. Because in order to have comfort, and pleasure, we also need to be open to pain and suffering. It's not necessarily about welcoming it. Although I have mentioned that in previous recordings, when you say Come on, then give me all you got. Something changes the way we think and the way we feel the way we react changes. Because you're no longer scared. And I'm no longer scared.
It's almost like standing up to a bully. And it's rewarding as a reward that comes from that which is beyond measure emotionally, but then it opens up the idea of well, is my body bullying me? Because I've got
chronic pain? No, not really. But if you look at it from an angle of, you're not going to allow that physical sensation
to control you. Then you're standing up to your dressing. Just like with stress, with stressful situations with feelings in the body
by addressing it by saying, okay, not sure what this is. And something we're all mentioned this, there's probably some people listening to this that are perhaps my kind of age is going to be young people. It's gonna be people that are older, possibly. What I've noticed as I've got older, is some of the symptoms of stress. I personally have experienced, could have been something different. So to give an example, and I was ill yesterday, and I called up, NHS direct, didn't call up for the hospital or anything, then call up emergency services. I was having palpitations in my heart or my chest. I didn't feel as if it was a panic attack. I didn't have that. I did feel panicky, a little I was worried and concerned but not in a way that I have been in the past. And I was struggling with my breath. And I thought, okay, I left it for an hour did some relaxation exercises, and it did help. But they want to stop doing relaxation exercises that kind of came back towards this. So I called up NHS direct which is a national helpline in England. And they asked me questions and they said we send in an ambulance. I said well don't really want an ambulance. If you think I need to go to the hospital. I'll just get a taxi and go it's it's too late. We've already found an ambulance. We have to based on my age based on you know the details I gave Never in my life have I had an ambulance come to me. I've gone to the emergency ward at least twice, maybe three times with pain in our chest stuff and ended up being panic attacks.
But this felt different. I think that the point of this story is, don't ignore what's going on. So by actually addressing it, you're also not ignoring it. You can't ignore and address something at the same time. It might be something important might be something that you need to get checked out. It probably isn't. But it might be.
And just keeping that in mind could save your life. And I'm not trying to be dramatic. Just try and be real, you know, don't ignore physical issues, just because. And you might think to yourself, well, it's just stress, just the anxiety. Even though it may have been many times in the past, doesn't mean it is definitely there. So it's worth getting yourself checked out just to make sure. Okay, so that's important. I'm not saying everyone rushed to the hospital because it's not once or saying that at all.
But if it's something to do with your chest you breathe in. And it feels completely different from a panic attack. Another thing I would say is, and this is something I've only done twice, but it's really worth doing. Just turn it around advice, advice, recording this.
If you've got someone that lives near you, someone that you can knock on their door, or phone them up any time of the day. I know we've always got someone I've not got many people like that perhaps two people that I could phone up. And one of them might not have the phone number in his downstairs walk or knock on his door just to be with you. Even if it is on the phone or something sometimes just that distraction is the difference between the recovery time from the anxiety of that. So basically, the NHS direct person on the phone said was sending ambulance Have you got anyone you can contact to be with you for when the ambulance arrives. And I said well, I can knock on my friend's door downstairs. Bearing in mind this was core to one in the morning. I think it was and I did and he was awake and he came up and it did distract me. I still had some feelings. But it did start to subside. And it was about two and a half hours before the ambulance actually arrived. Because they're busy. And the paramedics were brilliant. They did a ECG thing you know the Paulo's label stickers on my chest in the stomach and check my blood pressure. Everything was perfect. Everything. He gave me a diabetes test perfect. So by the time that they'd finished examine me, and show me the results I felt fine. I felt guilty. I felt ashamed. I'll be honest, I did. I felt tearful In fact, I feel like a fraud.
That's how I felt. But that wasn't fair on me to feel that way. While I wasn't being fair on myself, because I legitimately for animals concerned for my health. I didn't call an ambulance. They called it I didn't, you know, I felt guilty. is also what's ridiculous about as well. While my eight CG my heart monitor was being done. I was almost hoping that they'd find something just so that I hadn't wasted their time. Just so that I was actually not. I didn't want it to be stress, I didn't want it to be some kind of anxiety provoking thing. Because this part of me thinks it should never happen again. Even though I would never say that to another person. I would never tell another person, you know, is ridiculous. You, you know, you should be over this by now, how can you help other people if you've not completely got over yourself?
Well, you know what, I'm going to be doing this stuff for a long time,
there might come a time when I'm very ill. And guarantee you if I was diagnosed with cancer, I would be making recordings of people with cancer. So no one's saying, you know, you can't do stuff helping people, unless you're completely well yourself. Or that are b we wouldn't have many doctors left. wouldn't be that many paramedics, or nurses. Because there's a huge rate of anxiety and stress within the mental health sector people, you know, psychiatrists, social workers, psychologists. It's a massive issue with people from all places, especially high stress jobs, like working in the health service, whether private or you know, public.
Realistically, there's no reason any of us to feel guilty. And I realize when I'm talking about, I felt guilty, I felt ashamed. I'm talking about myself, I'm talking about how I felt. I'm not talking about how anyone else should feel. Because I don't tell anyone how they should feel. It's none of my business. I'm not in a position to tell another person how to feel. I can offer a few tips, I can offer my experience, I can offer some professional experience as a therapist, some personal experience, from many years of mental health issues. Going back to childhood, all the books, I've read all the things I've studied, or the people that I've counseled and helped. But doesn't mean I can tell someone else how to be or how to live, or how you should feel dislike, you can't do that to anyone either, you know, we we can try. But the reality is, the only thing we could do really is work on ourselves. And part of the reason I haven't made one of these recordings for a little while, is because I've had a bit of a rough time. But, you know, with a bipolar, I've had a bit of a difficult emotional time. And when I'm like that, I feel like a fraud. I feel like why, how can I make recordings and making out that I can help others when, you know, I can't even help myself, that that kind of mentality which is not helpful to me. And I've had quite a lot of feedback telling me that actually, what I do is helpful. And it can also be helpful to hear somebody else's honesty. Because there's lots of things you'll find on YouTube. Lots of stuff, you'll find where there's an expert, this is how you do this and this is what you do. And that's it and just follow this special technique
and Perhaps they don't share their own experiences or maybe they haven't had their own personal experiences. Which of doubt, actually, because everybody has had experiences of stress, everyone, even people that don't think they have have
because it comes out in different ways doesn't it expresses itself in different ways. And they seem to be expressing itself in my physicality, how I felt physically, rather than how I felt emotionally.
Because yesterday, I was wide awake. I'm in because I've been tired. I go through periods when I'm tired. And I sleep a lot. In other periods when I'm really on it, you know, called really awake, alert. And the last two days, I've been really alert. Yesterday, I was sitting on my laptop thinking, why don't I want to go to bed for a nap or something like that, because that's what I've been doing for two weeks, just going for a little nap.
Didn't want to wide awake. So it's almost it could say, I'm going through. It's not manic, because I don't really get manic on medication, it's more hyper hypomania, but like a very low level, which then kicks in the adrenalin causes can cause symptoms of where the adrenaline goes, you know, the heart can feel like it's fluttering. But actually, nothing's happening.
They feel it, but nothing's happening. It's not physically, nothing physical really going on? Well, they you feel it. And that's what's a strange thing about it. On the dog years ago, seen in a call center, field, and is it my heart was about to literally, it's an old cliche felt like it was gonna pop out my chest, I felt like everyone must be able to see my heart pumping. It was like both blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But it wasn't. Because I would have died. I wouldn't survive that. It wasn't doing what I thought it was doing. It's just how I felt. I could feel my heart in my head. I feel like I feel my pulse. You know, in different parts of my body, which we do have the post different parts of our body. I
know. It's almost as if it's taken over. Sometimes. So it's one of the things I was trying to get to today was
how do we distinguish between what is real as far as a physical issue, and one is caused by stress. But then physical issues, real physical issues can be caused by stress.
So how do we get to the point? Why do I get to the point of you might say, Yeah, can you please get to the point, Jason?
Unlikely I always like to take time. getting to the point of I think the clue, I think the solution maybe it's getting to know yourself.
continuously. Observing yourself. Being in the now you know, as often as possible, almost like checking in. So you've got child who's gone to France for the weekend, on a school trip. Never been away from home. Never been out of the country before. You've never had a night without your child being there. Maybe. If you could, you would want to check in with your child every hour. Probably just to make sure that he or she is okay. Not because you're necessarily interested in what they're doing. Because you're probably enjoying And being away, so you can have some time to do stuff. Just want to make sure that okay without being intrusive or too intrusive. So perhaps we can do that ourselves. Our Lord tune in, I cannot eat one might take 10 seconds, 20 seconds to how am I feeling? What is the feeling? And just observe? Because when you do that you're in the moment. You're not saying to yourself, how am I gonna feel tomorrow? How did I feel 22 years ago? You know, you think about now, how am I feeling now? How are you feeling now? In this moment? without judging it without pre empting you know, just be in with yourself. Okay, how am I now
and then just move on with whatever else you're doing. Every hour maybe just brings us back to how you feeling.
Even if it is just for 10 seconds, even if it's just for five seconds. How you feeling, you can get in touch with your body. Notice the floor underneath your feet. Or if you want a chair, like just the chair supporting your bomb in your body. Maybe noticing your hands that might be rested on a keyboard. You know, noticing the temperature of the room. just noticing the people around you noticing the sounds, the mixture of sounds 90 of the sound might be different voices that you can hear from around the office, for example, my hair, the wind in my head, the air conditioning, my hair, the sound of the computers,
my hair, the sound of the printer and the distance. It's just sound. But not focusing on a particular thing. Just being with it in that moment for those few seconds.
Almost like a breath. each breath. There's no there's no breath more important than the one we take right now. In next breath is the most important breath that you'll ever take. No breath now every breath you've ever taken is more important than the breath you take right now.
So it's kind of just being in the moment. You're very meditative. It's very, I suppose almost on a hypnotic in a sense. But at the same time, it's relaxing. It's calming. This also opening yourself up to what is you know, not trying to push away anything. not focusing on your right thigh because it feels nice compared to perhaps your left ankle, which may have been sprained. So you're not focused on that because you don't want to feel that feeling. You want to focus on something different. Being at five or 10 seconds or 2030 seconds, one minute, wherever you give yourself. You know focusing on any particular part is focused on on the whole of yourself. And if that left ankle is asking for attention and give me your attention that's all the pain once is your attention. And maybe to do something about it, if at all possible. And if you are doing whatever is needed. And all that needs is time, or perhaps you've done everything and there's nothing more you can do,
you can give it your attention. And that's all it needs. And they can let you get on with what you're doing.
Just like a baby, sometimes all they need is your attention. Awake out there, they'll cry. And as soon as you go over, they see you. Maybe you pick the baby up for 30 seconds, lay down again. And she or he goes back to sleep. Because they've got what they needed, they will need your attention. That's what your body needs. That's what your mind needs is what you need. You need your own attention.
We all have a sense of needing validation from others. And it's that's kind of standard thing, and it's not always healthy.
What we do need is validation for ourselves from ourselves, we need that we may think that we need validation from others, but we don't.
But we do need validation from ourselves. We do need to understand and accept ourselves and say to ourselves, it's okay. I'm okay. I'm going to be okay. And to have that love for yourself. Know who we really love, not like some kind of a service. This isn't esoteric is not spiritual, it's not religious. This is just
love. Caring, deeply caring for yourself. like you would a baby. small child, someone could be you know, someone that you look at it could be could be your cat. For me, it's my favorite, Andre,
I look at him. And I love him. With everything I've got, I love him. And he's annoying as anything, but I do absolutely adore him. And if I could get a part of that feeling, and aim it towards myself. But to get that feeling and plug it in, you know, almost like a disk into my own heart and aim at me. My life would be transformed. There's no about doing it all on one go. about starting it. It's about starting to realize that you are worthy. Have your own love, your own kindness, your own consideration, your own acceptance, consideration, you're worthy of all that. And more. So I'm going to leave you on this recording. And I said a few things and as usual, always, you know, go off on tangents. There is a message here somewhere. And I hope it's a fuse. And I hope you realize I'm coming from trying to come from a kind place and trying to be an understanding and understand in place. But I don't know what it's like to be you. You don't know what it's like to be me. None of us knows what it's like to be other people. Even if we experience various similar situations. It's going to be different for everybody but by sharing our experience by hearing what someone else is going through what has gone through. And by considering different ideas that may not have even been even in your mind before just an idea can change the way you think and feel. And alike. I think of these ideas that I kind of mentioned throughout our recording as being like a buffet. So you go to a buffet, and you just try stuff, you know, you've got lots of different food, lots of finger food, not at your fingers, but, you know, sausages and pasties and cheese puffs and Quiche Lorraine and I'm trying to think of stuff you haven't. It's lots of sandwiches, lots of different things. And it's going to be stuff there. Maybe you've never tried before. Maybe stuff you've looked at before in the past and for
No thanks. Maybe things you've looked at before and thought maybe he's in it and he seems to like it. So it's a case of just testing. And if you don't like it, donate it. Just like a buffet. That's what these recordings are like to the Big Gold buffet full of ideas that you can test. Try on as and when you please. So I'm going to go I want to thank you for listening. And remember to be kind to yourself because you deserve to be happy. Take care Bye

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