Hello. Welcome to relaxation, hypnosis for anxiety, stress, and panic attacks. My name is Jason Newland, please only listen to this, when you can safely Close your eyes.
I thought in this recording, to focus on previous times when you've dealt with, let's say a panic attack or, you know, extreme anxiety or stress. And the reason I'm thinking about this is because it's natural to expect what has come before. It's it's a very logical thing to expect in the future, what has happened in the past doesn't mean it's going to happen, doesn't mean that it has to happen, or it needs to happen. Or they will happen.
Some something that could be useful to address. Because it's quite easy to get caught up in that way of thinking, that limited way of thinking that we're all capable of.
So I'm very careful to want to word this in a way that it doesn't sound like I'm being judgey or, you know, because we're all capable of negative thinking. We're all capable of cause catastrophe thinking. And I think when there's been perhaps too many, or too many, I think, is a good way of saying it too many experiences of anxiety, panic in the past, or maybe the recent past. It makes sense. To think that it's going to happen in the future, it makes sense for you logical, makes a lot of sense to expect it to happen in the future, more of the same. But it doesn't mean that it has to doesn't mean that you have to think that way. is a thing with many years ago, learning about stopping smoking, and you know, helping people to stop and I kind of studied it a little bit because I wanted to stop smoking myself at the time. This is no late 90s. And the idea was that actually we all didn't enjoy it, people wouldn't start smoking to the very earliest would be perhaps late teens or perhaps 15 1416. You know, of course, there's going to be the exception that has yet started very young, but most people wouldn't start smoking until they've been alive for maybe 15 1617 years, maybe longer. So The logic behind that was, well, if you can go 17 years without smoking, you can get through the end of the day without smoking.
So it's doing what we already do. And that is selective thinking, selecting bias, selecting focus on parts of the past. So if someone's going to go on a first date with somebody,
and the may have had a few really good dates with other people in the past, and maybe a few, not so good ones. Now, what that person focuses on, could have a big impact on the upcoming date. so far as to go on a date tonight. And all I do is focus on the let's call them mistakes that perhaps I made, or the feeling of not having gone well, I'll start to expect that to happen. And apart from possibly not even wanting to go on the date, and maybe pulling out and canceling. If I did actually go on a date, or might not be the best version of myself that I would like to be
for that date. I might be a little bit over sensitive or might
be tripping over my words because, you know, try and not to say the wrong thing, instead of just relaxing and being yourself.
So it's selective thinking. I could think of previous dates that were really lovely, and perhaps why would call successful. And it's been a few of those.
And then maybe I'll feel more confident in your ability to deal with the upcoming situation. Because you remember in the times when HD things when okay.
So when I had my first full, big panic attack, I say the first because I realized later that I had had them in the past, but I didn't know what they were. And they were there was quite a big distance between them. You know what they weren't. You know, once I was in a club, a nightclub. And it was so busy. It was so kind of claustrophobic. Everyone was smoking. And it was so hot. And I just you know, I had a panic attack. And I was struggling to breathe and everything was just really weird. But I didn't know what it was at the time. I didn't know anything about panic attacks or anxiety really know a little bit about stress by had no idea about anxiety attacks didn't never even heard of them. In fact, it wasn't it wasn't really talked about back then. Things like PTSD. And that was kind of still called shellshock All graphic. You know, I don't think even bipolar was, I was still called many depressants. So going back a while
I am in fact about 300 years old. I only sound 150. So something about what you focus on. So when I had the major panic attack, when I was at work in my office in 2002, November, remember,
I started afterwards start to expect to have them and I was thinking about going to work. And that's what I was thinking about. The fact that I was what 32 years old, been working full time since I was 15. So 17 years, never had a panic attack at work in my life, up to that point. I've been working at that place for 13 months. Never had a panic attack there until that time. So instead of thinking about all the hundreds of examples, maybe 1000s, we go through the the years of times when I've been at work, gone to work, you know, and everything has been fine. Instead of thinking of that stuff, I was focusing on the the one example. But then became two examples and five and 15 examples. bouts focus on them, not all the hundreds, and hundreds of examples of feeling fine. So I wasn't expecting to feel fine. Not saying that is just about how you think. And it's just about what you focus on.
But as an effect, readers, it always has and always will. Because what we think about affects our behavior. What we think about affects our experience of this world. What we think about affects our life just in a huge way because you know, you could have the worst night's sleep gap in the morning and find out and go buy a scratch card in the shop in the news agents and you win $5,000 or 5000 pounds.
You're gonna have a good day. Regardless of how little sleep you've had, you're going to have a good day regardless of how the management are. Regardless, you won't matter what the weather is like. You're going to have a good day because of the way that you're seeing the world. On that day. It's raining, it won't bother you. Why would it bother you just won five grand which is a nice little bit of money. Which could pay for a nice holiday. Beef pay for presents for loved ones it could whatever it is. It's something special. It doesn't have to be money. You get a phone call finds out that your your grandchild has just been born. You're gonna have a good day. Regardless, even if you, even if you've got a cold or you're physically unwell, you know, you're gonna have a good day. Because something special or magical has happened
in your life because it's nothing else has changed. The world is still the same. Everybody else is still doing their thing. But the way you're choosing to select how you see things, and how you think, and what you focus on,
changes. And it's that old issues you're put down, that people use, about people that are perhaps positive thinking, looking at the world through rose colored spectacles and stuff like that. As if it's a bad thing. As if feeling happy is somehow wrong, or something to be ashamed of, to actually feel good inside. to actually be in touch with one amazing person you are. And what you know how every day is a new opportunity to experience more of those pleasant feelings that you have experienced in the past. Where you can choose to focus on the unpleasant ones, if that is your choice, and it is your choice.
You can spend an hour and a half cooking a lovely meal for yourself. You put on a play and you can walk into the living room, you have a choice, you can drop it on the floor, or you can put onto the table and eat it. It's your choice. If you drop on the floor there's no point of feeling rubbish about it, or feeling angry or upset or blaming anyone
because you chose to do. And that brings us to the blame part of things.
Because I think we've anxiety, stress, panic. Just like most things in life. This this is a human thing. Basically. I guess we are
told this must be a taught thing. The need there's a need to blame. Never such a strong need to credit people to reward people to congratulate people, much stronger need to blame people.
And again, we've all got that in us. We've all been drawn into that silliness, of blame. thing I suppose when I had my first big panic attack. I can't blame the job. I blamed my bosses for pushing me to get the most sales in that week, which I accomplished. But then I knew that I was responsible for what I did. I was responsible for wanting to beat the sales record. I was with sponsible for doing all the extra hours. So I was able to blame myself. Instead of stepping back and realizing that actually, you're not to blame no more than you're to blame for any other physical or mental or emotional illness or disorder or problem, even if previous behavior has perhaps had a big impact on
the current situation. What possible use? Could there be to be blaming yourself to be punishing yourself? Haven't you punished yourself enough isn't enough is enough time to stop being kind to yourself. Time to start to be selective, but in a different way. be selective and start selecting those things that you appreciate about yourself.
start selecting those memories of times when you felt relaxed. Select those memories where you felt calm and capable of dealing with whatever comes your way. Selecting those memories, were you able to just let go of stuff and decided to put yourself first put your health first. Because your health and your mental well being is just too important to ignore. And let's face it, you can have the best call in the world but you spend all your time on it, he can clean it, he can, you know get every accessory possible to be the most expensive car on the planet. But if you take the wheels away, it's nothing more than
just a really funny shaped greenhouse brim grow some tomatoes in it. sheltered park bench and your health is the wheels. Without the wheels, the cars go nowhere.
Your health we can't go anywhere. We need to be able to relax and in order to relax. You need to stop the blame. And that includes blaming others. Plus, of course, stopping blaming yourself. as some people may say, I don't really blame myself. When that case between now in the next recording, start listening to what you say to yourself. start noticing what you visualize what you want your mentioned you know when you maybe you sitting down on a bus or maybe you're watching Telly but you start zoning out and starting to think about going to work tomorrow or going to school or college or going to a social event where there's going to be people and just notice how you are mentioning that a future situation to be And I like the idea of the rose colored spectacles. Maybe use an analogy of relaxation spectacles. so relaxing spectacles looking through the lens of relaxation. So when you think about the future, and it could be any effect, make sure you've got those spectacles on in your mind and look through that lens. Or maybe it can have a color, maybe light blue, wherever the color of relaxation, may be, to you doesn't have to have a color might have a sound doesn't have to have a sound
with a frame of mind is choosing. Selecting when you think about that thing, that hasn't happened yet. So basically,
you can have anything happen for something that hasn't happened yet. If you got a wedding to go to, and you're mentioned in the wedding, that maybe this this weekend come in. And perhaps, as you're not a big fan of being in crowds, or being big social events, I'm not personally. So you're thinking about this thing coming up at the weekend. As an example, you can imagine absolutely anything happening. So you can choose, you can choose the most horrible thing. Or you can choose the most beautiful thing, you can choose the most absurd thing.
You can choose something that makes you feel good. Now, like in this moment, thinking about these future events. You can imagine the bride and groom or wherever, or the priest, whoever is like getting married, imagined them reflect flowerpots on top of their heads.
That's imagines people made of marshmallows dancing with each other. something silly, something absurd. Something that you could say, well, that would never happen. But the same could be said about anything. If you can imagine something. Why not choose what you imagined? Because that's something that you do have control over 100% Some people say, I can't control what happens when, in the moment, I can't control what happens on the event. Regardless of whether that's true or not, you can control how you imagined the event to occur. 100% you can choose how you imagine that. You can add your own music. You can make it funny, you can make it silly. You can turn into a ballet, he can pretty much do whatever you want to do. Because it's your imagination. This is your mind. What you imagined affects how you feel about the event coming up. And how you feel about the event coming up will affect how you feel at the event at that wedding. So if you imagine everything being really good. You imagine yourself feeling really relaxed.
You feel good, you feel relaxed in the moment, it feels nice. And the more you imagine that, when the witness actually comes, you can experience things differently to the way you would have done. If you'd have been imagining it being a nightmare doesn't mean that imagining it being a nightmare will mean it will be a nightmare. Of course, not the way you expect, the things you expect to happen. natural things might not happen, but your feelings may happen. And that expectation of something happening can have a big effect on our well being on a levels of relaxation can increase with that. imagining things working out really well. Because if I said to you, I'd like you to just imagine the ideal, safe space, the ideal place where you feel safe, and it could be like, your own den, you know, your own play room or office, or it could just be a home, or could be a garden, shed, it could be whatever it is, it's your space. And you can have anything in it. You want anything that you dream of. Now, I can't guess what you'd have. A nor do I need to. Because none of my business, your imagination. And you can have anything you want in that safe space. A place where you can relax, feel calm, and feel. Just really feel happy. Because you're going to have stuff there that you like to be around. So might be games it might be if you're into carpentry, it might be, you know, carpentry tools. It might if you're into tropical fish, it might be full of tropical fish, whatever it might be. If you're a musician, you might have a big room full of musical instruments and the top recording studio. You know, this is the imagination, there is no limit to what you can have. And the room can be a small room, we can be 1000 1000 100,000 acres doesn't matter. It's your imagination. You know, I can guarantee you won't be in there. The thing you won't have in that room. That safe space is something that you don't like. If you don't like crocodiles, you're not going to have a crocodile running around. If there's a specific person that you don't like, you wouldn't allow them in. If you've got no interest in cats, you wouldn't have a cat in there. If you know, if you don't like peanut butter, you wouldn't have a big cupboard full of peanut butter in there. Why would you mean practically you wouldn't do it. But it's your imagination even more so.
It only be things that you want, that you love that you like that you enjoy the only things that you imagined
tape that situation, I just added to everything that you imagine. And you start to realize that of course imagined in situation in the future, being rubbish and stressful and anxiety producing, is going to feel crap. Even when you imagine it, before it's even happened. This might be something a year away an event a year away from now, it might be something that may not ever happen. But you're going to feel rubbish, imagining a negative outcome. So it's for imagination. Why? Why would you do that to yourself, you're on your own, in your mind is no one else that's your mind. you own your thoughts, you own your imagination.
This lot when you're watching television, you may be in a relationship, you may have a family, you may share a shared house.
And perhaps you don't have the remote control all the time. So you might sit through
programs you don't particularly want to watch. You sure you don't want to do that when you're on your own though or you.
If you're sitting for a program, let's say it's a James Bond film, you've seen it before 20 years ago. And the person's watching it with you goes to bed or goes out to work or wherever you're going to continue to sit watching it when you know every single thing that happens, and you've seen it probably 14 times before. Or you're going to turn the TV over to something that you want to watch.
So that you can feel the way that you want to feel. Now I would definitely turn the television over to a different channel. It's not about James Bond films, it's just the idea is that we tolerate certain things. When we have to watch a program that we don't want to watch because the person we love is watching and they like.
But once they're gone and they're moved, they've gone to bed or you know they've gone to do something else.
You don't have to watch it anymore. You have control with that remote control. You have way more control with your imagination. Because with your imagination can transform your life by imagining future events to be really nice imagining tomorrow to wake up feeling relaxed, to imagine going to work maybe
feeling relaxed and confident. Imagine get into work, still feeling calm and relaxed. Imagining joy in seeing your work colleagues. Imagine doing the various tasks that your job entails and feeling relaxed imagining joy in it. Imagine appreciating maybe having a job appreciating the good aspects, the positive, useful aspects even if it's just getting paid, mentioned and feeling relaxed on your way home. Imagine going home and being pleased to get home. Not because the day's been so rubbish, but because you're home. And you like being at home. And you can feel relaxed, even more relaxed maybe. But in a different way. Because you can take your shoes off and you can take your socks off and you can wear different clothes. And if you want to dress up as Superman or Spider Man or Wonder Woman you can
you probably can't do that at work in the shore. a superhero. So that's just supports, think about some ideas to focus your mind around your imagination. What can you imagine? If anyone's thinking, well, I don't really have an imagination. I don't visualize. Well, we all we all have an imagination, every single one of us. And it's not about visualizing, it's about thinking about,
let's say, tomorrow doesn't have to be a visual thing doesn't have to be like a photograph or a movie. It's about the feeling. It's about the feeling you have when you think about feeling relaxed compared to the feeling that you may have had with previous imaginings before heading off to work or before going to sleep or mentioning the day ahead. Turn there what might have been stressful. x expectations into expecting to feel relaxed and calm. expecting to feel open and able to deal with whatever the day presents to you. And knowing that everything's gonna be okay. Everything is going to be okay. You are okay. You felt relaxed many times in your life and you can feel relaxed right now and you can feel relaxed tomorrow. I'm going to leave it on that note. And I'm going to speak to you again soon. Have a good day. Have a good tomorrow. Have a relaxed tomorrow. Enjoy your tomorrow. Bye
Hello. Welcome to relaxation, hypnosis for anxiety, stress, and panic attacks. My name is Jason Newland, please only listen to this, when you can safely Close your eyes.