Hello, welcome to relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. My name is Jason Newland, please only listen to this when you can safely Close your eyes.
Now I try and do different recordings every time. And can I just do a relaxation session here, so won't be really talking about anything
specific, necessarily more just going to be a full body relaxation, kind of a body scan, slash meditation, mindfulness kind of thing. And the reason I'm doing this is because I was talking to somebody the other day.
It was Thursday. And she asked me, boo talking about the time when I was dealing with excessive anxiety, panic attacks. And she asked me, Why did practically to help myself. And I thought about it because I wasn't sure quite how to answer it. So did a few things. Some things were
not forced upon me. But I ended up feeling that I needed to do. One was to stop working for a little while. Although I did, I did stick with the job for a year while I was having the anxiety and the panic attacks,
but eventually I just felt I had to get that job in so I did
bother other things are tried quite a few different things. And some aroma therapy and exercise. And the thing I think one of the things that helped me a lot was learning to meditate. And I went to a Buddhist center, near where I left. It was best to go somewhere near where you live, I think rather than traveling for seven hours. And they did two types of meditation. One was mindfulness of breathing. And the other one was the map of now, which is
I should know this should be creating loving kindness. And this is back in 2002. no end of the year, November time that I started going to the meditation. So I said to this, this person I was talking to on Thursday. I said I would do meditation. That's something that helped. And she said to me that focusing on your breath can really help. And then I remembered I remembered the actually focusing on my breath was the last thing that I wanted to do at that time, because when I focused on my breath, I find, you know, it was the breathing issues, it was the shortness of breath. And I found that I was too focused already on my breath, before I even started meditating. So why needed really was to maybe a different focus, or more overall focus. But at the same time, finding a way to be able to focus on my breath, without it, send me into some kind of panicky state of mind. So that was a little hurdle wasn't a major hurdle, it was slightly difficult. Because the person that was teaching me meditation, for me and in the group wasn't
aware of my condition. And I wasn't aware of the benefits of meditation for my condition. As soon as the kind of very experimental thing for me.
So I ended up doing because with the mindfulness of breathing, this few, a few stages and you, you count the outward breath for a while, maybe for five minutes or 10 minutes, and they ring a bell, and then you can't be in breath for five or 10 minutes to them in the bell, you count from one to 10, and then start again at one. And if your mind wanders off, you just come back and start one again. And then gradually, you stop counting and you focus on just your breathing on its own. So what I did in the moments when, other times when I didn't feel very comfortable focusing on my breath, because at times, it felt a little bit like hyperventilating. When you're hyperventilating. It's an over focus on your breath, isn't it? It's not the only reason for it, but is, is the anxiety that comes in with that. So why needed was not so much a distraction, although that can be useful. Why I found myself doing was sitting there and just being there just sitting. And there's a Zen kind of meditation called Zazen or Zen which is just sitting and then we have the rise open a little bit and then looking at maybe a carpet on the floor and I just started this 1994 but find some audio tapes. But again, this by focusing on the body, or being aware of your body as an overall thing, rather than focusing too intensely on a physical reaction on may have been having do too. My state of mind, anxiety, stress, whatever it may be. So it's kind of like we could say just watching the traffic just watching the traffic go by and not getting too caught up in any particular car. Just letting it go by. Just go But anyway, it's just a case of just just observing. So I found that was quite a useful thing to do. Until I was able to get to the point of feeling comfortable focusing and counting my breaths.
So that that brings up yet another potential misconception or misunderstanding, sometimes from maybe somebody that hasn't experienced extreme anxiety, but then we all experience things differently. So I just feel it's very important that you do what works for you. And that's just so important to find what is useful for you. And these recordings are, have multi layered reasons behind them. There's the relaxation aspect of the recording, even when I'm being conversational, about anxiety or, you know, my own experiences, which you may be able to relate to. which may mean that you perhaps feel less on your own.
Then, maybe you did before. I mean, luckily, with the internet, last night was a great thing with forums and Facebook groups, you can get a bit nasty illness sometimes. But
one thing that comes out of the internet as you can get to realize that actually, whatever you're going through, although other people won't know what it feels like to be you, they will have gone through what you're going through, there's going to be someone out there that has already walked that path. Whether it's the path leading to the illness, or the path leading to recovery.
And that can be quite nice. I think that's a benefit that a lot of people get from joining online groups for their maybe for someone has got fibromyalgia, for example. They'll join a group and see the other people also I have difficulty doing housework or difficulty getting out of bed at times in any relate to that and think, realize that they're not the only one. That is nothing wrong with them. As far as they're not abnormal. They're not they're just not just but they're all they've got an illness. And they share some of those symptoms with others that also have that particular condition. And of course, it's different for everybody. Yet there are always going to be similarities and with anxiety, stress, panic against different everybody. Of course is we all experience the world differently. The reason why it is millions and millions of different types of food available, because people don't all like the same stuff.
Some people love peanut butter I really don't. And I can't figure out how anyone could. And I'm sure as millions of people could never understand how
other people couldn't love it. But this is not about peanut butter. It's about uniqueness. So we're all unique. So we all experience anxiety, stress, panic, in a different way. Yet there will be similarities
when you read another person's description of how they were feeling. So that's part of what this is about. So that you don't feel alone. So that you realize that, actually, there's a lot of people out there that have dealt with this. There's a lot of people out there that have come out the other end and flourished. And I was thinking, another thing that there was a conversation going on between two people a few months back. And one was saying that he has anger, anxiety attacks. And his friend said, also, you have panic attacks. And the reply was no, I have anxiety attacks, I do not have panic attacks. Everyone's said, the same thing. And they, and they kind of had an argument, I didn't get involved because
I couldn't be bothered really. They seem to be enjoying themselves argument. Sometimes all people need is to just feel that they're right. And they're happy.
Yet they are the same thing. It's just a different description for the same thing. Because the word panic. I think about this. Panic is something you're fearful, you're worried about something happening. That would be like a panic, wouldn't it or something's about to happen. I think throughout the whole process of having anxiety, attacks and having extreme stress and anxiety. The only thing I was ever really worried about was having a panic attack. That is what I was panicky about.
So I was panicking about panic. I wasn't panicking about panic. I was panicking about anxiety. I was panic about panicking about having their ex extreme physical and emotional, exaggerated feeling that seemed to just manifest itself out of nowhere. And believing that I was going to die when I wasn't
and that was the thing I feared most have been one of those anxiety attacks. And then it brings the other side of things. What are you anxious for?
What just deal with the anxiety deal with wherever is you're anxious about therefore you are having anxiety attacks. And that's another thing that some people struggle to understand that actually you know, I've had panic attacks or anxiety attacks In the past, when I was in a bookshop, all I was doing was looking for a book to read. There was absolutely no stress involved. There was nobody in the shop, it wasn't busy. It was a carefree day, really, within suppose in the back of my mind, hoping that I wouldn't have a panic attack. And I did out of nowhere. And I had to run out the shop, couldn't breathe at the run out, I was sweating. And I caught my breath. And I did why at that time, I associated that shop with having panic attacks, as I started to do that time, associate in different places that I had them. And in trying to avoid those places, thinking, trying to think logically about something that's not logical. Panic attacks, anxiety attacks are not logical. Tape generally, of course, they can be logical, if it's, you know, in a situation with somebodies, having to do something or kind of being forced to do something that they really don't want to do. They say public speaking. And they said, I don't want to do that. And they'd been told we, you got to do it. It's part of your job, you have to do this. And, you know, if you don't do it properly, you'll lose your job or something ridiculous like that. Or you have to talk publicly because it's part of your exam. And then the person might have an anxiety attack. So that could be technically a logical, understandable reaction to extreme stress. to expect someone to do something that they really don't want to do. And demand in it. Is I dare to say cruel, actually, it's very cruel and unkind thing to do.
There's people that think the people out there to think that those have anxiety and panic attacks and stress a week. That's got nothing to do with weakness. It's got nothing to do with strength. It's just to do with being a human being my node, I know a person that had the first panic attack when they were 70. Never had one before didn't, didn't know what to do. Nobody knows what to do. You know, I think when anyone has the first one, nobody knows what to do because it's such a strange experience. Although it's different for everybody is strange. For everybody, pretty much guarantee. I'll bet money on that. One of the weirdest experiences almost an out of body experience. For me. It's like I was astral traveling while I was awake at work. Who's very spacey? Lux Yes. I want to put LSD in my tea or something. Very, absolutely. terrifying. I'll be honest. And but that's okay. was what made it quite difficult at the time I was 32. My manager, I worked in insurance. My manager was about 22. And it's not really about age, but he'd never been Ill never, never had an illness. Other than just cold, gentle stuff. And I said to him, I said, Look, I keep having nice anxiety attacks. In fact, I didn't know what they were, I hadn't been to the doctor. I said, I keep them this short, we should breath. And
I don't know what's going on. And he just laughed. I said, just get back to work. And then I think I went back to work. But didn't go back the next day. And I saw the doctor. And he signed me off for a week. And then, after a week, he signed me off for another two weeks.
And I find my boss up by manager. And I said, just to let you know, of doctors, give me another two weeks off. I've sent the sick note in the post to work, so I can't get I can't get out of Canada house bound at the moment. And he said to me, we need to phone in every day. I said, What would you mean? He said, You need to find in every day to let us know. You're not coming in.
I said, Well, I just told you, I'm not coming in. And he said, Well, if you don't find in every day,
then you're might go to disciplinary. So I couldn't quite understand where he's coming from. So anyway, I find out the HR department human resources. And I told him what had been said to me. And I told him that I would not be phoning in every day. And I've been signed off by a doctor. And I also said that I was very upset with what I've been how I've been spoken to.
And he got disciplinary. He didn't lose his job, but he got told off.
And part of the reason I mentioned this is because polycarbonate just remembered it. Also, I see stories online where people have been mismanaged by their bosses at work managers, line managers, whatever, you know, whoever's in charge, been mistreated, being laid off even sacked because I've been ill. And that's not allowed. And that's taken advantage advantages, someone that's in a vulnerable situation. So it's something worth thinking about. Maybe if it fits in with the situation, you may have been involved in. anxiety, stress is an illness. It's not just a state of mind. It's not regardless of how long it lasts. Still an illness. And illness doesn't have to be something that lasts for a lifetime. illness can be something that lasts for a week, a few weeks, maybe a few days, even still an illness. And it still deserves you to be respected. And also for you to be kind to yourself as well. So that you give yourself what you need. Whether it's time, whether it's space, whether it involves Looking for a different job,
or changing your parts of your life in order to reduce your stress levels, because I think as I've got older, I kind of always known this, I think, but it's really kind of become more obvious as of aged,
is if you're going to spend years of your life doing a job, or living with somebody that you don't like, doing the job that you don't like, then chances are very high that you'll be unhappy. Chances are very high that your stress levels will be way above average. And some kind of illness will present itself with in the form of anxiety or stress, or some other physical or mental illness.
So I do believe, actually, although it's easy to just say the words, get a different job, or No, it's not that easy, necessarily. And I'm not saying get a different job. Why I am suggesting is, look carefully at your life, the important parts of your life and consider making changes for your health. Because this is your life. And don't you deserve to be happy. Even if it involves going back to college and spending three years studying a new subject, in order to change careers, or taking a pay cut or moving to a different part of the country or world even as a consideration for your health. Now I had one example. Previous girlfriend of mine and she'd split up with her boyfriend who she was had a business with. And she was owed about wobble quite a bit of money. They had a house together, he sold it and kept the money.
But legally, she didn't really have because the way it was done, she didn't have a lot of
the ball wasn't really in her court. You know, the legal side of things meant that he could get away with it. Unless she could come up with some kind of evidence to prove that he'd defrauded her because he'd done the paperwork to make it all in her in his name. Where she spent 10 years of her life taking him to court, occurring 1000s upon 1000s of pounds of legal expenses, to the point where she actually ended up being taken to court by the solicitor that was working for her because she wasn't able to pay all of the expenses and she got ill as well. physically, emotionally, ill. And I kept saying to her, give her up long before she got into even more trouble with it. And she said to me, it's easy for you because it's not your houses. And I understood that by try to explain is it worth it? The stress, the anxiety that she was going through, she couldn't back down. Or she could, but she decided, she chose not to be able to choose to back down. So how she
perceives herself. And now she has backed down. But she's still being taken to court by a solicitor.
I just feel it sometimes taking a loss. In the long run is a win. I lost a good job. I quit that job, I had an insurance I was very good at I was very likely to be promoted, even though I'd been yellow, still performing very well. During that last year, as well as previous to that. By knew that, I was ill, I felt that the job was putting more into that it was seem to be creating more stress. And I also didn't want to be taking lots of time off. Ill I wanted to just have a clean break and move on and got myself a part time job in a shop, you know, low, very low kind of stress levels. That's why I thought anyway, at the time.
And I think leaving that job was good. There's a right decision. But there's a big decision to make. So suppose one saying is, what can you do? What can you do
to make your life a bit easier? less stressful, more relaxing. It can be as simple as meditating, which is what I was going to do during this session, I ended up talking. So please forgive me for that. I will do a meditation in a future recording. And some relaxation sessions as well. is just this just came out. Once I started talking. I'm just talking from my heart, I guess. Because I see you're seeing people. As a counselor. I used to counsel people who would refuse to make changes that they need to make. I couldn't tell them that they needed to make it. I couldn't offer advice and I couldn't. I couldn't tell them they have to do. So is my position was really there to just be there for the person and to listen.
But sometimes it did make suggestions. I would sort of put the question to them. You know, I'm wondering why Why'd you keep doing this to yourself? If you know her to if you know the cause you pain and suffering, why are you doing it to yourself
when you could decide to make a change. Now, I think I'm gonna leave it there for this session for this recording, but it's something that may be worth your time thinking about what changes can you make,
that will increase your quality of life that can reduce your stress levels, anxiety. It could be something like, go into learn meditation could be a practical thing. Joining the gym, going to scone swimming, swimming and yoga to things that physically are very good. Because swimming is your whole body's being used. And there's a focus. So quite a focused activity. And yoga, again, very focused. And, again, you're using your body also get to meet new people as well. I went to yoga once I was in this room full of women. I was the only man but it was a man teaching. And did this one of the stances or call me what it was one of the poses and I hadn't realized bias until it's too late on that offer really loud fault. And I didn't go back I wasn't banned or anything I just didn't just fell a bit you'll be uncomfortable. Because I just thinking it wasn't the biggest room and I was quite a few people there were quite kind of close together. It too close for my liking. And I was thinking a poor person that was close to me when I let out rip. So what changes can you make? It doesn't have to be it it possibly will be a life changing change. It doesn't have to be big change, you know, doesn't have to be Lee changing your job or changing your way you live for buying a new car or getting married or the opposite to that it is it can be wherever it is for you. Whatever you feel you need. And you might not he might not know what you need until you experience it. So it might be trial. trial and error situation. We try things out. Plus, there's no error involved. Try something out. And if it doesn't go the way you want it to go. You can decide you continue or you stop and do something different and something about this because once you get into that frame of mind, where you decided, You decided that you're going to put yourself first, you're going to put your health first thing, things start to change. Because in the same ways, if you're really, really nice to somebody that maybe you've paid no attention to before, and they start to be nicer back to you. People seem nicer. When you're nice to them. People seem to be more interesting. When you're interested in them, and they seem more interested in you.
It's gonna just the way it seems to go. But also works within ourselves. So when you're being kind to yourself, it can be transformational. emotionally, mentally, even physically. Because you're giving yourself something that you need. Just in the same way as you give your stomach food, when you're hungry.
When you're thirsty, you drink. When you need to go to the toilet, you go to the toilet.
When you need to sleep, you go to sleep. This is just another one of those things. Giving yourself What you need is to just take some time to show yourself some love to show you so some kindness. Because let's face it doesn't matter who you meet on the planet is only one person that will have spent their entire
life with you. For a second you were born for your entire life. And that's you.
Which means it's your responsibility to make sure that you're protected your responsibility to keep yourself safe and healthy for you because you deserve to be happy. You deserve to feel safe. It is to feel relaxed. So those are just some ideas for today. As I said,
when I started this, I was going to do a relaxation session. But I like to think that all of my recordings are relaxing. So hopefully this was as well plus a few ideas, chucked in as well. So thank you for listening and I shall speak to you next time bye
Hello, welcome to relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. My name is Jason Newland, please only listen to this when you can safely Close your eyes.