#38 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks (Jason Newland) (27th June 2019)

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Hello, and welcome to Jason newland.com. This is his relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. My name is Jason Newland, please only listen to this when you can safely Close your eyes. Now try to make each of these recordings different. However, there is always going to be an overlap, because I'm kind of talking about the same subject each time, kind of and may repeat some of the stuff that I say. And part of the reason for that is because I forget what I've said in previous recordings. So if I do repeat something, try and pretend that it's I'm repeating it in order to solidify the idea. So that it goes into your unconscious mind and has therapeutic reaction. That sounds a bit better than just me repeating because I've forgotten why previously, he said. And before I go further, there's going to be some people listening to this or listening to me for the very first time. So just to let you know, the reason I do lots of different podcasts got about 35 the things that I focus on mostly, it seems quite often is sleeping, require few sleep, podcasts, relaxation, chronic pain, things like that. Yet, though, I'm probably very passionate, have been helped helping people with chronic pain. The thing that I've probably been affected by the most in my life is the anxiety, stress and panic attacks. So, this is much more of a personal project for me. Because although I do a lot of sleep sessions have generally sleep quite well. There's been periods in my time in my life that I haven't but generally asleep I can sleep during the day, you know, some pretty good asleep in
my life has been transformed by anxiety and panic attacks and stress in the past. So as I said I do I don't know what it feels like to be you. Nobody knows what it feels like to be you. But I do know what it feels like to be me and experience acute anxiety, stress and panic. I thought today I would talk about the physical side of stress because there's a lot of
think today's society in England Anyway, there's a lot more publicity around anxiety, or mental illness, or mental health issues. But now I hear a lot of people, including even famous people, and
therapists, calling it mental health. When they discuss someone that's ill, or they've got mental health, no, they call it mental illness.
You know, someone who is physically sick, you don't say, either or physical health. Now, they got physical sickness staleness, they're ill. And not everybody has mental health issues, we use that term are always some people, for myself, for example, of bipolar, and diagnosed twice, actually. And also emotionally unstable personality disorder with something else added to it, unstable and whatever.
So it's just a bunch of stuff, isn't it? It's a bunch of is labels. And some psychiatrists don't like to diagnose because they've unsure about whether it's a useful thing for the patient to be given that label. But from a patient's perspective, from my own perspective, rather, I'd like to know what's going on. So, if I've got a broken leg, I wouldn't know that I've got broken leg. I don't want to just to be called an injured leg. I want to know exactly what it is. You know, vagueness I don't think is useful. Always. When it comes to medical stuff, personally, for myself, and I never used to understand that our brain, the brain, can cause physical illness. I didn't know that thinking. Stress could cause physical illness. I didn't know that was even possible. I'd read studies years ago, I used to read psychology papers and stuff, but more on how thinking can eradicate illness. But I'd never thought of it the other way around. So thinking can eradicate an illness, by thinking and maybe using it places, for example, in reducing some of those issues involved in the illness. And it's illegal. To say that hypnosis can cure anything. You know, as far as a physical thing, you can say, cure insomnia, I can cure, you know, stop smoking and stuff like that. But someone's got a physical illness. He can't say, not allowed to say that. Hypnosis can cure that illness. But there are many cases of hypnosis helping somebody to the point where they no longer suffer from that illness. And it may be a roundabout way might be a simple case of reducing the person's stress levels, so that the body can heal itself. Or it can be even more focused attention on the healing process itself. imagining that the body is doing certain things, in order to heal your body, imagine playing a game where, you know, in your mind where you're healing and changing the processes within your body. I won't go into details, but it's quite fascinating some of that stuff. Not necessarily relevant to this, but
I didn't realize that at the time, I was 24. And I could stomach, stomach really, really bad stomach pains for but 10 months. September is probably October, October 94, to maybe August 95, something like that. So it's about 10 months. And I had you know, I won't go into like graphic details, but a very, very bad stomach, couldn't eat hardly anything. I was believed in, I was going to see the doctor regularly. And they couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. I had to scans, ultrasound things, you know they do for pregnant ladies, more pregnant people. To see the baby inside, I did that with my kidneys and my internal organs, I had a thing, camera down the throat into the stomach, and then still couldn't find any for ob. And then they can be blood tests. And they started to look for the more serious stuff. And then I went for the results of the test the blood tests, and they tested everything. You know, they tested all of my bodily functions. And I went to the hospital, into the the office and there was two specialists there. I was worried I was thinking, especially as my doctor told me what they were looking for, which was a serious, serious illness, which worried me. And they said to me, we can't find anything wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with you. And I think in their words, it was it must just be stress. Those those words always kind of stick with me, just must just be stress. But stress was nothing. And I couldn't believe I started laughing, which means stress. can stress one a stressed about I haven't worked for you know, the whole time of being ill. I haven't. What have I got to be stressed about? That can stress my meal. And they didn't have an answer for that. And they said we're going to give you some antidepressants. And I said all right. And I took took them and we by two weeks, the pains is stopped. I put on half a stone in white board in two weeks. But over like a month I put on half a stone in weight. All the bleed and it stopped, the pains is stopped everything. Everything kind of went back to normal. Just for these little pills are quite big pills. And I've only taken one a day wasn't they weren't even big. You know, I'll take four tablets a day at the moment. Which is still quiet. Not a lot really now, but he said take more. And that's when I realized that stress can have a huge effect on our physical well being Without even seeming like a stressful situation. Well, I did suffer depression during that time, but I was depressed because of being ill. If I'm honest with you, that was the thing that was upsetting me the most, not being able to sort of go outside the house without needing to get to the toilet, or the embarrassment of going to the doctor's and being examined intimately. And, you know, I hated
feeling ill all the time. Well, a lot of the time wasn't all the time but you felt like I couldn't work out how could I be ill with stress when I wasn't stressed. In my idea stress it would be something like being a policeman or being a firefighter or being married. But you know, just being in a stressful environment. I wasn't married didn't have children. I didn't have really anything to worry about. Yet my body or my mind was creating this stress in my body which caused my body to be ill physically, it wasn't just a feeling it was as I said it was bleeding it was I fought maybe I had an ulcer or something like that which I didn't and didn't make sense to me didn't make sense to the doctors or to specialists either.
So being at home in whenever I want sleeping whenever I wanted to watch television however whenever I wanted having enough money to live on well being was just benefits but it was still wasn't like struggling struggling it was still had enough to get by
Yeah, my body was reacting to my mind and I couldn't figure it out because it didn't just didn't fit together properly. This is my How could I be ill physically physically ill when
I didn't have anything to worry about. didn't have anything to be stressed about. And at that time, there was no help other than just here's the tablets. And go away. That was it. I wasn't offered counseling or anything. It was really a case of just there you go. Bye. Good luck calm. It was a case of come back if they don't work really.
And tip them for yeah to conform was September October two for about two and a half months I think.
And then I stopped taking them because I didn't like the slowness. They made me feel. I felt really lethargic and I put weight on which I was kind of glad about because I was very slimming him days very skinny actually. And by found that my thinking that slowed down a lot,
which I didn't like. So stop taking them and then goes back on again in January 96 So I was offline for about three months, and then I was back on them.
And the reason I'm mentioning this is because firstly, I think it's important that loud bird goes away till I finish this recording. It's important that we useful that we recognize that actually mental ill health is not necessarily doesn't just stay in the brain isn't just about thoughts
doesn't just stay there. Which is evident to anybody that's ever had an anxiety attack or panic attack. Because that's a physical thing, as well as a mental thing.
And it seemed that I really didn't look into this until late 1970s 1997 onwards, I started to kind of look into my own processes my own bouts of depression and stress, anxiety over the years. And realize that even as a small child, I used to get really stressed. But as a small child, I was able to kind of bounce back from it quickly doesn't mean that it wasn't serious, or needed attention, but
was able to sort of keep going. But as I got older, I found it less easy to bounce back. I want to hit my 30s was 32 when I had my first full blown panic attack, that's when I realized that Oh, didn't seem to have the ability to bounce back as quickly as I used to from these things. So it would take something more than that, something more than just willpower, something more than just telling myself to man up. And I should be able to do more, and I should be able to just move on, and ignore it and get on with stuff regardless. Because I found out that you telling ourselves things like that. It's not useful in a lot of situations. It's useful in some situations. You know, if you're being chased by a bear, then the voice inside you saying keep running is a good idea. Or if you're in the army, and you know, there are things you have to do and you have to keep going. But if you're working in an office, or work in a shop, or maybe you're not working and you have these Firefly feelings it's a different situation and telling yourself, just pull your socks up and keep going. Having a go yourself, being cruel and nasty to yourself, verbally inside your own head is the opposite to helpful.
Because it's time to get rid of those old fashioned ideas that, you know, we shouldn't
have these feelings was too late. Once you've got the feeling you've got
doesn't mean it has to continue or growing strength. But it's there and you experienced that telling yourself I should not be jealous. When you're feeling jealous. Well, you just felt jealous. doesn't mean you have to feel jealous in the future. You've caught yourself feeling that way. Maybe it doesn't really fit with how you feel about yourself. But your human being and it's natural to sometimes feel jealous. Or maybe just being kind to yourself, and accepting that that's how you felt and moving on. Without being horrible to yourself. Just always remember, I don't know why I remember this. But if you remember those revel sandwich toaster, things sandwich makers, and you put in the bread put filling in, pull the handle down in it, though, with tasted so good. You'd fill them with cheese and tomato, whatever you want it really. And we got one my family got one when I was a kid. And it was like the craze everyone hadn't. I don't mean like Ronnie and Reggie craze but the craze as in popular. And so we got on and he my dad made three full profits off f three brothers and me. We're all having these toasted sandwiches and my one of my older brothers he had a friend we all had like cheese. But apart from being like, like mini volcanoes because it was so hot. The cheese was really really really runny and stringy. Some a brother, start choking on the cheese. And he was choking and dry and my dad was saying what's wrong? What's wrong? If you saw this sketch, you'd laugh because it's ridiculous, but I suppose in the moment, it was just two people doing what came natural to them at that time. probably couldn't really do anything but just turn a bit blue at the time. He was okay the beach. He did survive. He didn't like nothing bad happened. But he was choking for good, like 30 seconds. And my dad was shouting. What's wrong? What's wrong? I'll found it funny. Not so much. My brother was choking, although I'll be honest, he didn't really care that much about him choking because he used to annoy me, but I just found it funny that my dad was asking what's wrong? When it's obvious What's wrong? That seems to be what we do to ourselves. That kind of inability to understand what's going on, but demanding to know instead of just dealing with what's happening, what's going on. So with an anxiety attack, for example, I don't like the word attack. It sounds sounds very violent. Doesn't panic attack. It sounds a lot aggression is if it's been done to you. Is Yeah, it's not a nice nice word. No nice phrase that a lot better one would be though. So in the myths of an anxiety episode, instead of just dealing with it in the sense of
let's just calm down, focus and just realize that you're going to be okay. Concentrate on the mind, concentrate the mind on the fact that you can be okay. When the mind starts shouting at you, which feels a little bit like what's going on, because that itself would cause me anxiety, someone shouting at me. Even if they were just shouting about something that had nothing to do with me, I find those situations stress inducing, personally for me. So I, you can make decisions. Do you want to be around people that do that? Or do you keep away from people keep a little bit of distance from people that do that? Or do you explain to that person that when they do that, you have a reaction, which is very, very uncomfortable. So is this choices, and this is choices, I think sometimes can be forgotten, or not realized to start with that we do have choices about what we do. And maybe those choices don't seem available in the moment. Maybe in the moment isn't the time to be making lots of choices or to be thinking about any specific thing other than just relaxing. and relaxing is something that can happen just by asking yourself to relax. If you ask yourself now, to relax, to say, Please relax. Or I'd like myself to relax.
I'd like my mind to relax. I want my body to relax and give yourself those. You could say commands. Basic command in a sense of you're telling yourself what you wish to happen next. You're not being bossy. You're just telling yourself what you need. And I think
maybe you can use the word please. Because if you feel being brought up in a community, in a society where they use the word please and that's what you would expect or are affected by when someone else talks to you.
The maybe you'll be affected by that. When you talk to yourself. Once you ask yourself to just relax mind listens to the follows that command just in the way that if you say to yourself, I'm going to feel more of this discomfort.
And you start thinking to yourself, and imagining being anxious or more anxious. And you're given those suggestions. And that command to your mind. And your mind, your unconscious mind doesn't understand the difference between what's good for you and what's not good for you, when it comes to what you ask have, it doesn't differentiate between negatives or positives. So you focus on, you get more off. You focus on relaxation, having a relaxed body and a relaxed mind, you're going to have more of a relaxed body and a relaxed mind. Someone that focuses on expecting to feel anxious every time they get on a bus and imagine and get on the bus and feeling anxious. That basically, when they get on the bus, the chance of them feeling anxious is very high. Because they're planned, not only planned in their, their timeline, plan for that to happen. They're given their command to the unconscious mind. And the unconscious mind doesn't differentiate between that. I know that differentiate wasn't pronounced right then, but doesn't differentiate between that and thinking. When you get on the bus Next, you're going to feel relaxed and calm and confident. Whatever you give, a accepts. So you could say your unconscious mind is like Aladdin's genie in a sense, but without the restrictions of conditions.
The conditions you could say would be choose carefully what you wish for what you ask your unconscious mind for maybe worded in a positive way. For example, if you say john conscious mind, I don't want to feel stressed. your unconscious mind hears the words feel stressed. Instead of want to feel more relaxed, more relaxed. This is something that you can play with. You can plan ahead on your timeline, or talk about your timeline. I'm talking about the future talking about events that haven't happened yet.
So of course you can influence them. If you see someone at a party, and you've never met them before you can influence how that conversation goes. You know if you see a man and you come up to them you've never met before. And you say to him
are don't lie your shirt. Where did you find it? You find it no rubbish tips. Where, and decided to wear it in public, I can guarantee the conversations not going to go very well.
And you can plan ahead of time what you're going to say. So if you plan to say that to that person, you've planned for that conversation to be problematic. Plus, it'd be be crawled to say something like that.
Especially if they have found the shirt on in a rubbish tip. So these things that haven't happened yet, you can plan how it goes. To submit, it's going to go exactly how you want it to go when he involves another human being, because they have free will.
When it comes to how you feel. For example, if you've got somebody that you work with, maybe it's your boss, colleague, that may be you struggle a little bit with maybe the you don't always feel great when you're around them, perhaps
it's not about changing them, because that can only be up to them. Of course, there's things you can do to modify their behavior, there's things you can do to influence their behavior. But this isn't about their massive, different subject. This is about changing how you feel. And you can plan that plan that when you get to work and you sit next to that person, or have a conversation with that person. You can feel relaxed. You can feel confident, and that person doesn't have any power over how you feel. You can even rehearse in your own mind. feeling relaxed in that situation. Before that situation arrives. Something I used to do years ago, I'm talking 20 over 20 years ago, I had this job where I was quite pressurized. And the first part of the evening, I was very, very busy full on for about two hours. And the rest of the evening was quite nice pitch. The first two hours was the hard part of the job. So let's sit on the tube on the train about her about 20 minutes on the train, getting from Stratford to Liverpool Street. Maybe it's 15 minutes Saturday, but I'd sit there and why would do is I would rehearse in my mind. feeling relaxed. First of all, I'd get relaxed, feel relaxed. And I'd skip through the whole of the evening. In Quick Time, really, the whole process of I'd stop at the chip shop and get myself a chip roll whatever size something like that. And yeah, I feel I'd go to Old Street and in a walk that way. And then that's it. walk up to work. And then again, they're not do the bit at the beginning go through those two hours. And by feel relaxed in myself the whole time I was doing it, just visualizing doing it but in fast time and going through the whole evening
until the end when I get back home, in the taxi and then I'd rewind, the whole thing. Rewind all the way back, theater relaxed, all the way back to sitting there in a tube on the train. side, we Hearst, the whole evening. feeling relaxed, feeling positive, feeling confident that the whole evening will be fine. And kind of already lived the evening before it even started.
So it's almost like a car path through the forest. Before I even got to the forest, I'd already made that pathway in my mind, so all I need to I didn't need any kind to do is just walk through it. pathway was already made for me. And it was easy. It was smooth.
And it worked. Because if you think about it, how often when I've done this myself, how often in the past have we planned in the same way. But plan for something unpleasant to happen, expecting something unpleasant to happen, and then it does. And then we say well, I knew that was gonna happen. Or you plan for it. He rehearsed for you asked your unconscious mind for it,
even though he didn't realize. So maybe as you think about the day ahead. Imagine a situation that maybe in the past has been
stressful, or you felt stressed about it, or anxious or anything like that.
It's a situation that you're going to do you know you're so much you can't avoid B choose not to avoid. You can think about that situation that hasn't happened yet.
And imagine it going well. When you imagine it going well. It's not dependent upon the other person acting or behaving in any particular way. A person can still say and do whatever they want to do. But your response changes. got emotional response changes, feels different. When you rehearse that. Notice how you feel different. You realize that that person is responsible for their own behavior and thoughts, not you. You could feel relaxed and calm Because you deserve to feel relaxed and calm. So leave you with those thoughts. And I will be back again very soon. making another recording possibly repeating myself, I don't know it was spoke about today, but I do. I won't remember it next time. But I do hope it's useful. And please let me know maybe, you know if you're listening to this on the podcast, maybe give a review, subscribe and I'll speak to you very soon and remember to be kind to yourself. Bye

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