#37 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks (Jason Newland) (18th June 2019)

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Hello, welcome to Jason newland.com. This is relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. My name is Jason Newland, did I just say that? Please only listen to this when you can safely Close your eyes. So I thought before I start this, today's recording, I just like to thank you for listening. And discipline podcast has grown significantly in the last month or so, which is really good. So thank you. And I'm glad that we're hopefully you're liking the new recordings I'm making. So I've made two new recordings, excuse me, and this is gonna be the third one. So I had 34, done to start with the 3536. And now this is 37. I do believe my mathematics is
Now, what I've been thinking about is doing a podcast for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. And relaxation, of course, obviously, is a very wide spectrum
conditions, issues, situations. So it kind of does need a lot of episodes, I guess, in a sense of the various situations that you might be in, where anxiety may have been an issue. But it's not just that it's and I spoke about this earlier. I think we've all perhaps been in a situation where there's been an incident, maybe at work. Maybe within the family, it's someone you know that perhaps you've had a verbal, maybe disagreement, but you'd leave it at that it could be anything. It could be someone's just said something that's been annoying to you. And the thought of seeing them again, maybe, or may have been a kind of trigger for anxiety and panic or for stress to, you know, increase. So what I've thought, and I've had these situations myself, where I've just not wanted to go into work, because of a certain person who I just didn't get on with. And so long time ago, but it was definitely Yeah, it's difficult. And I've managed to work around it in my own way. But it's, you know, there's lots of different avenues to get to that point where you're feeling relaxed about the situation or maybe get to the point where you just don't care about that person. You don't care whether the person's going to be there and you decided you're not going to care enough to let
yourself be affected by them. Because I'm choosing my words here because the fact is, the way we talk about things sometimes is not useful. I'll give you an example. You make me feel this way. She made me feel this. He made me feel this.
Those are three sentences that actually don't make sense. And they're not real. And you may have been raised to talk like that, or no, I was. I'm in a society where that's how people talk. Because they haven't looked into it haven't kind of perhaps realized what they're saying. And the power of words, the power. So with hypnosis, you think about it, if you break it down to its very bare bones is being influenced by words being influenced by sentences. But the biggest statement is in your life as you the biggest hypnotist you'll ever have issue your mind. The things that you say to yourself, influences how you feel about things. So if you say to yourself, that person, I feel this way, every time that person's there, because that person makes me feel angry, or that person upsets me. Then the good chances are, you'll be prepared to feel that way. You ever ever been in a room with someone and they may be upset you in the past, say I'm using language myself and I, they upset you, you've been upset by someone, someone's actions someone's words. And then maybe a few months later, you're in the same room with them. And they're not doing anything. But you get annoyed with them. Just by the way they're eating their sandwich, or in their yoga or sitting in a chair. They're not actually doing anything they might have completely, you know, forgotten about you might not have you know, there might have been a one off communication months ago, and they don't even remember you. But you remember them and you're feeling wound up by them. But they're doing nothing. You're doing all the work. Basically winding yourself up. Don't say this in a blame situation, you must blame yourself. Because I don't believe in all that stupid stuff. I believe in being horrible to ourselves, you know, punishing ourselves that really I don't feel is useful. I prefer you know, being kind to yourself. That seems just a bit nicer bit kinder, obviously, it's a bit softer.
So if we were able to move that thinking just a little bit and correct ourselves but without it's a fine line correction. And you know, that that kind of feeling of likes is only correct you say you correct your spelling, or their correct your pronunciation. It's annoying. I find it annoying. Personally, myself.
So if I do it to myself, I'm going to find it annoying. So I need to do it in a way that's gentle. says more of a question in yourself rather than corrected. For example, He made me feel so
when he said that Okay, so good question in your mind. Did he make you How did he make you feel that way? How did he make you How can anyone make you do anything or feel anything?
Because physically if someone you know hit you with a whip, it's gonna hurt and that other person is responsible for that. You know, or say, Well, I I'm responsible for the pain feeling stuck in my heading because that would be silly. But this is different. This is something that you do have Saying, technically, you could say you have a say in the pain side of things as well, that's a different subject. But when someone's rude to you, first of all, they might not mean to be rude to this chart, so just a bit. Maybe you're having a bad day, or just you know that that's just the way they are. And they don't didn't mean anything by it. And they're used to being around people that maybe act the same way as them. That's a possibility. The other side is, if someone's being nasty, then good, chances are the reason they're being nasty, horrible, angry, vicious, whatever, is because they're suffering. They're unhappy, incredibly unhappy. Whether they're aware of it, or the aware of the cause of aware that actually, that's the reason they are acting out. And aiming at other people. is another thing and you don't need to know that. This is about you, not about other people. It's about your mind and your thoughts. You can't control other people ever.
cognito whenever person thinks. And that's a hard one. You could say well over bet hypnosis. Isn't that all about control?
No, not really. It's about offering, you know I can offer you or the idea that buffet, I can put a buffet out
lots of different bits to choose from, you can choose what you want. See if it fits right on the size, you know, same as if you go into a clothes shop. You can be in there all day and trying different clothes, we probably can't imagine that the staff would get a bit bit peeved off if you were there all day. But, you know, you can try Stein off stuff on if you like it, you can buy it, or choose not to buy it, it's up to you. It's about testing things. And that's what I do is about testing, offer suggestions. And some of those suggestions will just go in because your mind is open to them. Because you are perhaps used to listen to me, you trust me. And you know that I'm coming from a good place when it comes to this stuff.
Because I haven't been where you are. And as one of my little things I tried to
try to keep in my mind that I don't know how anyone else feels. I don't know. I had years of anxiety, panic, stress doesn't mean that I know how someone else feels. That's got anxiety, panic and stress. We're different. We experience things differently. For example, there's the I like boxing. It's one of my kind of favorite things to to watch. And Anthony Joshua, two weeks ago or three weeks ago, defended his world heavyweight title and he lost. And he looked really dazed at the beginning of the fight just before the fight even started, he looked glazed over his eyes. And it's turned out that he had a panic attack in his dressing room before the fight. And he's in America for the first time. This isn't an eye if you're not into bought boxing, that my bad ex is not about boxing. It's it's about he was an IED I guess he was anxious being America for the first time. And wherever pressures came with that, but having a panic attack and then going into the ring and you know, putting yourself in danger like he does every time I would have been, I would have begged him not to go into the ring. If I'd been there and seen that, having known I couldn't function during a panic attack, and always unable to function afterwards for a while, you know, it's never, I never fully recovered for a while, it took me a while to just get back down. And also, I had panic attacks that lasted for absolutely ages in the past. So how you know how on earth he got into the ring, and as I said he was badly hurt, because he wasn't, didn't have his game, he didn't have the reflexes or he wasn't there mentally. And after I heard that, I kind of broke my heart because I fought. You know, I struggled to even travel on a train, just to function, waiting for a train. And to get home from Northridge to Ipswich, which is only like a short way. It's about 40 minutes or something on a train. I struggled with that journey. And just standing on train station, waiting for the train, you know, that whole that a how someone could cope with something big do they have to do? And we're all different. Maybe some people could. But that goes against the being kind to yourself part. And some would say, well, he'd lost millions of dollars. Yeah, he would have done.
But he could lost much more than that. He definitely lost a few brain cells that day, that night,
due to the punches he took, but that's another situation, it's another has another topic.
Another I've gone off a little bit by do that. Because all comes together. Because all the same subject was trying to fit in the panic attacks, the anxiety, the stress, to all feels to think differently about we experience it differently. And you've only got to go into a Facebook, forum or page on any subject and you see all the arguments that people have about it by anything, doesn't matter whether it's any medical condition and in the place are full of people
arguing, say, No, this is what it's like, this is what it's like. When actually is all of those things, that is what it is for you.
So it's quite a big, big, wide subject. It's like a big cave with 1000s of different kind of tunnels are suppose. And there's different ways of approaching it. There's the prevention. There's the dealing with it, when it happens. There's the dealing with it after it's happened. There's the preparation for dealing with it. And that doesn't really go with prevention. As such as prevention, you could say, meditating regularly, listening to these regularly, to the point where you start to actually believe in yourself, and you start to tell yourself that you're going to be okay. Because you know, if you hear enough, you start to believe it. And it doesn't matter who's saying it. It means more when you say it. But ultimately, if you were in a place where you're constantly being told that you're really good at that. You're really good. You're really creative. You're really UX She could be, you know, if you keep getting told that you're going to believe it. And you know, the argument could be, yeah, but she keeps telling someone that they can fly without any kind of, you know, playing, they can just fly themselves in the sky. They can't No matter how much thinking and how much you tell someone that. Yeah, but why would you tell someone that if you tell someone that they can sing, even if they can't sing very well. And they get told, day in day out for years that they can sing, they're going to believe it. And you see that on some of the talent shows the X Factor, America's Got Talent, you know, different things like that.
I do that pop idol. So Bs, see the power of the mind the power of being told, power suggestion. And will those sometimes the people believe they can sing really well. And maybe they can't
barely sing better now than they would do if they were told that they couldn't sing. And a bit past before the audition, they were quite happier, a lot happier than perhaps they would have been, if they've been told that they were useless, and they're rubbish and stuff. So probably a more ideal situation would find something that they are good at, and encourage them with that
maybe, than to just tell them they're good at something that they're not. However it works. Telling someone that they can do something, regardless of whether they can do or not. They believe that they can do it eventually, because they start telling themselves.
Some people might think, Well, that makes sense. Because if you do, what's your talent show and you see somebody who
perhaps, to be fair, much had a bad day, you know, they might have told someone, if you have cheese before an audition, your voice won't work properly, you know, it kind of clogs up your vocal cords. So maybe they had a big, you know, big lump of cheese before going on. I did an audition at the X Factor in 2005. And I had a cheese sandwich. So that's my excuse for not getting through. But then I never have any anyone told me that I could sing. I just know I can sing. But maybe not was what they wanted at the time. I think I was doing a Michael Jackson song. And he was I think he was going on trial or something. So that probably wasn't a good sort of timing for that.
So belief is basically what we're talking about. Belief is so strong, so powerful. The most powerful thing. And I'm no expert on religion, but I'm quite knowledgeable about Buddhism and fairly with Christianity due to being born in a Christian country. When I was a Christian country when I was a kid. We had to read the Bible and sing carols and all that stuff.
So I know I know about then we did religious studies, do you I do have faith. I come from it more from a psychological perspective than a religious perspective. But however you look at it Faith is the most powerful thing, belief, faith belief, it's the same thing, just another word. Faith is kind of more the religious version of the word, that still means the same thing. belief, true belief in something.
If you truly believe that, from now on, you will feel more relaxed all the time you start to believe I really believe that you can deal with any situation in a calm, calm relax way, and your mind will stay calm. And there's a level that it won't go past. When it comes to stress, there's a level that it won't go above.
And you can make that your mind you can make. Say it's a zero to 10 scale 10 being the worst. So you might say you're not allowing it to go above four on that scale.
And once it gets to four, then on like a, like a cattle, you know, the pressure goes out of it. It switches off. No, same as maybe if you've got our day house cooking something in the oven, fine, it's the best place to cook. And
the fridge just doesn't seem to do the job. And the alarm went off, the smoke alarm went off.
So I opened the window. That was a very boring story. But there's a point to it is that's what you do, isn't it?
Turn the alarm off more for the neighbors. Because it was quite late at night. Close the kitchen door to stop any smoke from getting out and open the kitchen window.
And I dealt with the other night got very burnt sausages out or wherever they were some automatic behavior that doesn't even need thinking about I know window, closed this kitchen door, turn the alarm off
whichever order you want to do, but the so you think about it. stress level which is for the alarm goes off. So you open the window or in your mind you opens you open the vent, you let the pressure
out. You let the stress out. So actually the stress level goes down, maybe two, three or two to turn the alarm off. Then the alarm might only go off. Once it starts to reduce. They'll turn off and you'll be able to just make sure you keep the door closed. Which means that that stress level can't rise any more.
And I think sometimes it can be that alarm that we have kind of inbuilt because sometimes feel like a trigger to a panic attack rather than a warning that there might be a panic attack if we perhaps you know, don't address the stress levels. So it's differentiating from that. Realize that maybe feeling a bit weird inside feeling a bit stressed. Anxious is just a sign Just a warning there. Metaphorically, you need to open a window. It's just the alone is the alarm but don't be alarmed. Because it's something that you have control over, because you can turn the alarm off.
So this is something that can be useful to remember because I've mentioned this before. But something that happened that really made me think about anxiety attacks in a different way is I had a buzzing in my groin was just sitting down at a desk in the office and a chopper worked and it was a vibration. And I went straight into what I felt was panic attack is probably the lamp to be fair, the alarm going off in you know, but I felt myself straightaway going into like anxiety mode. And I realized it was just one mobile phone on vibrate instantly whilst i'd laughing so it's hard to laugh and be anxious at the same time possible, I suppose. This was we had quite a guy found it funny. And laughter generally would lead to a more relaxed body, more relaxed mind. Because you know, increase endorphins increases a sense of pleasure, comfort, calmness, and relaxation. That's another thing it's useful to do is, it's part of the being kind to yourself. You know, get in, I'd be watching some comedy, which is a comedy film, comedy show, TV show, stand up comedy, either, you know, on Netflix, or maybe a comedy club, even if that's sort of, if you've got one close by and you you up to that.
Treat yourself to a bit of laughter You know, natural laughter that makes you feel good when you laugh. I know I do.
It's sort of like your whole body. kind of have a sense of pleasure, I suppose. calmness. So belief is the most powerful thing in the world. When it comes to human beings, when it comes to how we think and how we feel, how we act, how we behave.
When it comes to happiness, that comes to stress, anxiety, panic, relaxation, chronic pain. When it comes to relationships, you know, at the end, the list is I would say the list is endless, but it probably isn't. It's just a very long list. And nothing's endless if you got enough time. So by talking to yourself, or telling yourself wherever it is, I'm going to feel more relaxed. I'm going to feel more relaxed okay. I feel karma I can deal with the day ahead. Because if you think about it, we've all got so many examples of when things went well. And, unfortunately, the way that sometimes our brains operate. And I think it's more to do with conditioning with depends where you're born and kind of what society you live in. But I live in England, and it's very negative can be a very negative society, focusing on the negatives rather than the positives. So but there are other places that more and more up a bit more upbeat, a bit more, looking on the brighter side of things. But then that can be an individual thing as well also. So it can be a challenge to change that conditioning. To think that things are going to be okay. And to remember times when things are okay. Because you think about a if you've like song that sleeps, someone might be true, having trouble with insomnia, they might have stayed in their 30s. And they might have had three years of it. Not every night, but maybe twice a week for three years,
which is a drain to be pretty horrible to go through that. So that person they may struggle to even remember a time when they slept
well. Even if it was yesterday, because they're focusing on the time that they didn't.
Even if they're struggling to sleep every night. They seem to have forgotten that for 30 years, they slept fine.
They got 30 years worth of examples of being able to sleep well. Just like you and I have gone depends how old you are. But you know, let's say years and years and years of examples of feeling relaxed.
in various situations. If you move away from the times when you haven't,
if you move away from the times when you felt stressed or anxious, you just forget those for a bit. And then focus on all the times when you felt really good. Really comfortable. Maybe really confident able to deal with groups of people able to deal with situations that may be a bit pressurized at times. If that's the only the only examples you've got, then that's what you're going to expect. You know, I'm not saying that that's always the case. And just because it's never happened before doesn't mean it's never gonna happen. Because obviously, it was the first time for everything.
So I'm not dismissing it. But for some reason and same happened with me when I had the first major panic attack that's when I last that's all I focused on. That was the focus of my attention for pretty much all the time until the next One
into the next one I was it took up my focus of attention. I do focus on feeling relaxed. didn't focus on all the 3030 odd years of being Comedy psybeam being relaxed about stress issues over the years, but there's lots of 1000s of examples where I feel I felt completely relaxed and calm 1000s of examples. Yet the brain is kind of programmed. Maybe it's just, maybe it's inbuilt. Possibly it could be inbuilt. But it can be changed. I'd say it's programmed
to focus on this stuff that's not useful. And, you know, ultimately, we're more likely to get what we think about. So what can you say to yourself? That can be useful? With the day ahead, what sentence can you say to yourself? Regardless of whether you believe it or not, can you say to yourself, I'll give you a few ideas or something you could say, ultimately, it's up to you.
She could say, I'm feeling relaxed, body's feeling relaxed, my mind is calm. could say I believe in myself, I am a worthwhile person. I deserve to be happy. I mean, those are very lovely things to say. But you may want to, you could mix it up, he could do a few different ones.
But when we focus in on relaxation, focus in on how to keep those stress levels. Under that for that level of number four, and below, or whatever is a level of comfortable for you. And the more you do something, the easier is to do. And you know, bigness muscle memory.
We have muscle memory in our in our bodies. We have muscle memory in our brains as well. In our thought processes we have, you know, patterns. We have patterns of behavior, we have bought patterns. And you can create your own behavior. You can create your own thought patterns as well. Based on repetition, purely as simple as that repetition. Keep saying to yourself, that which you want to believe and eventually you will believe it. But at the same time, make sure it's something lovely Make sure it's something healthy. Because there are a lot of people out there that have been telling themselves, that they're not good, they're no good. I mean, tell themselves that they're ugly. They're not worth anything that they're don't deserve to be loved and all that stuff, those kind of really horrible things. They've been saying to themselves for years and years and years, and they believe it.
Or maybe it's because someone else said, it's an anomaly to say to themselves. While I'm telling you that you are worthwhile, the wild and amazing person, I'm telling you that you can relax.
I'm telling you that you do deserve to be happy. I'm telling you, that you should be kind to yourself.
So now you can start telling yourself that keep saying keep reminding yourself. Because it brightens your mind. Actually, like visually brightens your mind. It's like a mini as a cliche, but like a ray of sunshine, literally. Like, again, this sunshine in your brain,
stimulating your mind in a positive and happy, uplifting way. Where you actually feel good about yourself. which just shows that you don't have to let anybody else or anybody else's words or actions affect how you feel about yourself. Because it's what you say to yourself, that counts. The things that you say to yourself continuously, that affect your life. And this isn't just a light hearted discussion about something that might just have a bit of an effect. These are things that really, really affect your life. See serious stuff. You deserve to get rid of that stuff. Any of those like harmful thoughts that you've had in the past? things you've said to yourself? And I'll come back to something I've said loads of times when it comes to self dialog, talking to ourselves, is would you say that to a small child, would you go up to someone that you really care about? Your child, your grandchild, your niece, nephew, your brother, sister, whoever, or you know, a complete stranger in the street? Would you go to a child and say, whatever it is, you're saying to yourself? that horrible thing the saying? I reckon the answer's no to that. Any answer why? Why wouldn't you is because you won't want to upset them. Because it's horrible. It's a horrible thing to say to a kid.
But you're just as important as that child. In fact, you know, logically, it's worth saying it's yourself because however horrible it would be to say that to your niece or nephew.
Equally on only going to say once to them. When you say it yourself, you'll be saying it over and over again. Maybe for years, you may be hearing it for years, saying it to yourself and believe in it. So maybe it's time to just apologize to yourself about that.
And stop Don't worry, I'm not telling you off the same topic.
It's time to be kind to yourself. really is. No, I'm kidding. Seriously. Choose, you can just choose one thing, one thing you want to say
to yourself, thank you can be something I've thought up the set already, or could be either thing, it doesn't matter because it's going to be in your voice.
Just keep saying it to yourself. When you can test ones out to find how you feel, when you say these things to yourself. You could even go as far as writing out a list of things that you would love somebody else to say to you. Make sure that all positive or uplifting, and all useful. Something that you would like to believe about yourself, that will transform your life. for the better. It could be a list of 20 could be 120, could be five, it doesn't matter. Maybe every morning, when you wake up, you read them out loud to yourself. So you make it rain as I am, I will I can. And you repeat it to yourself all of the list before you get up in the morning. And before we get to sleep at night. That's if you want to, again, these are just suggestions. You can gain lots bust just by listening or doing nothing else. But listening because it will still have a positive effect.
How could it not I could put together a recording for an hour of just telling you that you're beautiful and you're lovely.
And you're kind and you deserve to be happy. And I could just list off, you know, 500 different sentences, and just do an hour of that view to listen to, if you listen to them every day for you know, six months a year, your life will change.
I can't be bothered to do it. But I'm saying maybe I should be hearing positive kind words from a stranger. Like me, I suppose. I won't feel like a stranger if you've listened to me regularly. But to hear those words from me or from anyone else. And ultimately, from yourself, telling yourself these things, transforms your mind changes. It physically changes the chemistry in your brain. This isn't just like a thought thing isn't just, you know, some existential thing. This is a physical change in your brain. Your brain changes its shape, you know, new neurological networks are created activates parts of your brain that maybe weren't being activated before. And let's face it, if you've been having problems with anxiety and stuff like that, then the relaxation part of your brain hasn't been as active as it has needed to be. So now it will be it will be activated it will be growing stronger. Every day you'll get stronger. So I'm going to go I want to thank you for listening.
I'm not going to count From throwing a three to one or 123 or anything like that, I'm just gonna, if you are kind of a bit tranced out with me just talking or if you fall asleep who boredom, you know, you can open your eyes whenever you want. You may not have closed your eyes,
but just do whatever you need to do. Please just make sure that you've absorbed what you've needed to absorb. Let me know how you get on and I'll speak to you next time bye

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