Hello, welcome to Jason newland.com. My name is Jason Newland, this is relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. Please only listen, when you can safely Close your eyes
just to let you know that this podcast is available, available available on my website, or listened to without the adverts at the beginning and as a continuous play, just go to the website in the menu and you'll see it so you can just press play for the first recording. And it will play you all the recordings. Now that doesn't bore you. I have another podcast, which is specifically for boring called let me boil to sleep. So there's there's a lot of different things, lots of things you can choose from. So I fought yesterday I did a session like a relaxation session with and without music. And I haven't done one of my little radio chat. I don't want to call them random chats. waffling on for a little while. So I'll do one today. A little bit of bird, bird song in the background you might hear the old pigeons. But I quite like it's not always ideal. If I'm making a sleep session, some people who complained someone kill that bloody pigeon, which is a bit annoying.
It's called Fred. So this is going to be a I suppose this recording to see how you get in on?
How are you might seem a bit of a weird question. might seem a bit weird to listen to a podcast where the person is actually directing the question at you.
But yeah, how you get in on? How are you doing? Because you might be in a position. when no one's asked you that today. You may be in a position where no one's asked you there for a while.
And at the date of this recording practically the whole world is in kind of solitary confinement. You know, so I think it's quite a valid question. How are you doing? How are you getting on? How are you coping with the way things are? At the moment?
I realize you can't actually answer me on the record in so can't have lots of people say well actually, it's a bit of shit. Because it's a bit crappy for a lot of people. But there are benefits in other ways. So some people are getting paid. They're getting to go home getting paid 80% of their wages, or more properties of this fire furlough, some weird name and he's spending that time learning a new thing, like studying.
Not everyone has that opportunity. And my my sympathies go out to people or to everyone really but people are self employed. You know from a practical perspective Cuz you know, you don't get sick pay, if you're self employed, don't get holiday pay. You don't you know, you just earn what you earn, you got to live on it. But I'm not here to talk about what I'm just wondering how you getting on emotionally how you dealing with the whole possible overload of negativity that's been squirted at all of us through the television, and through the internet, through social media, through the newspapers, the radio, maybe through people you speak to, on the phone, lots of negativity. And I personally have times where I struggled to find positivity during Positive times. So it does sometimes feel that I've got to try and surf the wave that's occurring. And I tried to do that. So things are going well, generally. society's feeling quite good. For example, let's say last year was the last year, the World Cup or maybe was the year before either No, but the World Cup, England we're doing really well. didn't win it. But we were doing really well at one point. And the the atmosphere just seemed quite nice. Positivity on the news positivity. In the papers positivity around people just I don't know, it seemed to have quite a positive effect upon society, even to those that aren't into football.
Which is me, not really into football. But I like to ride the wave if I can.
And use that positive energy to do my own things into some gain touch of feeling quite good. So when this this big, dirty, poo flavored wave, it's been like flooding through. And lately, I'm trying not to ride that wave. effect fact, if anything, the main thing I'm trying to do is to get underneath the wave. Because if it's wavy, big waves, you get underneath the wave, you dive underneath the water, you're less affected by the current of the waves and stuff. Or if you get out of the water. So that's what I've been. So I've been trying to do lately, made a few changes. And I thought I'd just share that with you just to let you know that he can, well, I can and maybe you can also gain some positives not out of like consuming a little bit. I don't know almost rude to sort of the idea of going in a positive our such a worldwide in a pandemic situation. But from a personal level. Maybe there's things you can do that you've put off. I don't mean housework, or something that you put off because you don't want to do it. Because it's the horrible you know, like lane who might be laying carpet or digging the garden, you might have put it off because you just don't want to do because it doesn't appeal to you.
Then maybe do something that you've been putting off because perhaps you didn't think you'd have enough time. Maybe didn't think you'd have enough focus, or it didn't seem like the right time to do it. And that could be anything but writing a book or writing a poem, sing a song, learn a new instrument. Or maybe learning the instrument that you already own. I've got ukulele that's still in this box over year, after boy still up there on the shelf staring down at me. daring me to play it. One day I might buy a book is a book, The lights read a book on your shelf that you thought about reading, but you haven't kind of got around to it. On your Kindle, maybe, perhaps is an online course on Udemy Udemy was called or something like that as loads of online stuff that you can do. learning something new. Doing some exercise might go into the category of things that you really don't want to do, because it's crap. But for me, I've got a punch bag in my living room. So I've been doing more exercise, although I didn't when been on it yesterday. But I'm literally touching it now. That's as hard as I can punch, my hardest punch.
And there's something quite nice about it might sound weird, but for me, it feels quite nice that
my normal lifestyle of a solitary lifestyle is now no longer weird. It's now no longer a life. It's not a it's not that my brain hasn't forced this upon me. My illness, my bipolar anxiety, personality disorder, whatever, has not forced me to stay indoors. Most of the time. The government has. I have to stay indoors. It's the law. I'm allowed to go out once a day, maybe I'm allowed to go to the shop if I need to once get exercise, maybe once a day. But the things that I never did before, like socializing are not allowed to do. Which I feel less of a freak. Anonymous saying that I think that other people that don't socialize or that are like me are freaks, I'll just sometimes feel like I'm a freak. That's a very different distinction. I think that's fair enough to say I think we it's understandable. I sometimes feel like there's something wrong with me that I should be all excited about seeing other people and I should be interested in other people's lives. And I'm not some of that could have nothing to do at all. with mental illness or mental ill health. It could just be a personality thing. Who knows? I mean to the mental health system actually realizes that everybody that is prescribed medication for a mental health issue needs to have their brain examined literally has, you know need to be gotten into have a brain scan. So they can see neurologists specialists can see what's going on inside the brain. Then there's more chance of us actually getting some help, the proper help that we need. Because it might be a damage, parlor brains damaged. Due to your nose, a bang on the head when was kids it could be many different things. Or maybe I just don't like being around people very much. Nothing Due to bipolar, nothing to do with the anxiety. Possibly. I like the idea that maybe not everything is quiet is black and white. And when you start looking at things a little bit differently, it breaks up a bit starts to crumble a little bit. And that that limited thinking starts to fall apart. So that thinking of condemning ourselves and putting ourselves down and 10 Lascelles old on this on that I should be something else. I should be like him or like her are not good enough. That starts to change a little bit. Because actually, the other person is not a perfect specimen of a human. They're not the weird thing is not weird. But someone said to me, actually years ago, a comedian he said this was quite a he wasn't famous, but he was very, you know, headliner. And I forget about a bit Alan Davis is famous now. But at the time it wasn't. And he said, probably at least 20% of the audience won't like him.
Because he wasn't famous, they didn't know who he was. And it just got to a comedy club, have you ordered a ballroom itself? And he said 20% 10% probably thinks he just don't like him at all really dislike him. But because the majority are clapping and laughing, the other little percentage don't even get noticed.
So if you've got a crowd of 1000 people, how many of those people do you think have anxiety issues? How many of those people have depression or have got, you know, going through bereavement, or I've got bipolar or schizophrenia or ADHD or you know, Bilimoria, you just go through a list a list of different illnesses is this huge list. So out of that, 1000 people, there's gonna be a lot of people there, that if you knew what was actually going on, in their own mind, and in their life, you could separate people. And you could say, wow, there's really that many. And then you could look at the people that have not met. The people that have not ever gone to a doctor, never been prescribed medication have gone through that process. And if you could actually give them a truth serum to be honest about how they feel, then you start be able to divide that group up between the ones that are lying, and the ones that perhaps, you know, genuinely don't have any problems. Which is that's a pretty much no one. We've all got our problems. So even those ones that don't admit to have an anxiety, there's going to be some that do. But they might not know that it's anxiety. I had stress for years without knowing it was stress. or anxiety didn't notice anxiety. I had mood swings or how how could you have mood swings and not know that you're having mood swings? I didn't know I didn't know what it was. All I knew is sometimes I'd love your sometimes with hate year. And that could change could change daily. It could change in and then Then, and they could turn back again. Sometimes I felt wonderful about the world. I could dance a funeral. I've been really happy not because of the funeral because this is how I was feeling by a wedding. I could feel the lowest minako Phil
I knew they weren't right. But I didn't know what to do about it. I wasn't psychiatrist, a psychologist, no medical training, no psychology training at that point. I have no not medical training by have trained in mental health. And I wonder how many other people out there in the world have got no clue. The what they're going through is actually an illness.
Yet they might be mocking other people putting down other people criticizing other people for being ill oriented the other day. Two days ago, I was listened to the interview. And Boris Johnson, the Prime Minister has been in intensive care
with the Coronavirus a one of his close friends was on a radio
saying tell talking about him. And saying Boris is really annoyed being in hospital because he sees illness as weakness. Well as a great quality for Prime Minister isn't it? To see old people as being weak. I was so angry. Honestly, I nearly I nearly threw my bowl of cornflakes against the wall. Then I remember damn greedy, so I had to eat them. illness as weakness. So if he sees that in himself, he may well see it and other people. He might not. But he's a conservative Prime Minister. They're not bi, I'm not gonna get political, but they're not. They're not famous for being inclined towards disabled people. For example, of which I am one of which you might be one. Because disability isn't just physical.
And, like so many of my recordings, I could go off on tangents. But I try not to I try not to really question read the really question, the real question was, how you get an on I want to keep it lie hide? How are you doing? These are difficult times for lots of people. There's a lot of people that are
on their own. And that don't want to be on your own. I'm not one of those people. It doesn't mean that I don't care about people that, you know,
that want to be around other people. I mean, for me, one of the best parts of this is opening the front door and not allowing anyone in because I'm not allowed to instead of pretending not to be here
letting people in and just waiting for them to leave. So for me, there's benefits, there might be benefits for you. It might be a completely different thing. When I say benefits, I'm not talking about benefits of an illness, that spreading that people are getting ill we'll talk about the benefits of people suffering. I'm not on talking about his personal benefits that you might be able to tap into whether it's a chance to watch a box set on Amazon or Netflix, or it gives you opportunity to watch all the Harry Potter films again. Whatever that thing might be, maybe you decide you're gonna listen to every single episode of my little boy to sleep. And so 400 hours, so you might think I listened to all 400 hours worth. Now you have to be really bored to do to even start that one. But what can you do to actually make the most of the time? The most important thing is you keep safe. Ball so positivity strengthens our immune system. Positive thinking, I'm not talking like fake positive thinking. We're talking about real positive thinking. You know, this not sort of always raining. Or is it the I think a standard one would be? So moans is raining? Yeah, but the ducks are happy. Like, yeah, but I'm not. I don't want it to rain. It so I think sometimes positivity can be just being in Congress with the person that you're talking to. So someone's feeling an example my dad bless him. One of these lovely little sciences. That's not a problem. We like to say after I just told him something that's a problem. You know, oh, I've got have was it. Older hours of being cut down on my counseling work was one of the things. So I'm not sure what's going to happen. Now. I might end up with problems paying rent, as an offer problem really clearly is just told you is a problem. Not a problem is there's a positivity to have that idea of it's not a problem. We can find a solution we can get through this, let's move forward. But sometimes I think it needs to be in your own head. Rather than to tell other people that actually what they're worried about isn't something for them to worry about. Because it's not really down to us to tell someone else that is it's not our place to tell someone else what they can or cannot be concerned about in life. What's next? It's healthy what they're allowed to eat. What they should think.
So you know, it's not really I have issues or my papa so how are you doing? It might seem like I'm just asking the same question over and over again.
And I am because it gives me a chance to think about what I'm going to say next. So you could think this is a recording you slack a catch up slack Hello, a doing a get in on how you been? Did you enjoy the relaxation session did yesterday was quite good, actually. But it's not just that it's about the seclusion. One thing that I've noticed, and I didn't expect this is even though I prefer 95% of the time to be on my own. Once I was told I had to be on my own. I didn't like it. piss me off. Genuinely demeanor, I can't. I wanted to start knocking on stranger's doors and talking to them wanted to talk to neighbors. Even though I don't want to do that. Normally. It annoyed me being told what I can and can't do. And I think that might be it goes against In the Western world, I think I'm not saying it goes against who doesn't go against any other countries. But I don't know enough about other countries, by notice some countries in the world discipline, authoritarianism and is ingrained in the general public. But here, it's not. We are in England, I would suppose supposed to do what we're told by the law. But it's an option. Not allowed to shoplift, but you can shoplift, but you get arrested, and you could go to prison. Or you get, you know, prison record. But you're not allowed to, but you can, you know, it's a choice. There's no physical barrier. There's no ingrained I suppose, unless it's a religious way, you know, should not steal. And that was something that was youth wasn't there to try and get people to behave in the past doesn't seem to work these days.
So the idea main told he got to stay in. I'm looking around where I live. Not everyone's doing it. So one person, and I was walking on rails, go into the garage, get some food on my own, no one around me. And this person I said, then who stand really close to another friend of mine said, you need to keep your distance me. So we think I've got it, I've got a big few, I've got a set, you don't know, if you've got it. That's the point. It's not something you don't you don't sort of suddenly grow a third nipple, you know, is a sign you don't start farting out of your mouth. You know, it's, it's, there's no obvious thing. I know I've got it because I've got to get a big head grown out of money. But no, as doesn't know. There's no way of knowing until the symptoms come. Again, I'll get into all that sort of things. But I realized that there's a lot of people like that person, that go from house to house to house without any kind of logic in their brain, or intelligence, potentially, just for that thing, that might be the most intelligent person in the world, but just for that particular thing. And inside, you got a lot of people that don't live by, I feel the laws above them, or below the brother, I feel that they're above the law, the law doesn't apply to them in normal times. So we're going to follow the rules now. It's so weird one. It's a strange one. One of the benefits we've got is we've got the technology to communicate with other people. The Internet telephones, with all that telephones for a long time ever, maybe the internet. So you don't have to be on your own. When sometimes I go on Facebook, and I read other people's posts, and it just makes me feel glad that I haven't got anyone in my flat talking to me. Now I rarely see a post on Facebook. Well think I'd like to hear more about that. Yeah, sometimes to do that. Occasionally. A lot of moaning on social media, sometimes, not none of my friends on Facebook because they're all lovely for any of those that are listening, other people's Facebook pages and Twitter. So, this relies on just, I'm not slagging anyone off, I'm just saying I think they're all wonderful. I was walking home from the garage earlier just got a bit of food for next few days. And I was walking back to my flat, and I just felt so grateful that I was living with anyone. The idea of being cooped up with another person. For weeks and weeks and weeks, I just feel grateful that I'm not. And although you know, being in a relationship, or marriage, or wherever, is supposedly, what we should all be doing, according to societal rules, or whatever. Or at least when I grew up, that was what the rules were. There's something quite nice about being single. During this time. I suppose that one of the benefits of being with someone would be to be able to focus on them, rather than focusing on myself. So maybe, it might raise some compassion, with empathy, possibly.
But it'd be quite nice. Not to have that. Not compassion or empathy. But to have someone there all the time. Because they even the best days. For someone I really like, I've got about an hour, an hour good hour and me to converse with them. And then sort of like for me, it just fades out. Like, you can go now. But you can't tell someone Oh, Kenny, you can't just say, yeah, I'm bored now Can you can you leave. I don't want to talk anymore. So that's the thing about being honest, you can't always be honest, coming. Which is, is good. And it's bad. I mean, it's, it's good, because I don't want to be rude to anyone.
But sometimes it'd be nice to be to be able to just say,
your hours up. That's why I like counseling. Being a client and being a counselor, because it was a 15 minute hour, and the rules are ends, the 15 minutes and the person goes away or I leave, you know, whichever seat I'm sitting in. And that 15 minutes can be really a great hour could be a really good conversation
worthwhile with valuable content. That if you expand that to five hours, it's diluted into kind of just a puddle on me, not you know, I'm not saying all relationships are just like a dirty puddle. But
I can just talk from my own perspective. So there are benefits possibly, of self isolation. The one I would say is don't feel guilty. Don't feel guilty for being in don't feel guilty for sleeping. When I want to go to sleep. Don't feel guilty for sleeping when it's sunny outside. Now, why should I feel guilty, I've got to be indoors. I'm allowed to go outside but only to the shops or maybe for a walk once a day. But I can't go to the park I can't you know go into town and wander around and all the things I wouldn't really want to do anyway.
So I like the idea of not feeling guilty for a little while. Because being on benefits. I feel a bit guilty for that
should be working. As always, I have my mind. I work most of my adult life. Until last five years, I should be working as code goes in my mind should should be at work should be doing something even, even if it's something horrible that I hate doing. And I spent years doing horrible jobs. But that's, that's, that's better than as bad for me than to not do anything or than to be unemployed, then I'm not not doing anything because I'm doing this. So I think
that's how I see Anyway, I'm contributing, not to the local area, but to the wider world. I need 15 people around the world, but at least it's a few few people. 15 is a nice number. So I don't feel guilty about that. At the moment, maybe I will, again, when this whole stuff is over, and everything goes back to normal. And the unemployed and the sick, going back to being the enemy of the state, the disabled, will go back to being despised like there were before this happened, looked down upon by the working the working people, and the government. Not all working people. Obviously, a lot of people are they're not very sympathetic to disabilities. And I didn't used to be, I do understand, I didn't used to be I couldn't have cared at all. When I was in my 20s could not have cared about anybody's mental disabilities didn't care, I wasn't interested. Why, why you should work, I have to work therefore you should have to work. That was my mentality. Even though I was going through my own mental health issues continuously. four cents on the child. But I didn't see it as that I just saw is this is how I am. I suppose part of me would think well, if I can get out of bed, when all I want to do is just literally just not even be alive. And I still get out of bed and go to work, then everyone else should be able to do that. They used to be the mentality. If I can stand there, keep quiet. do my job. When all I want to do is smash the crap out of the person sitting next to me or standing next to me via you know, flying. If all I do is get the computer and just smash it over the supervisors head. That was sometimes how I felt but didn't do it. And I felt the Edwin l should be able to control their tempers and keep themselves calm and relaxed. Even if they weren't inside. I had no sympathy, no empathy, no compassion for anybody with mental health issues or disabilities. I don't feel that way anymore. And I haven't done for a long time.
That's why I know that people change. That's why I think it's it's good to never give up on people. Especially on ourselves. Because we will change. We have to we've got no choice and life will change things.
I'm sure there's people that had no sympathy for someone that was in a wheelchair. And then they've ended up in a wheelchair themselves. And now they can you know, they've had no choice but to have empathy. with other people in that situation, but they just couldn't. couldn't even think about it. It just was to, to fantasy wasn't something that even seemed like it could possibly happen.
So you doing, say Happy conduct, even though the rest of the stuff between the How're you has nothing to do with how you? Maybe, but maybe it does. I like to think it all comes together eventually. Like a really, really bad movie. At the end, everything comes together. All that's what he was about. So perhaps, like me, you can, you might have felt guilty in the past, not because there's a reason to feel guilty, but perhaps because of society. Because of the way you've been treated in the past. Even for me when I was working in a charity, a charity for children, or young people, I was a counselor there. So it wasn't that long ago, 2011. I've been a counselor since 2010. And I'm not there anymore. And I was working in the reception at this children's charity, just part time, because they liked me. So they gave me a part time job after I finished college. And I was working as a counselor. So I was just about earning enough to get by start going through depression. And the manager said to me what's going on with you? Because I was, I was moody. And I said, Let's just go. Basically, it'd been a lot of stuff had happened in a short time, a girlfriend split with a girlfriend or just start a relationship with, but I've done a weapon but it didn't, didn't didn't work out. I got evicted from my home, not been in for over three years. Some other stuff as well. So it was very difficult time. Anna Sichuan, depressed, I'm depressed this guy for depression. And what she said to me is, have you have you considered killing yourself. That's what she said to me. She found that funny. This is the manager of a charity, which offers counseling for other things as well. But a big part of it is offering counseling to people that are potentially suicidal and many other issues. So she was trying to believe me, and I left. So that doesn't necessarily fit in with the guilt part. Only in the sense of even people that should know better. I don't know, I'm laughing. It's not funny, but they should really know better. Don't always even people that should really be in the know. I mean, I try not to use a word should. But if you're managing a charity that deals with vulnerable people with mental health issues. You kind of the word should, I think is valid for be aware of people's of mental illness, and possible vulnerabilities. Not just to the clients but also to the staff. And everyone there was scared of no one would do anything. So I just left
and I wonder imagine having something like that. As a family member, much in being that person's child and having depression. And having that attitude, you know, a child going into and saying, oh, I've got this pullback killing yourself.
I'm sure it wouldn't happen, I'm sure that that person wouldn't say that to someone that they cared about.
And, you know, I used to have a kind of similar attitude to that, when I was younger. I've never been in a position of authority. I've never been anyone's manager. I've managed people a little bit when I was in insurance, but only as far as looking after them and coaching them a little bit, but not, you know, maybe sort of supervisor, temporary, while one of the supervisors or the holiday and stuff in the past, Bob never had any responsibility over an employee. never had any kids never been married, I never been in a position to control another person, or to have any kind of significance to another person. So that what I said would actually mean a huge amount to that other person. Because that's a huge responsibility. And I'm so glad I didn't have that because back in the past, honestly, I may not. I have being much use, you know, in my 20s, early 20s, I like to think that I wouldn't have been awful, but I was a bit chaotic. Then I think things like empathy, compassion. Caring, is something that perhaps needs to be taught by the people that are living with you. You know, right, from an early age. And not everybody gets that today. Everyone has that opportunity to experience nice people. So maybe that's why I'm doing this now. Maybe not this particular recording, but might try to make up for my, my crappy attitude when I was younger.
But you know, there was no one to help me. And this isn't going to be for everyone. It's not going to know once or everybody's going to want to listen to some random person just Jabra norm. Some some will find it fairly. Okay, some will think it's good. I think it's the heck
but I would have liked to have had someone like me, knowing exactly meet with someone so similar to listen to when I was
a younger man. Maybe my teens early 20s. Because then I start to think maybe, oh, wait a minute.
These mood swings, this anxiety or these feelings, maybe that's what it is. Perhaps I can read up more on this. Or maybe I'll do that technique with the rolled up sock. And I should explain it so the people that don't know what it is in case you think could be rude. It's rolled up sock and used us base eat chocolate to eat each hen to activate both sides of the brain and calms you down. So just the simple, simple thing like that. There's lots of different things that I'm going to be, not necessarily introduce and be introducing to this podcast. I mean, not necessarily anything that I've ever said or done is unique in any way. kind of feel, in some ways that no one can own words. No one, you know, no one can own a sentence. I know, you can legally copyright books and say, well, I've written this, written this sentence, and, you know, I can write a paragraph and put it into Google and nothing will come up. So I can say, well, that's mine, because of it is written in a book somewhere, is probably going to come up in a Google search.
It's just a bunch of words and ideas. And I'm not really big on like owning those, and ideas and idea. If you take the idea, and it then becomes your idea. And your I, your experience of that idea will be different to my experience. So you might hear me say, Well, if you think about it, more or less people that you see in the street, at least 50% of those people who see in the street, or in a supermarket, are going to have possibly have mental health issues of some kind, or have done in the past.
You might take that on. And actually it might change your perception to a point where you don't feel so isolated. And a lot taller isolation in the current circumstances, but don't feel so alone. Don't feel like a weirdo or like all one is only me, there's no one else is going through this.
What actually there's millions and millions and millions of people that are going through this, whatever this is, but they're going through their own version of that. It's different for everyone. We don't experience it the same. It's just different. I think a lot of people, a lot of people that I've spoke to over the years, I sort of struggle with that idea that we different are noticed, and I'm not sure I'm generalizing. But over the years, I've noticed that sometimes when people talk, they assume that other people think and feel the way that they do. And they're incorrect. But maybe there's a comfort in that. The idea that we feel that other people think and feel exactly the same as we do. Maybe there's comfort in that as well. So comfort, I think in uniqueness and the idea that actually, we can't read other people's minds, and other people can't read our minds. You may say well, we know that a lot of people don't know that. actually think that they can tell what someone's thinking by the expression on their face, or by their bodily movements, or by their posture, or by voice tone. That don't know what the other person's thinking by that. And the only way you could ever get close to nine really is if you Get to know someone intimately if you're married to someone, or you've raised a child or parent, someone that you spent many, many, many hours and days and weeks and years with and he might be able to guess. still gonna be a guess. There's no way of knowing you can't know. You could say Oh, your your cross on you. You're angry. Never use the word cross but some people do. You're angry. Why? And you say yeah, and I could say you're angry because you're angry because I tipped the the been the kitchen been all over the floor and kicked all the rubbish all over the place. And poured yogurt all over the microwave it's a guess she might not be angry about that. It's a guess. She might she might say yeah, I'm angry about that. She might not be she might not be she might be angry about the fire has died in a car. And she could you know, it could be anything. What are the set of booths big tent up in the living room? You know, it could be so you don't always know why someone is angry or what they're feeling and they might agree with you say that said they might be lying.
So we don't ever really know. It doesn't really matter. Because if you say are you okay another person says yes.
There's only so much we can do if I don't tell you how you're supposed to know
so another reason not to feel guilty see are lots of reasons not to feel guilty because I don't know a big fan of guilt. Met too many people that like guilt. Like to put guilt on other people love to blame. There's a lot of blaming going on. I've done my fair share, colleague Bob revere anymore, not blaming or being blamed. Not fair. It's boring now. That's one of the benefits of getting to be an old fogy like me old, a pensioner nearly? Nearly 50 B 15. Two months, three months. Four months, May, June, July. Yeah, four months. Finally 50. So presidents will be grateful. Lots of lots of birthday cards. Thank you very much. So I'm going to go This has been a little just random, a random thing. But I think the important thing is to look after yourself, boss or take that pressure off yourself if you can. And that's why I've been talking about guilt a little bit. It's just what is it to feel guilty about anyway, in normal times, that these are not normal times. For those not listening. Or for those listening in the future, like in a year's time or 20 years time, just Google like Google is still around, but just look up 2020 you know, April 2020, and you see what's going on. And then you'll see my and everything's fine. That's good. So let that guilt go. And the question you could ask is if you've got guilt, about your lifestyle, you know, are you hurting anyone if you're not then let it go. If you are hurting someone, then it's is something you need to look into perhaps. And of course, that could mean different things to different people.
But you need to look after yourself. And these ones. This is probably going to sound a little bit rude. I don't mean it in a rude way.
Or not rude. But I'm thinking that perhaps. And I might have said this previously, I do make a lot of recordings on might have said this before.
And I'm really sad that this has happened the whole thing and said that a lot of people will be going through mental ill health, anxiety stress, possibly for the first time or a recurrence of previous stuff or fresh anxiety, financial relationship, job difficulties, all that stuff as well as bereavement as well, of course.
But out of all those people, some, there's going to be a lot of new, more compassionate people arising that can actually have a grasp of what it feels like to have mental health issues. And know that it's not just being lazy. It's not just feeling a bit down or feeling a bit Moody, or we all have moods. That's what I've been told. We all had moods that way. Yeah, yeah, we do. It's true. We do do all have moods. We all have moods, when's the last time that you stayed in bed all week, you couldn't get up. He literally nearly shut the bed because you couldn't get out of bed. He didn't eat. You only ate because your stomach was hurting so bad that you had to eat and you fell ill and dizzy and sick. So you had to force yourself to get a bad knee? The person will probably say, Well, no, I'm never that down. You know, I'll get down. But perhaps not that sounds a bit worse than just being down. So you have mood swings. When's the last time you went and spent every single penny that you've got on something that you didn't even want? And then you destroyed. Not many people do that. To have a good moment to have an you know, the runner having a good day. But there's a lot of people with bipolar that would maybe do that. On a someone that actually went out on a boat, bought a boat spent all the money that he had. And he was probably in his 60s when he did this his whole life savings, bought a boat, set fire to it. And he said it was the best fun he's ever read. Even Afterwards, he was sectioned and everything like that afterwards. But even like a few years later, he said to me, it was so much fun. Being in a good mood is not something that would lead to that. So your lead moods, no, there's a difference. I've never done anything like set fire to a boat. But then I've never had enough money to buy a boat. So I still don't think I'd do something like that. But those are some silly things over the years. very destructive things, usually aimed at myself.
So, you know, anxiety wise, or we all feel a bit anxious sometimes Tell me. Yeah, so when's the last time that you couldn't go to a family? You know, really, really important family occasion. Because your anxiety and a member of your family that was really close to you no longer really talks to you anymore because she never forgiven you. I've had that. In fact, I've had it twice for the same person. And she's funny. We're not funny, but it's it's a lack of compassion on their side I think and a lack of explanation on mine. When's the last time some an average person? Has we all have anxiety? So how often you know, how much do they avoid in their life? Realistically and there's a lot of that is now I think the public saying stuff I will almost have a bit of an eating disorder because I can't stop eating chocolate. No it's not. It's not, you know, it could be could lead to that it could be as a disorder. It depends how much you're bingeing huge and huge amounts of food every day at three o'clock in the morning and there's no one around to see you do it. And you're why 2016 yet the rest of the time you're vegan, and you eat basically just cabbage lettuce and you know, really low calorie food and no one understands why you're 26 Stone when you eat practically nothing but actually three o'clock in the morning when there's no around you empty the entire fridge danis Danny fruit
that's an eating disorder as well as many other types but some people don't realize that All I've got is kind of almost
dismissing or just dismissing it dismissing someone's real issue nice secret I'm just call a sewing the wheelchair lazy isn't
really you wouldn't go up to someone in a wheelchair and say I know how you feel. I often need to sit down
I sit down myself sometimes I just can't be bothered to walk around you wouldn't so why do people think it's okay to say we all have nodes
off you innovate depressed they already feel like going to work today. Feel phony in and I'll just watch television go on Facebook and speak to my friends maybe go to the park
I'm not dismissing their feelings because that could be depression but it could just be just a really crap day. Just a rule a feeling
was not depression it's a low day or it could be depression so who knows? Who knows. So yeah, it's so so so so so that is it. I think I think I've talked enough
at a thought I'd ever stopped talking me by have to get rid of the guilt. But look after yourself. Be kind to yourself because you deserve to be happy. That's enough. Bye
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