#104 Relaxation Hypnosis for Stress, Anxiety & Panic Attacks - "GIVE ATTENTION TO MINI ME" - (Jason Newland) (27th February 2020)

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Hello, and welcome to Jason newland.com. And Andre the ferret running around my name is Jason Newland, this is relaxation, hypnosis for stress, anxiety and panic attacks. Please only listen when you can safely Close your eyes. And it might seem like only make these recordings when Andres running around. But I don't purposely do that I'm in the process of trying to soundproof a. Although, if you don't know about this, it might make you laugh. I've got a garden shed in my bedroom, a garden shed. And I'm trying to convert it into a soundproofed recording studio. While recording, I mean, just somewhere where I can sit and record without the tiny pitter patter of baby Andres feet and various other sounds in the background. So there will come a time when Andre Won't you won't hear him in the background. So if you do like hearing him, then make the most of it. But anyway, got this technique that might be useful for you. And this is basically a technique where you can change an emotion change a feeling. So for example, and I seem to keep falling back on the example of someone you know, annoying you at work or you know, someone a friend or family saying something it's upsetting, but I guess I use my own examples of you know, that's kind of things that might have bothered me in the past something that someone said, because I can be quite. Yeah, quite oversensitive at times. And perhaps I shouldn't use the word oversensitive, but I'm a sensitive soul. So here's something there's a few different ways of changing what is not few there are millions of different ways of changing how you feel. You can change it in the moment. And by that, I mean I suppose you could actually change it while it's happening. But that's a little bit harder and I think sometimes it's useful to actually experience whatever emotions you're feeling it's healthy to be able to experience those feelings right just put press pause and put Andre in the bedroom just non stop. So there's lots of different ways you can change it. And as I was saying about the emotions, I think it's okay to feel the emotions in fact it's possibly really healthy but not to hold on to it so noticing when something is triggering a feeling of anxiety or stress or anger or whatever it
is you know that's kind of healthy to notice it and you might some people might say course I noticed it but
I think when it comes to stress levels a lot of people won't notice it until it's really high which is what happened to me my stress levels really high but I didn't notice it because I was working in sales and you know I needed to be up you know I needed to be high energy and focused and I was drinking way way too much coffee and also drinking alcohol in the evening as well. So I'm not eating particularly healthfully. I wasn't eating badly but wasn't even probably enough actually enough like proper meals. And once I started getting ill once I started having panic attacks, it's all almost felt like my my stress ability or the ability to withhold stress or withstand central broke. And remember the time you know, back in 2003 2004, almost feeling that I'd had a layer of skin removed. And I was extra sensitive, extra sensitive, not physical, actually physically as well, to be fair, was very jittery, I'd walk down the street, and I'd kind of if someone came too close to me, I jump, which is not my way, this is not how I normally would be. And so it's very, very kind of just that over sensitivity. And again, I was backtracking on a by using the word over sensitivity. It's kind of a judgment, isn't it. And I'll talk about not judging myself and not judging ourselves. So I was sensitive, I was extremely sensitive. And it seemed as if, and I talked about the calluses, you know, on the hands of someone that plays a guitar. And I've learned the guitar in the past, I wasn't a particularly good player. But I did get calluses on the fingertips, my fingertips are played, I was practicing and trying to learn it for either every three months, four months. And then I stopped. And the calluses eventually just disappeared. So my fingertips were sensitive again. But during that time, my fingertips were not sensitive, I could push them against a hard edge. And it wouldn't hurt. You know, it's tough, tough skin. Now, if I kind of get the idea, it's just an analogy, or metaphor, wherever you want to call it. But I kept the idea that I was kind of covered in calluses. Maybe emotionally, at that time, before I had the big panic attack, the first one that really sort of shook me. And it seemed that every time I had another one and another one and another one, that the calluses were just dropping off my skin, to the point where so I didn't realize I for that as being like a really bad thing to have lost that this, you know, that's the sensitivity to stress. seemed like a good thing. But actually, that's what, that's what made me Ill not being able to notice when I'd gone way beyond what was physically and emotionally healthy for me on stress levels, you know, I'd gone way beyond it. I was pushing myself I was doing really long days.
And of course, I wasn't looking after myself effects. I was drinking caffeine all day and then drinking alcohol all night. So I wasn't looking after myself, physically or emotionally, mentally in any way really. At that time, I was really reading a book, I'd watch Telly and I just get drunk or just drink. And I used to pretend to myself that wasn't getting drunk, but the reality is I was I just didn't have anybody to tell me that I was acting silly or behave, you know, behaving in a really bad manner. Because I was drinking on my own at home. Swipe, didn't have any feedback from outside. You know, it was all kind of I didn't have to face it really. You know, I wake up the next day and I forget about the evening before. What I noticed is that this is completely separate but what I noticed is later on in life
I've seen films I saw when I was drinking. And it's almost like I've not seen him before. And I had a really large collection of films on video.
Because that's all I did is basically I just watched films, watch movies, watch Telly. And that's kind of what I did for a couple of years. And drinks drunk in the evening, and then worked six days a week. So it's almost it got to the point where I was drinking so much that I was all I was watching the film. I wasn't really taking it in. So I was even desensitizing myself towards enjoying the movie. And at that time, I don't think I really enjoyed anything. The thrill of the chase the thrill of the sale, baby. But when I think about in a different way, the desensitization, the or the Ripper view of the reverse of that, you know, the calluses falling off, and then being really sensitive. It's almost on a kind of weird, maybe way, being reborn. Because that's how a baby is when a baby is born. It's sensitive. It's got new skin, isn't it? Everything's new. It's got sensitive skin, you can't, you have to check the bath water before you put the baby into the bath. Of course, part of that is because the child can't say to barfs a bit too hot, although they will go cry. So you have to you know, you have to be really careful with a baby.
When it comes to those kinds of things, and making sure that they're, you know, that they're comfortable, and why wouldn't we give ourselves the same love and attention.
And it dawned on me probably around that time, maybe 2005, that perhaps maybe 2004, that perhaps that was what I needed. That's how I needed to address it. Perhaps that would be useful to look at it in that way. In a sense of that sensitivity is not a negative thing. It's a chance to rebuild is a chance for in a sense of someone that has calluses on their hands, fingers is a chance for their fingers to heal. Because you know, a callus on a finger is almost like an injury really isn't it is a continuous injury, that continuously cats keeps getting injured. And then the skin grows over it so that you can no longer hurt your finger. Because if you kept doing it, you'd end up with no fingertip. So your body goes into action to protect you. And even if it is just on the ends of your fingers, your body knows what's what you need. So builds calluses, just like people that do bricklayers and builders and working you know work with their hands. And they perhaps got a tool that they hold regularly like a hammer or screwdriver. And they'll have calluses in the right positions for their hands. So they can use the tool without hurting themselves. Because they're continuously hurting themselves to start with. And their body realized or their mind their brain realized that that part of the body that part of the hand needed to be protected. So a callus was created out of an injured part of the body. The injury created a callus to protect that part of the body. So to have that callus to have that to protect us from stress or from feeling the stress. On one level, you know, it can be classed as a negative thing because it's it's stopping you from noticing what level you're going to and it's so you don't get don't go Don't go too far, and end up having anxiety attacks and potentially, you know, losing your job or wherever, because having a breakdown or whatever might occur if the stress levels aren't addressed on the same side on a different side, whichever way you want to go, your mind and your body is protecting you from that stress so it's kind of is it from both angles your body is protecting you. So it will give you that callus on your stress levels, so that you can handle the stress, you can handle the situations too to a point without taking any notice of it. And then your mind realizes that that's unhealthy you've gone past that level of healthiness and it stops in order to help you which means if you look at it that way or it could mean I'm on meat I'm open to what it could mean I'm just saying it could mean that your unconscious mind has allowed you to have anxiety or me to have anxiety attacks or high anxiety and stress to feel it in order to give us an opportunity to make changes or actually to force us to make changes
and I don't know about anyone else listening to this but when I first had the stress anxiety and I don't know when I first said it because I'd stress when I was I suppose all my life in a sense but this was the worst of it you know the when I was in 2002 into 2002 and the it forced me to make changes by ignored it to start with I put it down to too much coffee and just a blip that's why I put it down to a blip It was a work I just worked the longest week ever in that job just you know so I've talked about this in the past so it's in a previous recording because my whole brain just just seem to go into meltdown. I didn't know what the hell was happening. For a while I was dying. That's why for be honest, that's why for and I spoke to a friend very close friend at the time and told her what happened because I hadn't told anyone I was embarrassed. Like I didn't know how to explain it because I could not explain it to myself. And even though I've been studying hypnosis since 1998 never come across anxiety as a subject or read took much notice of stress. With I had done lots of relaxation exercises previous to get in the sales job. But not during the sales job. Which is a bit weird one because when I first got into hypnosis, the two things I realized straightaway was the usefulness of hypnosis for pain relief. And for reducing stress or one rather I would have worded it relaxation. Those were the two things that I realized hypnosis would be really, really good for and I wanted to make a relaxation recording even back then if that I did make some for myself. But yeah, this is before the wasn't before the internet but was before the internet had the facility to put recordings on there. When the average person like me could put a record in for people to hear applied.
Or, if that was available, I didn't know how to do it anyway. At that time, there were no podcasts or anything. The name didn't even exist back then. So didn't do anything to help myself. At the initial time, when I had the panic attack in 2002, by did
was very curious. I saw for configure owl really couldn't figure it out. So I just figured it must be just oblate. But it's something that I couldn't, I couldn't let go of I couldn't forget. Because I've never experienced anything like it. Not like that. That was on a different level to anything I'd had before.
And and then it happened again, I think about a week later, at work. So I assumed it was a work related thing. So I had, I didn't have any time off. I just left it I carried on. And then I hadn't a home. And that was that was when I realized that or that's when I got scared. Because I kind of I suppose I did attributed to stress levels. In a way, you know that going into without really sort of giving too much thought rather, just because I'd known that previously, I'd been always stress physically or never had anything on this level before. But for work related, because, you know, I'm pushing myself too much in I think I did start to slow down. I you know, I started not going in as early, doing less hours just doing like the normal hours, no extra hours. No overtime.
But then when I had a home and I went to the hospital to the Add emergency ward, and got tested, you know, and I said, Oh, you're fine.
And that was a horrible experience. Because not not the way I was treated because I was treated wonderfully by everyone there. But the fact that I went in there, and I was seeing pretty much straight away. Because I was you know, because of my heart I fought was I fought it was a heart attack. That's why for. And I told him that I was having palpitations and like a weird sensation in my chest, which was they saw me straightaway, pretty much. And there was a lot of people there waiting and probably been waiting there for hours. So I felt guilty. And I feel embarrassed. Because when I left, I think I think I walked back through there and I just didn't want to look at anyone because they they tested me gave me all the standard tests, heart monitor, you know, blood pressure. Nothing wrong with you must be stress. It must be an anxiety attack. That's when they first said the word anxiety attack to me. I just just come to me now. And they said go and see your doctor. Which is what I did when saw the doctor. And the thing is, after they happened again, for now, I'm not gonna go to the doctor. And I went back to work and it was it was happening at work that you know, the following week, and I went up to my boss, my supervisor, and I took them to one side and I said look, I've really been feeling ill really had these weird feelings. And it's like the old joke isn't it if I felt like I was trying to show a dog or cat trick, it was his expression of completes a mixture of disinterest And I don't know, I feel almost like always telling him that the bus driver farted on the way to work, it was almost that con, well, I probably would have got more interest from him. It just was not interested. And but I think he was maybe he just didn't relate, I didn't really have like a connection with him as a person. Just a lot younger than me, and I don't know, it was just, I don't know what it was beef like completely, not interested. So went back to work, went back and got did anything. And then I think the next day, I went to a doctor's first thing in the morning.
And I got signed off for a week or two. The doctor signed me off gave me beta blockers, which did not help at all. So I know they apparently they're really good for some people, they just didn't didn't do it for me.
And it just just got worse from there. So I won't go into more detail. I've talked about this before, but it just kind of rolled over from there. But over the years, I've learned lots of different techniques that can help to reduce the feeling of stress, or the feeling that could lead to stress. So you know, or just the feeling of stress itself, within you, as I said is millions is unlimited amounts of techniques that could be used, that have not even been created yet. That would be just another creative extension of something has already been used, which basically what creativity isn't, it's just putting things together and kind of coming up with something new. Sometimes. So this is one particular technique. And I realized that I've been talking about sensitivity and calluses, and I quite like the idea of the newborn bear the opportunity to I know it's not literally be a newborn, and I'm not talking about in a religious way, an opportunity to do something different. An opportunity to move away from what was towards kind of where you want to be. And at the same time using the space of where you are now as a bridge to get there. Because you know, this moment is the bridge to the future, always in it. And we create the bridge as we walk along. We're literally creating a road. Just before each step we take this a little bit. Remember Michael Jackson's video was it beat it. When he steps on the steps and they light up. It's almost like every step you take that step, that part of the pathway lights up. Because that's where you are now is the only part that you are in as the only place that you are now the very kind of mindfulness meditation, walking meditation, like that's where you are your left foot in front of your right for this is where I am now. So the opportunity to I guess be reborn is in every second isn't it? And every day. So we don't have to wait to there's enough money in the bank. On to a certain thing happens to make changes. And you see, you could say well, I can't, I can't afford to buy that new house for 10 years. I'm not talking about the same to go out and buy a new house tomorrow. I'm not talking about in that way. But you can make changes towards that goal. If that's one of your goals, you want But you know, it's this, this podcast isn't really about achieving financial wealth, financial wealth, as opposed to other kinds of wealth. But it is part of it is getting in touch with the fact that you choose what you do next. We all do, we choose what we do next. And I won't go into that, but I will do another time. By I have gone very deep into that idea in the past in previous recordings, you do, you choose what you do next, I need to find it so I can title it. So here's a technique, and I've done this technique with people in person. So this isn't just one of my many ideas maybe that I've just recorded and let it flow, let it fly away and be used and hope for the best.
Although it is still part of that process. But I've used this technique, not just with others, but with myself. And it can be used on lots of different things, but we can focus on stress,
a feeling a stress that you might have in your body, because it generally it presents itself in your body somewhere. Now, I understand not realize that your stress levels will very likely reduce quite a bit, when you listen to me. Just for the maybe during because my boring voice or maybe if you listen regularly, you connect these recordings and by voice with a sense of comfort and relaxation, safety, hopefully, and know that you don't have to do anything. You don't have to say anything. You don't have to be anything.
You know, you just be yourself. And nothing's expected of you. When you listen to these recordings, and it's quite off can be quite a nice feeling. And you can listen to something you can listen to me, I don't quite, I don't know if the word is prolific, but regular. What regular in the sense of I'll make quite a few recordings through throughout will not just throughout the year, but throughout the week. I'll make these generally daily or every couple of days. And so you get a different perspectives. He gets to look at things in different ways. And I think that's really healthy.
I find it's really, really good for myself to do that. Which is part of the reason why I listen to
talk radio a fair bit, because I get to listen to people's discussions who have totally different opinions. And it's I think it's fascinating seeing the dynamics and the thought processes across the continent. I don't know what the thought process is, is that you can kind of get an idea by the way the person is talking. And the way they're trying to explain themselves and yeah, so I like the idea of looking at things. Even if you don't have to agree with somebody to actually get something from what they've said. Even people that say horrible things. It's I find it interesting to sort of like what how did they come up with that? Where did they come up with that anger with that? That's just how, how does someone get themselves into such a negative mental state to have so much hatred towards a group of people or that kind of thought process?
And it does fascinate me. So you got the feeling in your body. So I'd like you to focus on If you want to apply
to focus on whatever stress level you're at now, which probably won't be particularly high, but just notice anything that's there and search for it. Search for look for. And, you know, generally, it presents itself physically. So it could be in your lower back being a stomach, being your chest, and your throat in your jaw, shoulders, hands, your eyes, your forehead. You know, it could present itself as your eyes being strained or aka a mild headache, I mean, is unlikely you're going to have that. If you lay in there, or sitting there with your eyes closed, for the last 36 minutes, you probably I hopefully, you'll be quite relaxed. But nevertheless, if you're up for it, maybe focus on your body. And just notice any part of your body that feels the part that feels the most unrelaxed, let's say, anyway, that may be you generally holds stress, because we all have stress, nobody is completely stress free. We need a degree of stress in our bodies in order to function in order first move around, and the muscles to work and all that stuff to have alertness.
If we're completely, totally relaxed the whole time, we possibly wouldn't be able to get out of bed,
we just be floppy, like a like a blue Munch, or a jellyfish. So it's a bit weird a jellyfish in a bed be a strange one.
So I died to focus on that part. And all you do is just focus on it. When you focus on it, something happens, because it starts first we notice it's changing, does not stay the same. And that feeling tends to move tends to move around. So it might start in your stomach. But then as you focus on it, and you give it the spotlight that perhaps it wants, which is why it's try and get your attention it wants to spotlight just wants your attention. Once you give it your attention, like your little baby that's crying. Sometimes you don't need to do anything, you just gotta go in, pick your baby up. And then a baby's happy again, because the baby's got your attention. But the baby will possibly cry and cry and cry and cry until he gets your attention. Which can also almost be like how the stress is, is almost yelling and crying to get your attention. But it doesn't want anything, just wants your attention. just wants to be acknowledged. Just once. Maybe could be even might sound weird, but maybe just wants your love just wants to be recognized, wants to be included, you know, doesn't want to be ignored. being ignored can be quite horrible for the people. So why would it be any different for our feelings, our own feelings. So you give it attention, you put the spotlight on it, and you give it attention. And not only does it kind of reduce the level reduces, but it changes in moves.
Sometimes it might move into your leg or it might move into your hand. And you just follow it to wherever it's coming. Follow it's where it is now. And you put that spotlight on it again. Maybe you can say hi. You're giving it attention. You're not ignoring it. You're not pushing it away. You're not trying to hold on to it,
you're accepting it. And then it may be it moves to another part of your body.
And you can put a spotlight on that part of the body. By the way that is in your mind, you're not HD, you don't need an extra spotlight. So I'll be moving around your body, because that would be way too much effort. As you focus on it maybe moves down to your feet, or moves into your hands. And the whole time, there's no part of you that's trying to get rid of it.
You're not trying to reduce it, you're just you're just giving it attention, or you're given attention. Just given our attention, to shine that, shining that light on it.
And notice where else it moves to. And as it moves around, it reduces, naturally seems to. And that seems to happen every time. And it's it stopped crying. Because that little baby is no longer anxious or stressed or angry, or confused, or whatever the emotional baby's got going on. There may be mixture of emotions. But once the baby baby sees your face, maybe you don't have to hold the baby maybe just say Hello little Jason.
You could go as far as to actually name it. Little you. Mini me, you know? Because it is you, as you say inside you These feelings are you these emotions are you. They belong to you. They're not alien. I don't belong to anyone else. I just feelings. Once you kind of give her a little bit of a bit of attention, a little bit of you know, spin a spotlight on so many me. You I stopped crying stops quiet emotions calm now. Then you can follow it around, you can you know follow it around different parts where you can just say, Well, I'm happy with how it feels now is stop crying. It's not giving me doesn't really need attention at the moment. So and you can just leave it alone. And then just be in there to pay attention. Whenever you have those feelings again, and sitting with it.
And just saying hi, mini me. I'm here until that policy stops crying. So I'm gonna lead you on that. It's just an idea. You can play around with it
or not. It's totally up to you. So I'm going to leave you and I'm going to speak to you very soon.
Thank you for listening. Remember, you know I'm going to say next if you listen regularly.
Remember, remember remember to be kind to yourself because you deserve to be happy. And this means actually doing something nice for yourself today. Or if you're listening to this late at night. Do something nice for yourself tomorrow. Give yourself a little tree something where you feel it gives you a lift, an emotional lift. Thank you for listening bye

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